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RR: Used Dominating Tactic

Mr. Hawaii

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For the original post of this this tactic:
https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=30&t=1747

My girlfriend and i were laying in bed, talking about her fantasies and dirty thoughts that she thinks she'd be judged for. We've been dating for 7 months and now live together - she's 19 I'm 21. She'd always been a bit hesitant to go into much detail about what she likes. The night before I'd taken some other advice and gave it to her very rough. Fore play was bare minimum, I'd whisperer things to her like "even if you wanted to get away right now, you can't" as I pinned her arms down above her head.

Now us laying in bed, she says that she really enjoyed that. She said it was exciting how strong I was and like how she felt like she was mine. "You like being owned by me? " and she bashfully, almost shyly, said yes, like she knew she was admitting something that would set the woman race back a century or two.

Later on we got on the subject of her past. Long story short, there was something I didn't really enjoy hearing. To most people here, given all of our training, it was very minor. It should've been minor. After she told me about this BJ I chuckled, but then fell silent. She changed the subject to middle school and said she missed those days. That those were the fun days. I took this one badly on purpose. I knew, she didn't mean that our days aren't fun, and I knew that she was just trying to lighten the mood because I let the last conversation die. I chose this path because I had a plan.

Fun days huh? I asked. And she grabbed my arm and dug her head into my shoulder and said " not like that.. Don't you miss your childhood?"

"I don't like to think about my childhood. " I said letting the conversation die. She held me a little tighter.

From here I gave her a kiss so she knew I wasn't mad. Then I quickly (and a bit roughly) escalated. Given the emotional feelings we both had moments before we both kind of lost ourselves quickly in making out and grinding.

Where sex for me is usually a bit more strategy based, this was of a raw, formless sort that neither of us had experienced before. But I wasn't making love. I was teaching her a lesson. And she knew it. And she loved me for it. My focus wasn't on my orgasm, or even on hers. It was on pounding a message into her brain (ha.ha). In the heat of the moment I told her in her ear "so those were the fun times?" And she kept moaning and and grinding while I didn't let up a bit.

After the immediate effects of orgasm, while she was still trying to catch her breath I whispered "don't forget who you belong to". And then went to sleep while she held me tighter than ever.
 

maximus6004

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Re: Lr- Used Dominating Tactic

Im just going to step out here and day, you did good with the dominating in the beginning sexually. Then you, she caused you to become angry about the content that you weren't the best thing thats ever happened to her. I would be careful because she didnt really have a choice as you were dominating her sexually to do anything but agree with you. This can lead down a bad road that you become more aggressive when things dont go your way. So beginning good end wasnt so great, like I said I dont think its a healthy habit to get in. For example, like a friend of mine said to me today as we talked about this

Its like having a boss, do you want to.follow.him because you are powerful and dominating, or.do.you.follow.him in fear of losing your job?
 

Mr. Hawaii

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Re: Lr- Used Dominating Tactic

I can see what you're saying as far as letting her past bother me I can see that becoming a destructive mindset.

I think it's because I didn't go into too much detail but it was a bit different from how you interpreted it. I didn't feel like I wasn't the best, more like.. As she was telling me the story it didn't feel like a story from the past. It felt like it happened yesterday. Idk how To explain it. It didn't sound like she liked the guy a whole lot, (she didn't let him put it in) or like she missed him, but to me listening to this story I didn't picture my girlfriend from back in high school I pictured her now.

I think what I actually could use some solid advice on is escaping negative thought chains. I knew what I was thinking was off base but yet I couldn't really kick it. Any thoughts on that?
 

maximus6004

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Re: Lr- Used Dominating Tactic

SoMeone else wpuld have to pitch in on this one as im dealing with this now myself. I'm doing it the same way I got over depression, every time it creeps in I.just say stop stop stop stop and then think positively. There will always be negative things about people and situations so dwepping on it will only.make you angrier
 

Chase

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Hey Mr. Hawaii-

Moved this one to the Relationships Board and retitled it "RR" (relationship report) since it's intimacy with a girl you're already seeing.

Anyway, fun stuff here! My only reservation on using this tactic after her talking about giving another guy a blowjob is it sets the precedent that you find her talking about performing sex acts on other men sexually arousing (i.e. - she talks about fellating another man, you respond by giving her dominant, powerful, passionate sex). If that's not the case, you generally don't want to start setting that precedent because it probably doesn't lead toward what you want.

Chase
 
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