Still don't have a phone but I havent been "approaching" Ive been being more social with people in general. Also got a new security gig for events so its awesome. Also I've hit a new level for my fundamentals but I feel like my game has degraded in the mean time. I've spoken to random girls and I don't feel nervous starting conversations its more like okay what can I say. I need to work on more stuff!
So today only made one approach. It was short and sweet. A girl got on the bus as I was heading home from the gym and I looked but made sure not to check her out. Just used the corners of my eyes to check as she got on and walked past me. I didn't want to approach on the bus i decided to wait till we got off. So shes sitting a couple of seats behind me and i let her out first because someone else had to get out. I just say fuck it I'm gonna stick to my decision. Little do I know I get an invitation and approach unsmoothly. I walk a bit faster and say hey i thought you were cute blah blah I'm Raqimus. Who are you? She gives me her name but we don't shake. I could of done that. Shes open and very giggly but she just turned 18 and is still in high school. I'm not interested in high school because her logistics are probably as crap as mine. And you know what now that i think about it... I could of just tried harder. I was making an excuse for myself. Either way I ended it by saying yea your just a little too young for me but your still pretty, have a good night. Then i left.
Talked to one girl yesterday and got her number, this was as she was on her way to her date and I smelled like horse shit because I had no deodorant and went to the gym. Didn't respond to the ice breaker. I felt i didn't end the interaction well, I should of used touch when we parted it would of made things better.
Today there were three girls I should of approached but did not, besides them I only made one approach. For one of the girls I didn't approach, she seemed familiar like she was in the store before. She gave some signs for me not to doubt it but indecision was my enemy. After trying to help her she refused she did stop a bit of a ways in front of me and did that look thing girls do when they want you to approach. But I didn't, she shortly moved on. I'm thinking of just telling them to come over to me next time but I don't know if its too forward for work, a bit more careful there lol.
Another girl dressed very sexily, we talked a bit and she overshared when i was helping her and she also kept close proximity. I should of tried but I didn't, I didn't let the conversation naturally fall into place. What I'm trying to do now is have the conversation continue while also naturally being able to ask them out. Like Talk make convo, convey interest, ask out. Now I think I just figured out gonna go back to innuendos hahahah and use body language.
Another girl was as i was going on break, and she was fucking sexy smoking her cig. She did the hair flip and turned around to the glass door near her so i could check out her ass, while she of course saw me looking in the window. She hair flipped again but I fucking auto rejected. In my head I said "she must be waiting for her boyfriend." It did seem like she was waiting but I should of talked to her and found out the reason and made her mine.
The girl i approached i just made sure i had to, I fucking needed to. She was okay and was neutral at first till i turned on the sexy eyes and then she changed her tune. I lead her away to show her some stuff and made some convo and it kind of died out like she was expecting something. I should of made the move there but I haven't found a socially savvy way of doing so, so instead of doing nothing next time i need to just try something. So after walking away, not too far tho, i deliberate on what to do and I turn around and say i have to. I say "Just out of curiosity were you single by any chance?" She said she wasn't. I was happy i asked but still angry with myself.
Angry because i asked if she was single and i told myself I need to figure out another way to get to the point without asking if they were single because frankly, I don't give a fuck if they are single or not, it has no meaning and out of an auto response I eject, just from getting it at work I don't pester but on the street i could push it out. But i'd rather just avoid the whole issue. So now it's show interest and get to the point without asking if they are single.
I have the ability to recognize these things but my problem is a lack of action due to fear or failure which is irrational hahahhaa
Today there were three girls I should of approached but did not, besides them I only made one approach. For one of the girls I didn't approach, she seemed familiar like she was in the store before. She gave some signs for me not to doubt it but indecision was my enemy. After trying to help her she refused she did stop a bit of a ways in front of me and did that look thing girls do when they want you to approach. But I didn't, she shortly moved on. I'm thinking of just telling them to come over to me next time but I don't know if its too forward for work, a bit more careful there lol.
Another girl dressed very sexily, we talked a bit and she overshared when i was helping her and she also kept close proximity. I should of tried but I didn't, I didn't let the conversation naturally fall into place. What I'm trying to do now is have the conversation continue while also naturally being able to ask them out. Like Talk make convo, convey interest, ask out. Now I think I just figured out gonna go back to innuendos hahahah and use body language.
Another girl was as i was going on break, and she was fucking sexy smoking her cig. She did the hair flip and turned around to the glass door near her so i could check out her ass, while she of course saw me looking in the window. She hair flipped again but I fucking auto rejected. In my head I said "she must be waiting for her boyfriend." It did seem like she was waiting but I should of talked to her and found out the reason and made her mine.
The girl i approached i just made sure i had to, I fucking needed to. She was okay and was neutral at first till i turned on the sexy eyes and then she changed her tune. I lead her away to show her some stuff and made some convo and it kind of died out like she was expecting something. I should of made the move there but I haven't found a socially savvy way of doing so, so instead of doing nothing next time i need to just try something. So after walking away, not too far tho, i deliberate on what to do and I turn around and say i have to. I say "Just out of curiosity were you single by any chance?" She said she wasn't. I was happy i asked but still angry with myself.
Angry because i asked if she was single and i told myself I need to figure out another way to get to the point without asking if they were single because frankly, I don't give a fuck if they are single or not, it has no meaning and out of an auto response I eject, just from getting it at work I don't pester but on the street i could push it out. But i'd rather just avoid the whole issue. So now it's show interest and get to the point without asking if they are single.
I have the ability to recognize these things but my problem is a lack of action due to fear or failure which is irrational hahahhaa
Feeling good. So only really found two girls attractive and i talked to them. Recently watched an episode from izombie and combining it with finishing the wise mans fear (Book) really helped put some things in perspective. It showed me that it's okay to be flirty like i guess reading through stuff on here I've been too subtle. So I've been a bit more obvious and more brazen. Gonna detail bellow.
So the first girl was an asian girl who needed help, i noticed her when i was helping someone else but just said shell eventually make it over to where I'm at. Sipping forward a bit i try to help her out and she denies but then asks for help. I lead her over to the lighting stuff and we make small talk about why shes here, etc. Now we are pretty close and its good tension. So after i begin to walk away but then i just turn around. I don't remember how I opened but we exchanged names and i told her basically what i thought. And she adopted the whole shy but interested body language. I asked her out and she said she was busy, she was leaving town tonight blah blah. I was going to keep talking and see if i persist but a coworker walk by, hes my friend but i can't fully trust em. So i don't persist. As i'm walking away shes looking down and giving me the eyes with a sly smile. I wanted to persist and say okay we'll just meet after i get out of work. And if not there we'll we can just talk for five minutes etc. I wanted to keep pushing it but work is tricky.
The next girl I really don't remember but things were going well, i was in the same vibe as the girl before and it went good.
What I've been trying to do is just keep that vibe and stop limiting my flirting. Why worry about reputation when i'm not even reputable, ya know? I've just been more flirty without holding back, less standoffish, it's like I'm showing interest without taking away too much. Woman are standing closer, its just better and I'm still gonna work on it.
So the first girl was an asian girl who needed help, i noticed her when i was helping someone else but just said shell eventually make it over to where I'm at. Sipping forward a bit i try to help her out and she denies but then asks for help. I lead her over to the lighting stuff and we make small talk about why shes here, etc. Now we are pretty close and its good tension. So after i begin to walk away but then i just turn around. I don't remember how I opened but we exchanged names and i told her basically what i thought. And she adopted the whole shy but interested body language. I asked her out and she said she was busy, she was leaving town tonight blah blah. I was going to keep talking and see if i persist but a coworker walk by, hes my friend but i can't fully trust em. So i don't persist. As i'm walking away shes looking down and giving me the eyes with a sly smile. I wanted to persist and say okay we'll just meet after i get out of work. And if not there we'll we can just talk for five minutes etc. I wanted to keep pushing it but work is tricky.
The next girl I really don't remember but things were going well, i was in the same vibe as the girl before and it went good.
What I've been trying to do is just keep that vibe and stop limiting my flirting. Why worry about reputation when i'm not even reputable, ya know? I've just been more flirty without holding back, less standoffish, it's like I'm showing interest without taking away too much. Woman are standing closer, its just better and I'm still gonna work on it.
Been getting back into the swing of things. Working to make sure I don't go on "dates" in order to stay all in the lover category. Been on a couple dates and I was actually scared to make a move its been a while, and its kinda refreshing being afraid. Gotta train back up to it. Also somethings just on point even when my fashions shitty i guess my grooming is good.
Been approaching and still trying to be more polarizing. Saying dirtier shit, I still need to try more things to be more polarizing.
Been approaching and still trying to be more polarizing. Saying dirtier shit, I still need to try more things to be more polarizing.
Gotta start recording shit here again. Best growth.
So I've been approaching on campus, I go to a huge fucking school.
So at parties its mostly absorbing the vibe and throwing it out. I just talk to a lot of girls and joke sexually and I usually get compliance through high fives. I try to pull girls close some girls come others don't. I can maybe work on a better way to get them closer. I've had makeouts and shit but no lays from going to the daydrinks or night drinks. Also not many responses from the numbers I grab there... Maybe more of a connection but i attribute it to my campus being so large and them girls having options. I gotta work harder.
Last night, which was friday I met a french girl and the vibe was on. Very close and good eye contact, she didn't have a phone so we couldnt exchange numbers or nothing. I kept trying to figure out how we could contact each other because I wanted her. We had our own bubble going and she ended up getting my number on her friends phone. I ended up telling her that "I would kiss her but her friends were here" or something like that. She says she only kisses on the second date. Then I said i kiss on the first there isn't usually a second date. Implying that we are already having sex. So she ends up leaving with her friends and i turn my attention elsewhere. Then she comes and kisses me on the chick and lets her hand linger from my shoulder to my bottom, then she runs off. She is so charming. I don't remember her name lol.
Next there were a couple of groups i approached but i don't know the order. One was with some girl being bitchy at me but i just stuck it out and was having fun with it. She eventually turned back into group and i stood there laughing a bit before heading back to my group.
Another time i had appraoched a group of two and it was going real well. I decided we should move further in and as we were trying to do that. We got seperated. Next time gotta make sure we hold hands.
Another group i approached had some big girls, i approached after one of the girls was adjusting her pants so she was just shaking her ass. I went and told her it was amazing etc and me and my suitemate thats gay just kept talking. Hes a good wingman.
It was usually me going into the groups and having him come in and follow up and we all just conversate while i usually end up saying some real sexual or weird shit.
Oh I also had a "fuck you battle" with this girl i keep seeing. I say that her and her roomate are stalking me because they so obviously are hahaha. We were basically just finding different ways to give each other the finger it lasted a minute, it was fun. She also stopped by the room today with my suitemates, they met up at the tailgate which i skipped. She saw me shirtless, and then without my shorts on cause i had to shower. And im pretty sure that ignited the sexual spark I knew was there. We were just making conversation and I can tell its on, just a matter of time... I also think its on with her roomate, once again just a matter of time hahaha.
I've gotten good at approaching and just being me. I can go in confident and pull in a group and have them running on my time. I get compliance through little things like high fives, I think I can do more. I can get them conversating and following my lead but i can do more when it comes to compliance because I still haven't gotten laid through it. There is still something missing. I'm going to figure it out.
So I've been approaching on campus, I go to a huge fucking school.
So at parties its mostly absorbing the vibe and throwing it out. I just talk to a lot of girls and joke sexually and I usually get compliance through high fives. I try to pull girls close some girls come others don't. I can maybe work on a better way to get them closer. I've had makeouts and shit but no lays from going to the daydrinks or night drinks. Also not many responses from the numbers I grab there... Maybe more of a connection but i attribute it to my campus being so large and them girls having options. I gotta work harder.
Last night, which was friday I met a french girl and the vibe was on. Very close and good eye contact, she didn't have a phone so we couldnt exchange numbers or nothing. I kept trying to figure out how we could contact each other because I wanted her. We had our own bubble going and she ended up getting my number on her friends phone. I ended up telling her that "I would kiss her but her friends were here" or something like that. She says she only kisses on the second date. Then I said i kiss on the first there isn't usually a second date. Implying that we are already having sex. So she ends up leaving with her friends and i turn my attention elsewhere. Then she comes and kisses me on the chick and lets her hand linger from my shoulder to my bottom, then she runs off. She is so charming. I don't remember her name lol.
Next there were a couple of groups i approached but i don't know the order. One was with some girl being bitchy at me but i just stuck it out and was having fun with it. She eventually turned back into group and i stood there laughing a bit before heading back to my group.
Another time i had appraoched a group of two and it was going real well. I decided we should move further in and as we were trying to do that. We got seperated. Next time gotta make sure we hold hands.
Another group i approached had some big girls, i approached after one of the girls was adjusting her pants so she was just shaking her ass. I went and told her it was amazing etc and me and my suitemate thats gay just kept talking. Hes a good wingman.
It was usually me going into the groups and having him come in and follow up and we all just conversate while i usually end up saying some real sexual or weird shit.
Oh I also had a "fuck you battle" with this girl i keep seeing. I say that her and her roomate are stalking me because they so obviously are hahaha. We were basically just finding different ways to give each other the finger it lasted a minute, it was fun. She also stopped by the room today with my suitemates, they met up at the tailgate which i skipped. She saw me shirtless, and then without my shorts on cause i had to shower. And im pretty sure that ignited the sexual spark I knew was there. We were just making conversation and I can tell its on, just a matter of time... I also think its on with her roomate, once again just a matter of time hahaha.
I've gotten good at approaching and just being me. I can go in confident and pull in a group and have them running on my time. I get compliance through little things like high fives, I think I can do more. I can get them conversating and following my lead but i can do more when it comes to compliance because I still haven't gotten laid through it. There is still something missing. I'm going to figure it out.
just not too often because I don't want the (drunk) girls to spin and fall lol.
Hola, been busy in a good way. Writing this now to remind myself to write up these LRs. I need to write about Daydrink girl, Asian club girl, quirky girl, french club girl, tree girl, ginger girl, and concert girl. I feel like I'm forgetting one or two more, so I'm going to try and remember. Also pretty sure that's the correct order. I've already either reached or am about to reach my goal for this year of 10 girls. Wow, I'm probably going to be studying abroad in Brazil next semester so that is going to be fun. Also gonna write up a FU's, one with an Indonesian girl, a Spanish club girl, and whatever other ones I remember. Look forward to them!
Hola, back in the city so it's time to mingle. Went out today and talked to four girls, went nowhere but it was a good warmup. The first girl was warm and held my hand when we shaked, good eye contact and was open. I talked to her after she crossed the street because I saw an invitation as I was walking towards the corner where she was going to cross. I stopped her with the policeman stop from the side, told her she was gorgeous and she melted, we exchanged names and i asked if she was single and she was not so I told her good day and moved on.
The next girl was a retail associate that was trying to give away free products, based on how she opened me and the eye contact i interrupted her and just asked if she was single, she was not but she was flattered, maybe I read it wrong? Then I moved the convo back to the product and she hooked me up with an additional sample. Her eye contact after i asked if she was single was a little bit less because she would break to the side so I gave the eye contact a break and she re initiated stronger so we held a bit longer, I joked with her about she thinks my skin looks bad etc, and she laughed and was like noo, etc, etc. Got the product felt like the convo was ending so I left.
Next girl was as I was walking, I just asked if she was single and she started laughing, I found it funny so i started laughing too. I said "Funny?" and she talked for a bit but i wasn't paying attention but she wasn't single. I left it at that.
Next girl was a weak approach, I first talked to her outside of a gym to find out about the membership costs because I need to workout again. I wasn't trying to approach her then but afterwards I thought why the heck not. Later as I came out I walked down a street saw her again and she looked lost and so was I. Tried to stop her but I was tired and I came off weak, she had headphones in and didn't hear me. I came in from the side and tried to stop her with a hand, maybe she saw, maybe she didn't. It's cool.
So my goals for the rest of May are to lay 1 new girl, I don't have a job yet or any responsibilities so gonna try to go out everyday, just walk and see what happens. Gonna try for instant lays or public sex cause my place is a no go. I don't wan't to go on dates. I've done day and night game. Gonna do both while I'm back home probably stick to the streets because I am too cheap to pay entrance fee to a club or bar. I prefer clubs anyway. I have a problem when it comes to deciding who to approach. Sometimes I'll get an invitation but I want to check her out to see if shes worth the time but by then shes already past. Writing this now I realize the best way to check her out is to approach her in the first place lol. Also I need to be more aware because there will be hot girls walking on the other side of the street or something and I won't notice. That being said girls check me out, but I wait too long deciding if shes worth the approach. Just gonna start think-do and I think it's mainly because I'm getting back into the swing a bit. May take a couple outings.
Also, gonna try to write up some LR's from last semester, I've got about 8+ to write, but I'm pretty lazy, so we'll see how that goes lol.
The next girl was a retail associate that was trying to give away free products, based on how she opened me and the eye contact i interrupted her and just asked if she was single, she was not but she was flattered, maybe I read it wrong? Then I moved the convo back to the product and she hooked me up with an additional sample. Her eye contact after i asked if she was single was a little bit less because she would break to the side so I gave the eye contact a break and she re initiated stronger so we held a bit longer, I joked with her about she thinks my skin looks bad etc, and she laughed and was like noo, etc, etc. Got the product felt like the convo was ending so I left.
Next girl was as I was walking, I just asked if she was single and she started laughing, I found it funny so i started laughing too. I said "Funny?" and she talked for a bit but i wasn't paying attention but she wasn't single. I left it at that.
Next girl was a weak approach, I first talked to her outside of a gym to find out about the membership costs because I need to workout again. I wasn't trying to approach her then but afterwards I thought why the heck not. Later as I came out I walked down a street saw her again and she looked lost and so was I. Tried to stop her but I was tired and I came off weak, she had headphones in and didn't hear me. I came in from the side and tried to stop her with a hand, maybe she saw, maybe she didn't. It's cool.
So my goals for the rest of May are to lay 1 new girl, I don't have a job yet or any responsibilities so gonna try to go out everyday, just walk and see what happens. Gonna try for instant lays or public sex cause my place is a no go. I don't wan't to go on dates. I've done day and night game. Gonna do both while I'm back home probably stick to the streets because I am too cheap to pay entrance fee to a club or bar. I prefer clubs anyway. I have a problem when it comes to deciding who to approach. Sometimes I'll get an invitation but I want to check her out to see if shes worth the time but by then shes already past. Writing this now I realize the best way to check her out is to approach her in the first place lol. Also I need to be more aware because there will be hot girls walking on the other side of the street or something and I won't notice. That being said girls check me out, but I wait too long deciding if shes worth the approach. Just gonna start think-do and I think it's mainly because I'm getting back into the swing a bit. May take a couple outings.
Also, gonna try to write up some LR's from last semester, I've got about 8+ to write, but I'm pretty lazy, so we'll see how that goes lol.
Didn't go out to approach today instead I went out to run some errands. I had about 2 hours or so of sleep. Flirted with my new doctors assistant and her tone and signals made me think she wanted more, but I don't want to burn bridges at a doctors office, especially if its my first time meeting him. I've been adjusting to being back in the city instead of the college city. The city was huge but it had a different vibe to it, here it feels different. Been trying to just think of the two as the same and noting differences. A lot less general anxiousness when walking around, maybe it was because i was too tired to be anxious. Girls were checking me out, etc, i was flirting/talking back but didn't really push anything. This was mostly with hired hands, like i said, didn't cold approach today. Too tired.
Girl from a year ago hit me up on snapchat, i'd applied for a job where she works and she just messaged me to tell me. I didn't care, so at first i replied back but i guess i sounded dismissive. Tried to change the tone and see how it progressess. I fucked up with this girl at the last 5%. She said I don't know at the end of our date to going back to her place or something like that and I thought I was playing it cool. I kissed her on the neck and left when i should of fucked the shit out of her.
I've had a problem where i may do something to not be needy but it backfires and sends the girl into autorejection. Auto rejection has also happend when i was testing out tension, getting to the max point then breaking it. turns out I'm really good at building tension fast, and i don't need to play with fractionation, lost a easy lay with a hot girl because of that. I'll probably write one big post with a couple FU's from the semester as well.
Girl from a year ago hit me up on snapchat, i'd applied for a job where she works and she just messaged me to tell me. I didn't care, so at first i replied back but i guess i sounded dismissive. Tried to change the tone and see how it progressess. I fucked up with this girl at the last 5%. She said I don't know at the end of our date to going back to her place or something like that and I thought I was playing it cool. I kissed her on the neck and left when i should of fucked the shit out of her.
I've had a problem where i may do something to not be needy but it backfires and sends the girl into autorejection. Auto rejection has also happend when i was testing out tension, getting to the max point then breaking it. turns out I'm really good at building tension fast, and i don't need to play with fractionation, lost a easy lay with a hot girl because of that. I'll probably write one big post with a couple FU's from the semester as well.
Gonna stop being lazy and write em up lol also I havent been approaching, been a home body because i don't have a job and havent been able to start going to the gym. Once June hits I should have a job but i know I'll def be in the gym. Going to try three to five days a week because i just want to workout lol. So I'll be out of the house doing shit.