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GF cries alot around period time. Living together.
It is getting difficult to predict but some immediate causes were 1) not realizing she wanted a hug when she was sick one time 2) every time I use a skillet/fry food she wants me to leave some or cries 3) she asks me to edit her paper and then cries when I walk through the errors with her without praising her first 4) When she was frustrated, she suggested that I don't cook for her and then immediately regretted saying it and cried 5) We are cleaning together, she says I can go eat a snack but there is a misunderstanding and she thinks I'll come back before finishing the snack (a fruit) so she comes to my room and cries
I am noticing some patterns that she associates my cooking/giving her food with love. And she seems to cry more when I fail to recognize she wants company/attention/help around her period time. Seems to have some memories of missing her mom and crying as a child.
How do I navigate this? She is significantly older than me. I'm her first guy and I was not mentally prepared for this amount of crying. My only plan now is to keep track of when she is on her period so I am at least more mentally aware of when crying is more likely.
How do I predict and prevent the next crying?
It is getting difficult to predict but some immediate causes were 1) not realizing she wanted a hug when she was sick one time 2) every time I use a skillet/fry food she wants me to leave some or cries 3) she asks me to edit her paper and then cries when I walk through the errors with her without praising her first 4) When she was frustrated, she suggested that I don't cook for her and then immediately regretted saying it and cried 5) We are cleaning together, she says I can go eat a snack but there is a misunderstanding and she thinks I'll come back before finishing the snack (a fruit) so she comes to my room and cries
I am noticing some patterns that she associates my cooking/giving her food with love. And she seems to cry more when I fail to recognize she wants company/attention/help around her period time. Seems to have some memories of missing her mom and crying as a child.
How do I navigate this? She is significantly older than me. I'm her first guy and I was not mentally prepared for this amount of crying. My only plan now is to keep track of when she is on her period so I am at least more mentally aware of when crying is more likely.
How do I predict and prevent the next crying?
