Rapport at the first meeting vs Rapport at the first date

[Witcher]

Hello, everyone,

Background:
Working on my approaches, conversation, and dates running. I currently use the Girlfriend in two weeks process or the Compression Dates one. Which means I always have an initial approach ( on warm approach at various events) and then informational dates for another day.

My interrogations:
First, In the article about approaching Chase gives the following advice that makes me a little confused:

#9: BUILD SOME RAPPORT
This is where deep diving really comes into its own.

Depending on how you're doing your approaching, you'll want to build either a lot of rapport or a little rapport. It breaks down generally like this:

If you approach a girl to get a phone number and set up a date for later, you'll only want to build a little rapport - enough to get her interested in talking to you, but not so much that there's a big emotional buildup that goes disappointingly unreleased when you simply take her number and walk away

If you approach a girl on the other hand with the object of making things happen immediately - e.g., you're going to see how far you can take this interaction today or tonight, and see if you can keep things moving right up until she comes to your place or you go to her place - then you'll want to get a lot of rapport going - as much as you can, really

#10: CLOSE AND GET OUT, OR MOVE THINGS ALONG
If you want to avoid our error #4 above - not closing things out well - that means you'll need to be moving quickly and capitalizing on a good interaction, by doing one of two things:

Proposing the two of you meet again (a date), grabbing her contact details, and saying goodbye, or

Deciding you're going to see how far you can go with her right now, and getting things moving - to sitting down somewhere to talk first, and back to your place or her place a little later

What's the difference between the rapport we should have on the initial approach and the one we do during the date? How deep we should go on the first meeting vs on the first date and what are the best question for this phase, and what are the best questions to keep for later? Any good example to provide?

Second questions, It happens a lot to me that when I met a girl in an event, I will talk to her and be with her for a longer time than few minutes even having the launch with her, should I consider that our "first date" and run it like an informational date? I speak here in the case that I will not be able to bring her to my place or going to her for logistical reasons.

Waiting for your comments!
Thank you !

Links:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... xt-2-weeks
https://www.girlschase.com/content/havin ... ounts-time
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... are-easily

 

[lostnumber]

Basically the level of rapport you are building should depend on whether you are going to try and close the deal or not. What chase is saying is that if you are in a scenario where you aren't going to pull a girl and try to sleep with her that day, its better to keep some distance so that you can generate that feeling of strong connection and emotions when you are ready to escalate.

If you know there is no logistical possibility of pulling a girl you dont want to dive as deep as you would otherwise. If you are spending extended periods of time talking and even getting lunch together I would say that yes, this very much counts as a date and you should run it as an informational date

One thing to note is that building rapport is an incredibly useful skill in every social scenario, and its much better in my opinion to build too much rather than too little. So if you arent sure I would err on the side of a stronger connection always

 

[Witcher]

Basically the level of rapport you are building should depend on whether you are going to try and close the deal or not. What chase is saying is that if you are in a scenario where you aren't going to pull a girl and try to sleep with her that day, its better to keep some distance so that you can generate that feeling of strong connection and emotions when you are ready to escalate.

If you know there is no logistical possibility of pulling a girl you dont want to dive as deep as you would otherwise. If you are spending extended periods of time talking and even getting lunch together I would say that yes, this very much counts as a date and you should run it as an informational date

One thing to note is that building rapport is an incredibly useful skill in every social scenario, and its much better in my opinion to build too much rather than too little. So if you arent sure I would err on the side of a stronger connection always

Yeah I would think the same, more rapport better than not.
And for the warm approaches I always find myself in delicate situation of do I eject or do I stay when I am at an event. Because sometiems leaving feels weird if we are in the same group or if I will re encouter the girl several time during the night or afternoon.

Any suggestions?