Re-igniting a connection

[LichtenbergFigures]

Hey people, so I have a little situation I'd like some advice on. Its a tough one that I'm not beating myself up over too much, but it would be interesting to get some input.

So back in April I was in Krakow, Poland. I have friends there and it feels a little like a second home. I briefly met a girl there, drunk, but she was working and I wasn't in any real fit state for any real conversation. After I returned home, we started talking on Facebook and quickly established a connection. I do believe there was a real attraction there, despite never actually spending time together - she even sent me some sexy photos. Eventually this fizzled out, which honestly I expected - I had no doubt there would be other guys in her life so I wasn't too disappointed, though she seemed to always insist men simply weren't interested in her (maybe not the right men...). The physical distance was the real limiting factor, but on an emotional level there's real distance now. There's no conversation and weeks can pass without her even saying hi. It's not a big deal, but it does bring me to this next part.

Fast forward to this weekend and I'm going to be in Krakow again (I can't stay away). While I realise I'm likely to meet many other beautiful women while out, this girl and I have agreed to do a bit of a phototshoot (I'm doing one with another beautiful girl I know as well). Obviously, I do still find this girl attractive in looks and as a person, but with so much time passing between conversations now and without really knowing whether she's even that bothered about seeing me, when we get together is there any way to re-ignite the connection and escalate? Do I just go about it as if it was the first time, considering it'll be the first time spending any real time together sober?

Whatever happens, I am just there to see friends and have fun, and inevitably meet new people, but any insights would be appreciated.

Thanks
LF

 

[LichtenbergFigures]

Anybody?

Thanks
LF

 

[Chase]

LF-

Treat it like meeting up with an old friend, and go from there. Long-distance girls you reconnect with after not seeing in a long time (ESPECIALLY ones in other countries) are quite often enthused to see you - it's a romantic, adventurous, once-in-a-lifetime experience where some guy she met from a foreign country long ago just happens to be back in town again. Much of the time, all you have to do is show up and the magic is there.

Just keep in mind: old friend you haven't seen in a long time. "How are you? How's XYZ? What've you been doing???" But remember to leave the spark there. And if she gives you any escalation windows at all, take them for all they're worth, because you can bet the chances that she looked forward to this as a rare, exciting thing is quite high.

Anyway, you got this. Photo shoots are very easy to get sexy with the proper direction... especially if you're doing them someplace private (or MOVE them someplace private a little later on into the shoot - "Let's get some XYZ pictures - let's head to this little place I know..."). Many things you can do here; this should be a fun trip for you.

Chase

 

[LichtenbergFigures]

Thanks for taking the time to reply Chase, I know you're a very busy man.

Everything you say makes perfect sense. Exactly the kind of advice I was looking for. I think the issue is because of our previous frequent conversations on Facebook while initially were great - like talking for hours on the phone with a girl; that initial thrill and excitement - soon dissipated into the mundane "Hey, hows things?" "SSDD" etc. The enthusiasm all but vanished and conversations were meaningless drivel. (I may even write up something about my personal experiences with Facebook and its destructive nature). So because of this, there is a niggling doubt about whether there really would be any magic. We'll see what happens.

But the old friend advice is perfect though, and hopefully I can spot any escalation windows. I arrive Saturday night - she doesn't know what time - but I'll probably drop by the pub she runs. Her initial reaction is likely to tell me everything I need to know, I guess.

I don't know what the location will be yet, whether we'll be alone or even what exactly I have in mind. There's a Google search for me - how to make a photoshoot turn sexy haha!

Thanks Chase

LF