Rejection and mindset

[heyray]

Went on a date with a girl just yesterday and I think I blew it. I'm not going into specifics but I'm not at my most confident right now and just believe that I'm out.

This (the rejection) seems to be bugging more than I thought it would.

How do you guys generally move on from rejection and failure? What's a good mindset/mantra to adopt?

 

[Drck]

Try to have always an 'escape' road, which means:

* Monitor level ov your investment vs how much is she investing. If she is investing less than you, it usually means she has the upper hand, e.g. She is less interested in you than you are in her... Time to start backing off, no matter how painful it might be....
* Abundance Mentality, simply focus on more girls. Which might be quite difficult in practice, but that's the correct answer... Once you get rejected you simply start focusing on different girls in stead of sitting home and over-analyzing your own depression....

 

[heyray]

Try to have always an 'escape' road, which means:

* Monitor level ov your investment vs how much is she investing. If she is investing less than you, it usually means she has the upper hand, e.g. She is less interested in you than you are in her... Time to start backing off, no matter how painful it might be....
* Abundance Mentality, simply focus on more girls. Which might be quite difficult in practice, but that's the correct answer... Once you get rejected you simply start focusing on different girls in stead of sitting home and over-analyzing your own depression....

That's helpful shit; it hurt for a bout a day. I'm already on my way to a full recovery, thanks man.