Random message on Facebook

[rav2114]

Hello everyone, I am a lil confused I got a message from a old girl I hooked up with.. Cant really understand why?

Let's go 6 months ago... Long story short... Met this girl on tinder... Went out first night, we had sex that night., (I know I know I didn't create rapport).

After that nite everything went down south.
We went on a date, and at the end of the night, i went in for the kiss..Denied... talked to me about what happend the night we went out... End result, basically friendzoned me.. So I never talked to her, again after that.

Now 6 months later she sends me a message on Facebook, recently...
Saying :

"Hey i hope everything is well for you David. I just wanted to say hi and wish you luck on everything..."

I respond:
"thank you.... Hope everything is well"

She responds:
"thanks David "

End convo..

I mean i know it's sounds stupid of me asking, but may I have a chance here?.....

Wanna hear opinions...

Thanks in advance

 

[Smith]

I think she was probing to see if you were still interested without putting herself out there too much. You can give it another shot if you want.

 

[trashKENNUT]

rav2114,

I think she was probing to see if you were still interested without putting herself out there too much. You can give it another shot if you want.

I second this one, but becareful. You might be a good use for something else, like sales? Anyway, i don't want to jump in too fast but when you fucked up the first time, it usually happens that she just want to get something back, whether sex, power, sales, backup plan, etc.

Funny enough, Anatman just noted this on recent article, on a girl wanting sex from him as power. For him, he already past it. SO he doesn't really care if he gives her sex. But it is petty when you keep it going for too long.

But yea, you might find yourself be a backburner. Just be aware of it, at least.

Zac

 

[rav2114]

lol...... sales, I really doubt it.... it's funny this has never happened to me, usually when i fuck up like i clearly did.... i move on...

But i am curious..i do want to give this another shot....


I don't even know how to approch this.

Any ideas....

 

[ray_zorse]

I think what's happened is you connected with her well on the date but didn't show sexual intent / value... so she denied the kiss but wanted to keep you in the friendzone slot. You also, instead of NEXTing her after the date, indulged her in a discussion of what went wrong, further cementing your orbiter value. But after this, you were too smart for her machinations, and let things die. Now she's probing to see if you will still offer her any friend/orbiter value. The "wish you luck on everything" part is a clue here -- that's what girls say when they're basically telling you to fuck off. So subliminially she's also inserted a "fuck off" tone in her msg.
Ray

 

[rav2114]

Ray, so basically... Hey how are you I wanna be you friend, again but fuck off!? I don't see the need to message a person after 6 months and tell them just be friends again...

 

[trashKENNUT]

I don't even know how to approch this.

Any ideas....

"Maybe we should hang out some time ". Kind of restarting the whole thing. Gauging where she's at.

Zac

 

[NarrowJ]

Hey rav,

Being that you had sex on date 1, she obviously saw you as a lover and not a provider or boyfriend type. Then, I'm guessing one of two things happened:

- You started doing some boyfriend-y type stuff which then caused her to slot you as a long-term partner, or
- She felt a bit of buyer's remorse

Judging by your explanation of the nature of how the second date went, I'd guess it was buyer's remorse.

Ray is correct that she sort of gave you a subtle "fuck off" with the wish you luck on everything comment. I wouldn't worry about it too much though, as it sounds like you may have a good amount of abundance since you can take women out on a first date and get sex. On to the next one!

That said, if you do want to know how to handle these situations in the future, this article may help: What to Do When She Gets Back in Touch


Cheers!
J.J.

 

[ray_zorse]

I read the message quickly and missed the first part where you said that sex occurred, my apologies for that, so I was not correct in saying you only connected with her as friend. But it does appear that's what was going on later when she denied the kiss, anyway, when I used the word "subliminal" I meant that she calculatingly messaged you to try to cement your spot in her back pocket, but then didn't know what to say exactly and unwittingly revealed her true emotions by her choice of words. Anyway it's a weird one, that's just my read.
Ray

 

[rav2114]

Thanks guys for the feed back; you know what fuck it.. i am gonna go for it, obviously not now, since its to soon. ....I mean I don't really have anything to lose... she was already gone in my mind... probably gonna invite her for something casual... coffee or what not... and act like nothing ever happend and move on from there...

Ether way I am talking to this other girl... I dunno why this one is just messing with my mind.....

Keep you guys posted