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I've noticed two different trends about the way I behave. It seems that my behavior is often very situational.
On dates I'm ALWAYS coming from a position of high value. Even before I've met the girl, I feel this rush of confidence through my body. I literally feel like I'm the best thing that happened to women since the vibrator. More specifically:
- I know she'll love me
- I'm not worried about what she thinks and about how she'll react.
- I'm out to have a blast. And I know she will too (and in the few cases when she doesn't, that's usually cause she's super uptight/doesn't know how to)
- I do and say whatever I want because I know that whatever it is I decide to do, she'll love it, and more importantly, I'll love it.
- Although it is in the back of my mind, I'm not too worried about getting laid. I'm more present minded and just enjoying the moment and the time I spend with her.
On the other hand, when I go to any other type of outing (typically a party), I'll feel rather anxious and like a little bit of a value leech. This manifests itself in the form of:
- Wanting/needing sex or phone numbers from women and feeling upset when there are too many guys and not enough girls there.
- A feeling of disgust with anyone who doesn't bring me value (i.e. I feel like guys there are a bunch of loser nerds with no "game". So they bring nothing into my life and I therefore, shouldn't talk to them)
- A sense of urgency. It feels like "uh oh, I'm only gonna be here for so long...better talk to a shitton more girls"
- A feeling of being on edge.
- A feeling of being equal or lower value than the women I'm speaking to.
Needless to say, these are more or less polar opposites, and they bring about opposite results too. On dates, girls are always very attracted to me. And the only reason I don't have sex with them every time is probably because of a few kinks in my "game" and process. Not so much in my mentality and my vibe. The opposite is true when I'm at parties. My "game" is good relative to the results I'm getting. Its just my neediness and my inability to relax and just have fun that stops me from getting what I want. In fact, my friends have even commented that I often look "very tense". Unfortunately, I can't really just will this to change. Its a very emotional response. I also can't tell why there's such a large contrast in the first place.
Has this happened to anyone else? Thoughts about this in general?
On dates I'm ALWAYS coming from a position of high value. Even before I've met the girl, I feel this rush of confidence through my body. I literally feel like I'm the best thing that happened to women since the vibrator. More specifically:
- I know she'll love me
- I'm not worried about what she thinks and about how she'll react.
- I'm out to have a blast. And I know she will too (and in the few cases when she doesn't, that's usually cause she's super uptight/doesn't know how to)
- I do and say whatever I want because I know that whatever it is I decide to do, she'll love it, and more importantly, I'll love it.
- Although it is in the back of my mind, I'm not too worried about getting laid. I'm more present minded and just enjoying the moment and the time I spend with her.
On the other hand, when I go to any other type of outing (typically a party), I'll feel rather anxious and like a little bit of a value leech. This manifests itself in the form of:
- Wanting/needing sex or phone numbers from women and feeling upset when there are too many guys and not enough girls there.
- A feeling of disgust with anyone who doesn't bring me value (i.e. I feel like guys there are a bunch of loser nerds with no "game". So they bring nothing into my life and I therefore, shouldn't talk to them)
- A sense of urgency. It feels like "uh oh, I'm only gonna be here for so long...better talk to a shitton more girls"
- A feeling of being on edge.
- A feeling of being equal or lower value than the women I'm speaking to.
Needless to say, these are more or less polar opposites, and they bring about opposite results too. On dates, girls are always very attracted to me. And the only reason I don't have sex with them every time is probably because of a few kinks in my "game" and process. Not so much in my mentality and my vibe. The opposite is true when I'm at parties. My "game" is good relative to the results I'm getting. Its just my neediness and my inability to relax and just have fun that stops me from getting what I want. In fact, my friends have even commented that I often look "very tense". Unfortunately, I can't really just will this to change. Its a very emotional response. I also can't tell why there's such a large contrast in the first place.
Has this happened to anyone else? Thoughts about this in general?
