second boyfriend

[shaneawi]

I've got a girl who I go to school with. I'm pretty sure she's attracted to me. I've talked to her twice. She's very excited when I talk to her, she blushes, smiles, and she's really shy around me and self conscience around me as well and not other guys.

After class, I started talking to one of her friends who is a girl, just friendly conversation, and I saw out of the corner of my eye that the girl who is attracted to me was staring at me while I was talking to her friend and she tried to get me to notice her while I was talking to her friend.

This girl is currently in a relationship and has been in a relationship for the past 10 years so I never tried to move forward with her. Should I try and get closer to this girl or just let it go? I'm not sure if she's looking to break up with her boyfriend or what.

 

[Drck]

Hi shaneawi,

Many times guys get far ahead in their minds with the girl they like. They talk to here here and there, and maybe they kiss and hug. She is sweet and she likes him, so he is in seventh heaven in his mind; he found exactly what he was looking for. He then wants to see her every single day, he wants to date her for the next month, move in with her within two weeks later and marry her as soon as she says she loves him....

And it works sometimes, sometimes Love at first sight happens and it is mutual, and it lasts the whole Life. Most of the time it however doesn't happen this way, and she may easily perceive the guy as too needy, too clingy and too impatient. Which is unfortunate, because this exact behavior caused by him liking her too much results in the opposite result than he was hoping for...

Most of the time the girl wants to take it slowly. Maybeshe doesn't want to marry the guy right away, and maybe not even date him. He just seems very attractive and interesting, so she just wants to talk to him, to find out what kind of person he is,what he likes, what does he do, what are his passions.... Maybe she knows that he's looking at her many times, so she's checking him out too.... Maybe she is just looking just for another great friend in stead of another boyfriend... she's the only one who really knows...

So much better approach is to take it slower, keep it more real in just step by step pre-planned approach, and without being too overwhelmed by own imagination about great future... See, sometimes the greater the expectations are, the greater the disappointment...

Just talking to her couple of times is not a bad idea. Always Assuming Attraction is always great idea. Trusting in yourself, believing that you are a great guy and every girl wants you is another great idea. After that, asking her out is the best idea because that is the only way find out what are her true feelings and true intentions...

Hope it helps