Recently Married Chick ?

[RedNeck]

Note: I can shit where I work.

A Chick at work I know she likes me so much. She even admitted to one of my close female friends that she likes me. I am Arab and she likes Arab guys. Her sister is dating Arab dude, but her family doesn’t like him.
I went after her and I asked her out 3 times. I got maybe(s) . Last time , I got " I'll try to make it" .I ignored her and moved on.
A month after last time I asked her out, I discovered she just got engaged to her collage boyfriend. She is a Latina; she grew up in Colombia. I thought all right she wanted to get married and this why she accepted the engagement while she was only 24. I decided to back off and gave her the silent treatment. This happened in 2018. She got married in 2019.
But guys since I gave her the silent treatment in 2018, she became obsessed. At the beginning, I thought maybe she just missed the attention. But when she admitted to my close female friend that she likes me, and she knew that my female friend most probably would tell me so, I started to doubt she wanted only the attention .
This has been going on for two years. I am serious.

Signs:
She held my biceps when I was wearing short sleeve shirt.
She checks on me what time I come and what time I leave using skype for business
Whenever, she hears my voice on the corridor , she jumps off her desk like kids, and go to walk in the corridor so she can pass by me, hoping I would talk to her. My coworkers noticed .
Always, staring at me while I am not looking . My coworkers noticed
Abandoned her coworkers and return back to our office so she would walk beside me in my way back to the office.
Looking at me while I am presenting with big smile face like I am celebrity
She held my hand and didn't let go.
She looks back to have a look at me from my back
Proximity, Proximity,......

The list is too large, but above is a sample.


My question for you guys: Is she really interested or what ? I have my doubts because I can't imagine someone will be that obsessed. especially immediately after she got married. Also, bitch I asked you out many times if you were that interested , you should have said at least flat yes.

I don't mind sleeping with married chicks, her husband works on two-week rotation.

 

[Derek da man]

I'd agree with you that she has a thing for you and if you want her you could probably take her - but you need to be the bad boy she wants, you need to be forbidden fruit.

Now she's married her husband may no longer be putting the effort into being mysterious or making her work for his attention or setting an expectation and rewarding that expectation. He's probably become the typical "nice guy" if he wasn't already . She's probably feeling very secure in marriage and therefore boredom sets in, the sex becomes predictable and simply satisfies an urge, it's no longer exciting and new.

If you want her you need to set up situations you can meet with plausible deniability so you accidentally meet outside of work, or an evening work do. You won't be able to get traditional dates, it will be occasional meetings, maybe risky, maybe quickies. It needs to look accidental to her and others but she will be looking for opportunities.

At any meeting you need to make sure she notices your attention, eyes, tease, etc, but not be overtly friendly with her. Occasional flirts that are loaded with sexual innuendo, then walk away back to normal life. Don't try and be "a nice guy" as she has one of those already. When you get the opportunity to be alone at work or similar, even for a second, escalate with light touch but no more.

When the opportunity "accidentally" presents itself to meet her alone outside of work, even if you engineered it, that is the time to really escalate physically. This may be an excuse to drop off work to hers or yours, something she forgot to take home, something you left in the office and you urgently need or something equally as innocent. That's your cue to make a move.

 

[Skills]

I wouldn't do a co worker not worth it in this climate.

 

[RedNeck]

I wouldn't do a co worker not worth it in this climate.

Thanks but first line says I can shit where I eat

 

[RedNeck]

I'd agree with you that she has a thing for you and if you want her you could probably take her - but you need to be the bad boy she wants, you need to be forbidden fruit.

Now she's married her husband may no longer be putting the effort into being mysterious or making her work for his attention or setting an expectation and rewarding that expectation. He's probably become the typical "nice guy" if he wasn't already . She's probably feeling very secure in marriage and therefore boredom sets in, the sex becomes predictable and simply satisfies an urge, it's no longer exciting and new.

If you want her you need to set up situations you can meet with plausible deniability so you accidentally meet outside of work, or an evening work do. You won't be able to get traditional dates, it will be occasional meetings, maybe risky, maybe quickies. It needs to look accidental to her and others but she will be looking for opportunities.

At any meeting you need to make sure she notices your attention, eyes, tease, etc, but not be overtly friendly with her. Occasional flirts that are loaded with sexual innuendo, then walk away back to normal life. Don't try and be "a nice guy" as she has one of those already. When you get the opportunity to be alone at work or similar, even for a second, escalate with light touch but no more.

When the opportunity "accidentally" presents itself to meet her alone outside of work, even if you engineered it, that is the time to really escalate physically. This may be an excuse to drop off work to hers or yours, something she forgot to take home, something you left in the office and you urgently need or something equally as innocent. That's your cue to make a move.

Thanks, man .

but didn't you find it weird that she has been chasing for almost two years ?
especially, she declined my offer 3 times before .

Have you experienced something similar?

 

[Skills]

Thanks but first line says I can shit where I eat

have you ever had sex with a co-worker, is a total mess man... totally not worth it... But, back to the topic colombian women are extremely affectionate, flirty and touchy touchy in general....

 

[RedNeck]

have you ever had sex with a co-worker, is a total mess man... totally not worth it... But, back to the topic colombian women are extremely affectionate, flirty and touchy touchy in general....

Thanks again .
-You don’t know what kind of work I do !!
- Yes, I observed her and she doesn’t touch the other guys like me .

 

[Skills]

Thanks again .
-You don’t know what kind of work I do !!
- Yes, I observed her and she doesn’t touch the other guys like me .

Ok so seduce her like you normally do any other seduction, but let her know/sub communicate that:

- you are not looking for her to leave her hubby.
-you will not kiss and tell and keep it to yourself in other words you will die with the secret.
- you will not get clingy, needy, and stalkerish.
- you will not judge her for doing something with you (slut or a whore)...

p.s. teevester had a good routine/lay report, somewhere in which he verbalize how exiting is to cheat, pm him to see if he can share it, it was good...

here

 

[RedNeck]

Ok so seduce her like you normally do any other seduction, but let her know/sub communicate that:

- you are not looking for her to leave her hubby.
-you will not kiss and tell and keep it to yourself in other words you will die with the secret.
- you will not get clingy, needy, and stalkerish.
- you will not judge her for doing something with you (slut or a whore)...

p.s. teevester had a good routine/lay report, somewhere in which he verbalize how exiting is to cheat, pm him to see if he can share it, it was good...

here

Thanks again but no one has answered the question.

which is I did ask her out 3 times before she got engaged. I got soft no or she would try to make it .

this was 2 years ago . Since then she has became obsessed .

is this natural ? Have you guys seen that before?

 

[Skills]

Thanks again but no one has answered the question.

which is I did ask her out 3 times before she got engaged. I got soft no or she would try to make it .

this was 2 years ago . Since then she has became obsessed .

is this natural ? Have you guys seen that before?

yes it has happened you are interested in a girl the girl is someone interested in you, you are more invested in her than she is in you and she loses attraction.....

You give up and move one, then she senses the total none neediness and comes back....

so the answer is yes we all have experience it, and most know this and why we do things such as disqualifying ourselves, push pull etc...

 

[Derek da man]

Thanks again but no one has answered the question.
which is I did ask her out 3 times before she got engaged. I got soft no or she would try to make it .

I think Skills covered it, although it wasn't a direct answer to your question

let her know/sub communicate that:
- you are not looking for her to leave her hubby.
- you will not kiss and tell and keep it to yourself in other words you will die with the secret.
- you will not get clingy, needy, and stalkerish.
- you will not judge her for doing something with you (slut or a whore)...

If you can tick all those boxes and give her "plausible deniability" then things may progress.

but didn't you find it weird that she has been chasing for almost two years ?
especially, she declined my offer 3 times before .

My guess would be she likes being chased, admired, etc. You probably asked her fairly directly like a proper date? She's not after that, she wants it to be accidental or spur of the moment so she can pretend that she didn't plan or want it.

Have you experienced something similar?

Not in a work place but several times in a more social environment, but it is somewhere I don't want to damage my reputation or social proof so have been very careful how to play things. Interestingly other people had spotted the girls that were flirting and trying to get me to notice them. They asked me if I was seeing them etc, and at the time, I wasn't/hadn't. Things did move forward on both occasions although no one else ever new anything more, except those involved.

 

[RedNeck]

Thanks again guys.
Do you think a one can overcome his game mistakes if the raw attraction is really high ?

I mean . For example , she knew I talked about her being obsessed with me to the common female friend . This means I have a big mouth at least this is what she would think .

I thought she would back off, but she didn’t . She pursued even harder.

You know what I mean . I feel it is too good to be true .

This goes against “ game” concepts.

Any explanation, guys ?
I am here to learn

 

[Skills]

Thanks again guys.
Do you think a one can overcome his game mistakes if the raw attraction is really high ?

I mean . For example , she knew I talked about her being obsessed with me to the common female friend . This means I have a big mouth at least this is what she would think .

I thought she would back off, but she didn’t . She pursued even harder.

You know what I mean . I feel it is too good to be true .

This goes against “ game” concepts.

Any explanation, guys ?
I am here to learn

what game concepts?

let me give you an scenario i had girls that i messed up by kissing and telling, were i told their boyfriends they were trying to cheat with me, they found out and got super pissed... I still banged them(2 of them)....

You have enough answers given to you already.... Make a move and see what happens....

 

[RedNeck]

Again .
Thank you @ Skills .