Relationship stalled out..how to spice it up?

[KollegahDerBoss]

I've been 1 month together with my girlfriend and I feel the relationship has already stalled out.
She hardly ever contacts me, doesn't write me good night texts anymore like she used to,
and told me lately she had been dreaming something weird like kissing some boy at her school.

The thing is: I tried to be at least interested as I could.
Since the first time I met her, I never wrote her first, she always has been chasing me, and was always very jealous - she even tried to make me jealous.
In fact, her status is: "Don't make me your #1, make me your only one." (referring to the fact that I text with other girls)

I'd rather be the one that she never got what she wanted (though I feel like she has everything she wanted, otherwise she wouldn't have stopped texting me often), than the one which she got everything from.

Any way to spice the relationship up - make her fall hard for me again and keep that up?

 

[sneaky_charm]

This should get you started:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/if-yo ... e-6-things

Cheers

 

[KollegahDerBoss]

Hey, thanks for the answer.
I read it, but I think it's the opposite, she doesn't feel secure at all - she always needs reassurance from me and sometimes gets it from me, sometimes not.
I will try to considerate some points on that post, just to see if it's actually that.
But she is still somewhat bored of the relationship itself. How can I fix that?

 

[sneaky_charm]

Note that I'm not the best person to give advice in this regard, since I've no first hand experience. However, hanging out in GC for years, I have gotten to know the common patterns. So let's see if I can help. (Hope others chime in too.)

A few questions for you:

1. What is your age and what is her age?
2. How did you get into the relationship? I mean, did she ask you to be her bf, or was it the opposite way?
3. Do you think you are doing your best in bed, and she is having multiple orgasms?
4. Is she your first gf? And are you hers first?
5. Is your behavior the same as it was before you were in relationship?
6. How often do you meet her in a week?

 

[Whizzy]

My main question is this, did you treat her differently before you guys were "together" aka when she was chasing you hard, than she is treating you now that you are together? This change of congruence is often a large factor in changing the way a girl views a guy.

 

[KollegahDerBoss]

I checked if I changed my behaviour, and this was the result:
The last time we actually wrote in a really sexual/romantic way was the 3rd of December.
From then on:
4th December: Small talk, "i love you" (from her)
5th December: No Conversation
6th December: Told me something about a nice guy which she dreamed of / who is chasing her hard,
she even sent me a screenshot of how he sends her heart smileys and stuff but she refuses him. Maybe trying to make me jealous?
7th December: No Conversation
8th December: No Conversation

Either she is playing games, or she really fell in love with this nice guy (though I find it hard to believe).