Reaching out to "Ex"?

[psheer]

I met this girl for a date from out of town before her flight back home. She was in the city previously, but things didn't work out since she was with her friends. Long story short she missed her flight because of car sex. She ends up staying over at my place. We're sitting on the couch and out of the corner of my eye I see on her phone the name "Bae." I immediately ask her who's Bae. She says she doesn't want to talk about it because it's complicated. Told her she better start talking. She says she's currently unhappy with her open relationship. I'm shellshocked. It's great that I get to fuck her while her bf is back home, but still annoying because I actually am looking for a relationship. Stays the night and catches a flight out the next evening and we continue to text back and forth. She had previous plans of being in my city the following week so I meet up with her again and we have another sex marathon. Afterwards, we're out to dinner and I see a message from "Bae" again. This time I'm visibly frustrated, so much so that I contemplated walking out on her. She agreed that it was unfair what she was doing and asks what I want to do. Says that she can't leave bf until she sees it fail...bf says he's going to try harder. I tell her that we should just have a good night and we go back to her hotel for some more fucking. Not sure how many condoms we went through, but we finally did bareback that night.


If you've made it this far, thank you!

She's mentioned several times that she wants children to me yet also has pitched the idea of a threesome. Says she's itching for one and would like to fuck a black guy as well since she's never done that either. Seems like she's just trying to get all the craziness out of her system before settling down. I don't understand open relationships. I'm on the phone with her and I ask her if her bf knows about us. She says no. I ask if she's thought about what'll happen if he finds out and I think she said he would treat her better lol (despite her vehemently denying that she was using me). Here's where I lose it. I ask her if she's ever cheated before and she honestly tells me with a straight face "no," but the other guy thought they were mutually exclusive. Told her to grow up and that we're over. Blocked her from everything.


I'm regretting my decision...I was selfish in thinking that she would leave her bf after 2 dates with me and dozens of fuck sessions.

Only thing left is Snap in which I unblocked her (deleted her number after blocking it lol). I pre-wrote what I would send her. Is there any way of going back here?

tl;dr ONS with girl in open relationship who apparently had no intention of telling me. I broke it off with her and am regretting my decision.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dude, just hitting this straight but ya don't regret ya decision, ya only think ya do yah??

Ya currently confusing ya lust and good sex with a good relationship and ya better of cutting contact with her. Ya said yaself that ya after a relationship yah?? This isn't a girl ya want one with, if she could honestly tell ya she hasn't cheated when BAE thinks they are exclusive?!?!

It was selfish thinkin she will leave her BF for ya after a couple of dates, thats not what she has in store for ya. Currently ya in the lover category where he is obviously in the provider/boyfriend role. Yah ya can transition but if she currently has someone there taking care of her an providing shes happy with the set up. If all ya want is casual sex then just sit back an enjoy what ya got, if ya actually want a relationship like ya said this girl is TOXIC!!

There is always a way to get her back but caving in now an running to her is a big big big mistake. Ya would be chasing and would let her know she has ya without any doubt and then somewhere down the line she will treat ya like shes treating her current BAE. Do ya really want to be her BAE if she will do this to him?? She'd do it to ya aswell yah??

Ya honestly better cutting ties altogether and moving on to tha next one! However if ya want her back ya still have to cut her an go no contact. Ya told her ya over so how weak would ya look crawling back to her? Yah I'll give ya a minute to stand up, brush the dirt from ya knees and wipe that junk of ya face. A honestly have no idea what that is??

On ya feet? Yah?! GOOD! Just wait. If she honestly wanted anything more with ya she will come crawling back and ya will be in a stronger position to make her work for it. If she meets someone else to fuck in the mean time? Well fuck her man. Ya should be out meeting better people anyway!

 

[psheer]

Solid advice I'm just in a rut, that's all. Definitely not going back. Thanks man!