Reacting to 2nd flake. "No, meet me as arranged or never see me again"

[razir110]

Hi all.

This applies to reacting to girls that already flaked on you ones, you re-arranged the date and now she is flaking again. I get that the first flake could have been for a genuine reason, but the second flake is always BS.

To me this is a sign of low interest and she is essentially 1: has low attraction for you; 2 has you as 2nd/3rd option. So I am not into dating people like this.

When she texts me saying that she can't make it and asking to re-arrange, I reply by saying something like "No, we are not going to re-arrange. If you want to meet me, then meet me as we discussed. Otherwise we should part our ways." So no anger, but firmly say you are not into this BS and are not going to be an 2nd option. I mean if she is flaking for the 2nd time, she isn't that interested anyway, so there is nothing for you to ruin here by being assertive and direct. More, it might show her you aren't fucking around and have self-respect for your time and it might even bump her respect for you and get you the date.

What do you guys think about this course of action?

 

[Tshuai]

The second flake could also be a genuine reason, you never know; shit hapoens, life gets complicated. From my perspective in your attempt to "assert your dominance" you jumped the gun there a bit. Also you seem a too affected by her flaking. A man with no options or goals to spend his time toward accomplishing would respond like this, and that is not attractive. Your response seems like seeing her is the highlight of your month and you're pissed you can't see her. Sorry for being brash, but that's just how it comes off.

If she was interested though she would take the initiative to rearrange, but some princesses won't so you might have to do that. If I were you I'd respond something like "wow someone's busy, ok drinks on you then. Think of it as your flaking fine". Saying that will prompt her to suggest another day and time; but then you'll get the ones who will just say "haha ok" that's when you say something like "ball is in your court, just let me know a couple days in advance so I can check my schedule" if she doesn't take that prompt then it's highly possible she's not interested. Hope that helps.

 

[Fuck This]

That is why any date with a girl early on needs to be something you were going to do anyway. She will weed herself out if she flakes twice, and your day is not disrupted. I'd probably ghost her unless she aggressively tried to reengage.