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If you wait too long into an interaction, it can be obvious when you start checking out the logistics of some girl you're wanting to take home. So what I typically recommend these days is finding out the logistics of a girl early into an interaction.
You don't want to worry about this when you're still figuring out if she likes you, but as soon as you can see it's on - she's complying with you, following you when you want to move her, asking you questions, touching you, clearly invested - start sorting out her logistics.
Ask her these, and then you know what her logistics are like in case you need to use them (e.g., you want to invite yourself back to her place).
This has the added advantage of somewhat indirectly seeding your sexual intent early on... girls who aren't into you will get uncomfortable, which is an obvious sign they don't feel that way about you, while girls who like you - even if they're conservative, even if you think they aren't quite "ready" for that yet - will be intrigued and excited, because now they're starting to feel like, oh, yes - he might like me too!
It gets her thinking about it, gets her excited about it (if she likes you), and it gives you clarity on logistics so you're prepared in advance when you need to handle these later.
Chase
You don't want to worry about this when you're still figuring out if she likes you, but as soon as you can see it's on - she's complying with you, following you when you want to move her, asking you questions, touching you, clearly invested - start sorting out her logistics.
- What part of town do you live in?
- Are you in an apartment or a dorm room or... what's your place like?
- Oh cool... big place, lots of roommates?
- Did you come here with friends tonight? Have to leave at a certain time?
Ask her these, and then you know what her logistics are like in case you need to use them (e.g., you want to invite yourself back to her place).
This has the added advantage of somewhat indirectly seeding your sexual intent early on... girls who aren't into you will get uncomfortable, which is an obvious sign they don't feel that way about you, while girls who like you - even if they're conservative, even if you think they aren't quite "ready" for that yet - will be intrigued and excited, because now they're starting to feel like, oh, yes - he might like me too!
It gets her thinking about it, gets her excited about it (if she likes you), and it gives you clarity on logistics so you're prepared in advance when you need to handle these later.
Chase
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