Re-text old girl that I screwed up on?

[PinotNoir]

So, about a year ago, I met this girl at the park. We went on 1 date, and it went pretty well (no kiss, no sex, but good conversation).

I ended up calling her and telling her that I was about to move (I was really thinking about it). She pretty much read this as me blowing her off without telling it to her straight. I tried to go the "let's be friends" route, but she didn't bite. Yes, I really fucked up here; I already know. And yes, I was still partly hung up on my ex, so it was a combination of possibly moving and ex-girlfriend.

Anyway, I didn't end up moving, and I was thinking about her today and wish I hadn't have done the things I did.

We haven't talked since then. Think it would be okay to send her a text? I'm sure she'll ask me if I moved, and I'll have to say "no"....and I imagine she'll be pissed off about that (internally, not to my face). Or, should I just bury this?

Anybody have experience trying this out? I thought I'd ask first before doing anything.

Thanks,
PN

 

[Rage]

Yeah I do!

It's an option you have; I had asked Chase about this some while back...

He suggested "hey was going through my phone and deleting old numbers, and came across yours how've you been" and then you can go on to say we should meet and catch up etc.

The purpose of "deleting old numbers" is that it subconsciously displays that you have abundance and are selective about the people you have around you which is a good quality to show to a girl.

I tried this 4 times with separate girls (and each of them were around that time length 8 months to a year after meeting them) that I had really had a nice rapport with in the past but hadn't gotten to go as far as I'd wanted to with them.

Didn't work with any of them though... 1 never texted back and other 3 were "oh hey how are you!" and other convo and then no text back... i think as long as you have abundance mentality you're fine trying it but odds of it working out are less likely than the chances of hitting it off well with a new chick.

-Gem

 

[Estate]

If you really want to, I don't see why not. But obviously I'd say give it one shot and if no reply, leave it go after that.

There's really no telling where someone is at or what they thought of where things were left so I don't think there's any solid advice that can guarantee results.
As far as the moving thing goes, you could keep it simple, like you moved role in your job for 6 months but the place you were at wasn't for you so you pushed for a move back. Something simple is easy way to play it off. No need for a huge story.

As I said, it could go either way. At the start of the year I go a random text from a girl I had seen 12 months ago. Seemed totally random. However, I liked her at the time but I didn't like how she left things and had no desire to pick things up with her. On the contrary, I went on a date with a girl about 3 months ago but it seemed to fizzle out as she was a bit flakey but I liked her. She sent me a text a couple of weeks ago asking to meet up and we've been going great for the last few weeks since.

Really the only message from that story is, you don't know where other people are at in their lives or how they felt about where things were left, but it's worth a shot.

 

[PinotNoir]

Thanks guys. I'll give it a shot.

Estate, I had never thought about that. I have no clue how she actually feels like the interaction ended. In my head, I think she thought, "Wow, that was weird, glad that's over." But, she could actually think, "Wow, that sucks. Maybe we'll try again in the future." My thoughts are only conjecture, and I won't truly know until I try.

I'll send her a text and see if anything comes of it. If not, no worries; I've got other girls. Worst-case scenario, I get a "mean text" response; at best, I get a second chance.

Good stuff, thanks.

 

[PinotNoir]

Here's what I sent:

hey A, haven't talked with in a long time. how's life treating you? enjoying the sun while still can? just going through old numbers here and cleaning out my digital closet of contacts