Resistance to sex but nothing else

[Tony B]

I've only being seeing this girl for about a week and she put up a large amount of resistance to us meeting up. One thing she pointed out to me was that she doesn't have sex without being in a relationship. She has only had sex with 4 people. I attempted to bed her, only to hit a huge wall of resistance. After pursuing further, we escalated to both being naked. She is very tight, so upon trying to enter her, I could not on the first try; which is where she stopped me and declared that it was not happening. I complied and she rolled over and she gave me oral sex.

She frequently texts me, and even regularly kisses me out in public as if we are a couple. I attend a university, and (not to sound like a dick) am very well known. She also has heard that I am some sort of "player". She is very beautiful, but this situation is still very compromising. I've escalated to sex, to only have it turn into oral sex for 4 out of the 7 days i've known her. She even invited me to spend Easter Sunday with her and her family, which is a huge step for only knowing someone for a week. Yet, she feels as though me escalating to sex is too soon. I've tried to keep my composure and even broke frame the last time because of how demotivating the continued "No's" to sex have become. I was able to pull it back together and recover but I do not know how much longer I can take it.

Are my only two options to either drop this girl or become her boyfriend? I wouldn't mind dating her but I use sex as a process to make my final decision. What can I do? Any advice is much appreciated.

Thank you

 

[Bboy100]

It might be helpful to let her know how you feel about it. Tell her exactly what you wrote here...that you would be interested in dating her, but you can't really make that decision until you've had sex with her. Be completely upfront about it. Be prepared to let her know exactly why its so important to you. A lot of girls don't understand this. At that point, she will either tell you no again, in which case if it's an absolute deal breaker that she won't fuck you before you commit to her, you move on.

 

[Tony B]

Thank you, I'll let you know how it goes. Apparently she had an ex that was trying to creep his way back into her life and she was on the fence about me and him. I told her I wouldn't be anyones second option and left. Some time went by and she reached out to me telling me how much she missed me. I'd been avoiding her but she was always trying to get my attention or drunk texting me, so I decided to give it another chance. She was ecstatic about having me back and incredibly territorial in public. The next night I attempted to bed her again and she told me she was on her period. I tried physically escalating and she was resistant to sex again. I must not have turned her on enough verbally, or physically because at this point I'm very warn down. I think it's time to part ways.

Thank you again

 

[OldGuy]

I've seen a similar situation where the woman was trying to make one man jealous by publicly throwing herself at another man who she would not have sex with. It sounds like you are the guy she is using to make the other bf jealous. (In the case I saw, the woman wound up with neither guy.)

 

[Tony B]

Update:

Funny enough we ended up having sex. She had a relationship where she was consistently cheated on and she felt like guys only used her for sex without a real connection. We went on to have a great relationship.

 

[OldGuy]

Congratulations!