resurrect relationship

[devlish]

Hadn't talked to ex for 2 weeks, hadn't seen her for a month. I thought we would never make contact and anything again because that's what we said we'd do. She texts me out the blue asking if I want my hoodies back and I tell her yeah come over tomorrow. She comes over - she's all over me and I let her initiate and we have sex a few times. A few days later we then go on the holiday (4 days long) we pre-planned a long time ago - I said we should just go as friends and she agreed.

We have a great time (best sex we've ever had - she tells me it's amazing and after we broke up it was crap compared to this) but one time after she orgasms she cries and says it's never going to work... I calmly reply are you sure and she nods so I'm like okay - don't want to push anything (I'm kinda sure she does want to go out she just doesn't want to admit it and I wouldn't mind it being her that brings that up NOT me).

At the end of holiday we say we should see each other less frequently but still chill sometimes.

She sends me a text few days later (2 days ago):

her: just had the most horrible dream where you said you cheated on me when we were together and need to talk to you to remind myself you really aren't a prick xxx
me: lool aw thanks for realising xx
her: lool you dick <3 , look at these (sends me some modelling pictures)
me: aha yeah they're not bad - guitar teacher just asked me what's that on your neck? (lovebite from holiday)
her: looooool please

That was last contact
Don't usually do all the x's and faces I find it a bit gay but she did it first so didn't mind.

Anyway: How shall I act and what shall I do to get her to say she wants me again (even thought I don't mind that much) - or how can I sort out a once a week Friends with benefits situation?

 

[Inferno]

I think that getting her to say that she wants you might be a little unnecessary.

In my opinion , the having sex was telling you enough

 

[Whizzy]

Honestly, don't worry about the details too much just yet. Get her to hangout again and keep sleeping with her, she'll come around on her own after a bit of that

 

[devlish]

About a week ago she said we can't have a friend with benefits situation. But recently she's initiated the texting and asked me about who I'm seeing (I said nobody really) and she told me she finished it with whoever she's seeing. I've said we should meet since then but she tries to act very aloof and says it's fine for us to hang out but then is apparently never free (so she won't hang out now Whizzy - or she will but I'll need to ask her again and that's too needy) . She mentioned how the guy (promoter) she finished it with has been stalking her so maybe she's all high on male attention over that.

I haven't seen her since the holiday and maybe now it's best to ignore her until she comes back to talk to me; if it's not regarding meeting up then I'll just respond with crappy,dull texts?

 

[Whizzy]

If it's not about meeting up then I would honestly just ignore her texts, otherwise you are just feeding her attention high

 

[African Boyo]

Shes lonely and youre a comfortable nice guy who she enjoys having sex with. I dont see anything developing youre her rebound guy of sorts. Youre the guy shes gonna build her self esteem up with. All i would say is enjoy the ride but realise that it will probably end once she starts healing her self esteem and dating again

 

[devlish]

I'm far from a nice guy - I suppose I should have tried more on holiday to be nicer to maybe get her to be my girlfriend again (even though I was nicer than usual) but I genuinely didn't feel like doing that. Your right about how giving her attention will build her self esteem, African and Whizzy, which is why I've been ignoring her up until a recent incident.

We weren't even texting until about a week ago when I may have done something very stupid - At 5 in the morning on a weekend I receive a picture from her phone of her in bed with another guy and they're half naked with her lying on top of him...

She still lives at home and her mum was worried about her so her mum texted me at about 8 in the morning, asking if I knew anything about where she was and that she hadn't come home...

I then progress by forwarding this picture to her mother, saying 'she sent me this (pic) at 5 in the morning if that helps' - wasn't really angry or jealous as haven't seen her for a while, just thought it would be funny.

She starts texting me the next day about how I'm a fucking dick and all this other stuff and we have a long argument - she's saying how it wasn't her that sent the picture and that she was 'spiked' at the time. then she says how we should get out each other's life and that I should delete her number and social media. I eventually say a good sorry text and say don't hate me. She calls me straight away saying she's sorry about the picture and she doesn't hate me, I say I'm sorry too and then she has to go because she was going to sleep. Haven't talked since then (5 days)

She admitted yesterday to my friends (they randomly met in a club) that she was calling the other guy in the picture by MY name while she was out of it, which is what must have annoyed him so he sent me the picture - weirddddd?

Anyway she's seeing other guys now and I'm starting to see some girls - think best thing to do now is leave it until she ever gets back to me and wants to meet?