Had one of the greatest personal development days from confronting my anger, reflecting, and getting an outside opinion. This is the story about me talking to the girl who friendzoned me. I texted back the girl who sent the txt message over the weekend and got a reply with plenty of emojicons. She texted me exactly the same way we used to talk 8 months ago, like nothing happened. Note, this chick is truly the definition of a serial flirt.
Stage 1 - Lunch
My intention involved practicing deep diving and getting under “her mask” as mentioned in Chase’s article:https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-talk-girls-and-make-them-want-you . I did not flirt or intend getting intimate with her.
During the time with her walking and drinking coffee for an hour, I felt anger. It took a lot of effort making facial expressions and was conscious of every move.
Benchmark: The most powerful mask I have ever seen on a girl. Up to this point, the most bubbly girl I ever met and much flirtier than last time.
Her change:
-In physically better shape, bigger butt and legs through yoga pants
-Enthusiasm and charisma increased exponentially.
-Body language and her words in-synch beautifully
-Spoke about happy topics instead of her personal problems in the past
-Did not ask questions about me
-Longer rants about her experiences
-Talked about her weaknesses, which made her more real
Bottom-line: More outgoing than ever before, but I did not feel attracted to her.
My change:
-Spoke slowly
-Used body language including head tilts, facial expressions, and hands
-Asked her deep dive q’s including:
-Ever go on crazy adventures?
-Is that what you want to do forever?
-What do you do in your spare time?
-Interrupted her during the middle of her rants and kept things moving about her
What she thought about me:
-I talked way too slow
Things I need to improve on:
-Learn to tease less offensively
-Learn how to interact with powerful, outgoing girls
-Need to get into nitty-gritty why she thinks that way
-Not talk about myself to fill in gap
-Increase my energy levels while maintaining smooth, sexy edge
-Interrupting politely
Stage 2 – Reflection
An hour after the encounter, I laughed to myself and said, “I just fooled by one of the top flirts in the business. No wonder I was a complete wreck for six months.” I was fooled once into believing, but it will never happen again.
Stage 3 – Outside Opinion
Was studying with one of my new bro studybuddies later that day, when we realized we had the same class last year (The girl above was in that class). His first comment was this, “I remember there was this exotic-a$% Arabic chick in the class. She was fine as he#$. Dude now, I remember, you sat at the same table during lab, everyone used to look over at her.”
I told him she hit me up randomly after six months and he said that was nice of her.
A few things hit me:
-A guy in a fraternity, with a lot of experience with girls, complemented on her attractiveness.
-Even a year ago, the girl was WAY out of my league.
I am still sitting at home, staring at the wall, amused at myself for falling for that. I am happy I went through with seeing her again and getting a fresh perspective on my old problem.
