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Ramp up sexual tension before or after pulling?

Aquila

Space Monkey
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Hey guys,

I love creating sexual tension with girls I go out with, usually through strong eye contact, some light touches and sensual tonality, and I can easily make girls horny this way. However, I'm still inexperienced in escalation and one thing I never really understood is: should I ramp up the sexual tension prior to pulling her home, or only do that once we are isolated, preferably at my place?

If I ramp up the sexual tension before pulling, then she'd already know what we would end up doing when I suggest "doing things" at my place, and may put up resistance (I get this a lot with inexperienced, conservative girls, which makes inviting them home very difficult). I remember Chase wrote about making the girl feels uncertain about where this would end up, and making the invitation a playful one rather than a sexually charged one, though I may have misinterpreted what he actually meant.

On the other hand, if I don't create the sexual tension early on, then she would probably not be horny enough to want to go home with me, and it'd feel weird for us when I suddenly change the tone after arriving at my place.

Would appreciate some advice from anyone experienced in this. Thanks!
 

Dude909

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Both. Just use à bullshit excuse to go back to your place, e.g. "Let's go try that new liquor I just bought" and not "come up so we can fuck"
 

Aquila

Space Monkey
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Dude909 said:
Both. Just use à bullshit excuse to go back to your place, e.g. "Let's go try that new liquor I just bought" and not "come up so we can fuck"

Thanks. I am having lots of trouble with calibrating to just the right amount of sexual tension. Many girls (usually the shy, conservative ones that I tend to attract) who were so clearly attracted to me (all the shy, nervous signs when talking to me, or the sneaky glances when I'm around, or the strong sexual vibe that both of us could feel) always bail out whenever I suggest we go to my place "for a movie"/whatever. It seems like they kind of know what's going to happen due to my rather sexually aggressive vibe.
 
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