Reputation-asshole, gossip

[Byron]

Ok so I wasn't originally going to post this, my ego is sky-high as it is right now, but the repeat occurrence is bothering me.

I was having this convo last night with a girl on the phone (one of my close friends, she's also got excellent game and has hooked up with lots of high quality guys):

Me: I'm basically your mystical wise old black man, but inexplicably hotter.
Her: inexplicable?
Me: Well...both explicably and inexplicably.
Her: that actually makes a lot of sense.
Me: what? Explain.
Her: you're very good looking (I credit fundamentals more than looks, intermediate as they are), so that's the explicable part, but you also have that badass asshole side of your personality that makes you inexplicably hot regardless of looks.

At this point I made a sarcastic self deprecating yet also dickish comment (I think I teased her about trying to flatter me).

All I made of that was hey ego boost that was nice, this Girlschase stuff really works, no big deal though...

Then today I'm at work (I smell of sex at this point, which may have prompted the convo) and was talking about a Midwestern girl coming to visit me. The female coworker I'm talking to says this:

coworker: are all your friends Midwestern girls?
Me: no, why would you think that?
Her: idk you just seem kinda like that.
Me: like what?
Her: no never mind.
Me: tell!
Her: well you seem like you party a lot and talk to lots of girls. I can see why Cheryl (another coworker) doesn't like you. We were talking a lot about you the other day.
Me: yikes!

At that point I did a cold read on her and started to seek common ground, talked about books etc.

I have been upping my arrogance and it's evidently paying off. But how does a relative beginner to game manage these sorts of situations (both praise and gossip) and come out on top?
Love y'all
Byron

 

[MichaelGScott]

Don't react to the praise, brush it off as if you're used to people complimenting you (just like a hot girl would brush off a "you're beautiful" remark, she gets them all the time, they hold little value). As for as the gossip, turn your would be flaws into byronic flaws. There's an article on here that talks about how to do that.

 

[Bboy100]

I had to read this several times to understand what the problem even is. Then I realized that for me, getting this type of shit is second nature at this point, I just consider it normal conversation with girls LOL.

But if I understand it correctly, you believe that your problem is that girls are both "insulting" you and praising you at the same time. What you need to understand is that they don't actually mean any of it when they say that "you look like you party and drink a lot" or when they say that "you're an asshole". They're just being playful. It's just flirting. And if they do, they don't mean it in a negative way. If you believe women actually do this, you can also label this behavior as "shit-testing" (personally, I don't subscribe to this concept). Either way, I don't think there's anything strange or abnormal about these conversations. HOWEVER, if you're having trouble actually sleeping with these girls because they just go cold on you or start acting like bitches for no reason, then know that its an attainability problem. You're likely sending all of them into auto-reject.

How do you solve this? Relate to them. Show them that you give a shit about their feeings, desires etc. You can still be cocky and arrogant, but you gotta mix it with some deep diving and connection building. Also work on qualifying them and letting them know that despite your high value, they can win you over. They need to know that you're not just a player who's going to hump them once then never see them again. Also, if this is social circle, make sure to be discrete about who you sleep with.

There are several articles on GC about attainability. I would recommend reading over them.

 

[Byron]

@Bboy100
Haha It's happened before, I had a lot of it in high school, but never to this amount (several times a day). I can see it being a shit test, but I also do have problems with it negatively affecting my reputation in my current social circle (girls being bitchy etc.) Interestingly enough, the girl who apparently hates me and shit talks me the most is also super touchy (in a, she'll push me around or poke me and I'll do it back kinda way) so I thought it was just a flirting dynamic but I get the other people in our social circle telling me, no, she actually hates my guts.
Oh well.
I'll work on deepdiving, like you suggest, and just not coming across like a caricature.
And I slept with one girl in the group, but was super discreet (cause she was my boss's ex, and he's not over her apparently),and another girl came up and gave me her number in front of them all, so they may or may not know what's going on. I also flirt with all of them (which I thought was good, maybe not).

Thanks for the advice, and haha hopefully this will become as normal for me as it is for you.
Peace,
Byron