Savvy way to fast-direct approach girl at gym and other difficult places?

[PinotNoir]

The gym article seems to be more on "slow gaming," but how do you do it fast and direct? I was able to do it in my most recent FR with a worker, but I'm not sure how to do it with a gym member.

For example, I ran into this situation today, and it's the reason why I'm posting this.

I had been swimming for about an hour and a half and then sat in the hot spa. (I'm swimming more now because I'm planning on doing a triathlon later this year, and I suck at swimming.) After sitting there for a while, a very attractive woman came in the pool area -- just my type. She walked past the spa, and I gave her a smile as we locked eyes. Then she got into a lane and began to swim.

Key difficulties here:

• Time. I had just finished my workout, so I was ready to leave the gym and didn't want to wait for her to finish her workout (which could be 1-2 more hours). I don't want to be at the gym for 4 hours.
• People. Lifeguards and people swimming in lanes and in the open section of the pool. It'd be obvious that I'm walking over there to chat with her, especially since they just saw me finish my workout. As for the people in the lanes, I'm not really bothered, as they would be too busy. I'm mainly concerned with the lifeguards and the people floating around in the open section.
• Busy. She had just started her workout. Would it be rude for me to interject?
• Conflict. If somehow she got annoyed, I could potentially be banned from the gym. However, this is very unlikely to occur with just one instance.
• Chance Encounter. As so often happens, I may never see the person again (but will continue to see the lifeguards and regulars). I need to approach now. I don't want to slow-game it and ruin my chances. I don't want to just go over and pre-open and say "hi" and just wait until the next time I see her because I may not see her a next time.

This doesn't have to be applied to just the gym, but other similarly tricky situations as well.

Is there a socially savvy way to handle this? Or, do I pretty much just have to go over there; stop her from working out; compliment her and chat briefly (or ask how to swim or if she's on some swim team?); and then ask her out....?

Surprisingly, these situations don't happen too often, but it happens enough where I'd like to know if there's anything special that works. I think that I'll be happier in life when I can ask a woman out no matter what situation. I can ask out women fine at grocery stores, the park, bars, on the street, etc., but these occasional situations arise that have me stumped. I guess I just need to not worry about anything and blaze through.

You guys have experience with asking out women in tricky situations?

Thanks

 

[PinotNoir]

I thought of another scenario that happened to me a few weeks ago.

I was in the mall, and I saw 2 pretty women, but one was the salesperson helping out the customer. I guess in this case I could just wait or only target one. Maybe I wait until the customer walks off. I go talk with her from a distance. Then I come back to the store and talk with the salesperson. This seems unnatural though and a little creepy-looking.

 

[PinotNoir]

**BUMP**

Well, I ran across this this past weekend twice.

First, I was out buying some crap, and I saw a gorgeous woman about 40 feet away getting into her car. I was like a deer in the headlights. Do I just run over there and knock on her car window? Haha. I feel like that would be extremely creepy and not sexy.

Second, I was getting a haircut and thought my hair stylist was pretty hot. I deep-dived her and found out a lot about her sister and where she wants to travel, etc. I also got my nose hair waxed (I know it's metrosexual....), so that makes it a little awkward. I was trying to figure out the best way to get her on a date without being awkward/creepy/etc. She brought up running, so I thought about inviting her to do a 5k race with or something. Do you think slow game is the best here and just invite her out as a friend?

I guess I just need to make a pact with myself. No matter what, approach.

It's easy when I'm out on the street or in the mall or in the grocery store (if she's not about to get in her car and drive away), but every now and then these tricky situations get me where I just don't know what to do.

How do you approach in tricky situations? Just do it and not care?

 

[ocantu1987]

I know in the gym I approached with a situational opener with success. I also direct approached a latina the other day as she was leaving the gym, she was receptive to my approach, but she was married haha

But yeah man, I recently made a rule for myself. Everywhere I see a pretty latina (my preference) I will approach no matter what, even if it is the first approach of the day.

 

[Marty]

I saw a gorgeous woman about 40 feet away getting into her car. I was like a deer in the headlights. Do I just run over there and knock on her car window?

See this thread.

I thought about inviting her to do a 5k race with or something. Do you think slow game is the best here and just invite her out as a friend?

No, no and NO!!! You're already in the "customer" role. Now you want to be in the "friend" role and the "running buddy" role too... just how do you think you're gonna get from there into the "lover" role? Hint: you're not

If you don't mind losing her as a hairdresser, you can try going direct and upping the stakes to all or nothing

 

[PinotNoir]

Thanks man, you're right. It would just make me from customer to friend. I really liked how she cut my hair though. Really, no girl should be offended if I compliment her and then ask if she's single; maybe I'll do that next time and hope it doesn't make it awkward on future visits. I've seen prettier girls than her though, so I may just let it go. The risk may not be worth the reward here.

That response from Chase is interesting. So, the guy crouches down to eye level about 10 feet away. Next time this happens, I'll sprint over to the car and crouch down to eye level about 10 feet in front of the car and pretend that I'm peering in. Then, I'll go talk with her and say, "Hey, I thought you reminded me of a friend of mine." Then switch to direct, "But, then I realized you're not her... you're much prettier. I'm Pinot. What's your name?" Think that will work? (Reading this, it sounds kind of comical haha)