Scratching my head here....

[TheDarkHalf]

Here's the scenario:

Meet girl at a rave. We chatted and made out the entire night and swapped numbers. Texted on and off for the next week and a half and built some rapport until our schedules aligned so we could go out on a date.

Date went well, I paid for dinner, she paid for a few drinks after. Great conversation and interest the entire time.

We went back to my place afterwards, smoked some ganja, listened to EDM, spent some more time chatting....and then proceed to make out on my couch.

We went back to my bedroom eventually and hit it. She eventually took off and went back to her place.

I texted her and wished her a happy thanksgiving the next day, and didn't hear anything back. NBD since it's a holiday and people are busy with family and what not.

I texted her again today, asked her how her weekend was, which she replied, and then I followed up with a response to her text and asked what her schedule was looking like for the weekend.

Tonight, I checked my Facebook and she indeed has removed me from her friends list.


So is this just a one and done scenario? Any way to recover this? Confused as to where I went wrong. This is the first time in a while (at least that I can recall) getting the one and done from a chick. Thoughts and comments appreciated.

 

[Franco]

TDH,

So is this just a one and done scenario? Any way to recover this? Confused as to where I went wrong. This is the first time in a while (at least that I can recall) getting the one and done from a chick. Thoughts and comments appreciated.

It sounds to me like the girl might have just been legitimately looking for one night of fun, which does happen on occasion. I probably would have waited a little while longer (or maybe had some more conversation with her) before directly inviting her over again, however. After the first night of bedding a girl, she'll be looking to see what kind of man you are by how you treat her. Although she may want sex again, if she feels like you're just looking for another easy lay without any bonding, then she may go into ego depletion and choose to cut you off.

The other possibility is that she didn't enjoy the sex all that much and isn't willing to give you another shot at it. But you'll have to determine whether or not you think she was having an "orgasmic" sexual experience with you.

I would just not contact her again for a couple of weeks, and she may get back to you. It simply might be that you pushed for a second meet-up quickly and she's worried that you're the needy type, so you might need to give her some space and let her chase you down. In the meantime, don't focus too much on her and focus on finding the next girl to bed.

- Franco

 

[TheDarkHalf]

TDH,

So is this just a one and done scenario? Any way to recover this? Confused as to where I went wrong. This is the first time in a while (at least that I can recall) getting the one and done from a chick. Thoughts and comments appreciated.

It sounds to me like the girl might have just been legitimately looking for one night of fun, which does happen on occasion. I probably would have waited a little while longer (or maybe had some more conversation with her) before directly inviting her over again, however. After the first night of bedding a girl, she'll be looking to see what kind of man you are by how you treat her. Although she may want sex again, if she feels like you're just looking for another easy lay without any bonding, then she may go into ego depletion and choose to cut you off.

The other possibility is that she didn't enjoy the sex all that much and isn't willing to give you another shot at it. But you'll have to determine whether or not you think she was having an "orgasmic" sexual experience with you.

I would just not contact her again for a couple of weeks, and she may get back to you. It simply might be that you pushed for a second meet-up quickly and she's worried that you're the needy type, so you might need to give her some space and let her chase you down. In the meantime, don't focus too much on her and focus on finding the next girl to bed.

- Franco

Thanks for the insight. Def not worried about it....just needed to consult the higher powers to help me get a better understanding of what the deal was so I don't repeatedly make the same mistake. In my mind, I hadn't many any mistakes, which was why I was left wondering wtf the deal was.

On to the next!

 

[Knightrain]

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just needed to consult the higher powers

hahaha, some of the guys on these boards are really funny

 

[TheDarkHalf]

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just needed to consult the higher powers

hahaha, some of the guys on these boards are really funny

LOL thanks dude!

I wasn't really sure where else to turn. In my opinion asking the woman what went wrong is a serious no-no as I feel like it displays a lack of confidence and insecurity (neither of which I have a problem with). I am a detail oriented/technical guy, and I needed to consult someone whose awareness is greater than mine, and make a mental note going forward. NBD...there will be others.