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Those of you who have been following know that I’ve been working the online dating scene. Tonight was also my second experience with a polyamorous woman, and something I learned from my first is that just because she is polyamorous doesn’t mean she won’t put up typical objections to pulling. Tonight’s girl proved to be no exception, and I’m particularly looking for advice on how to improve my pulling skills. To put things in perspective, she is a 25 year-old dirty blond with nice curves. A solid 8 and 8 years my junior.
I used an opener different from what I usually use. It’s actually the same that I used on the other polyamorous gal, but it’s something I came up myself and comes from my heart. I really do think it’s cool when someone, male or female, is able to see through the social B.S. and double-standards.
She texted me that she’s free tonight (Monday) or Thursday. I’m typically booked on those days, but I decide to call off my Monday plans for her (I don’t tell her this of course). We agree to have drinks at 8:30pm.
She later texts me to ask if she should eat beforehand. Strange…I thought the time and drink date is obvious that we won’t be eating. Since I was running behind (I have a bad habit of being late everywhere), I tell her to meet at 9pm so she has time to eat and I can shower. To make a long story short, I almost lose the date because she suggests meeting another day so I don’t rush, but I save it by telling her to meet at 8:45pm instead.
Ironically, she arrives at 9pm anyway because she was still eating. As I do with all dates, I give her a big hug and kiss on the cheek…but this time, I decide to let my hand slide down her arm as well. I don’t know what came over me…probably because she was so cute and I couldn’t help myself
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Curveball: Our venue decided to close 1.5 hours early because “business was slow.” I make the decision to have drinks inside the Italian restaurant next door.
We only have drinks, and things are going pretty well (I think). She is leaning into me, I lean back and reward her with leaning in when she’s investing. She qualifies herself, and I’m deep diving her. Things are fun, flirty, and intimate. I think I’m getting better with comfort. I didn’t use any sexual innuendos though because I still struggle with winging those. Any default ones I can use, guys?
I recently watched “Casino Royale,” and my god, Daniel Craig’s body language, tonality, and game is incredible. I actually learned a lot from that film, haha. Anyway, I try to channel him, especially in the scene where he pulls that one brunette at the hotel. How? At about 50 minutes into our conversation, I know she's into me, I change topics back to DJing so I can suggest that I give her a training lesson. I give her the same look that Daniel Craig gives to that brunette—unflinching, strong, confident eye contact and a subtle smirk. She thinks about it for a second, and agrees. As we pay our checks, I bullshit banter so the transition isn’t awkward. Unfortunately, a few minutes later, she says she thinks she’ll be going home because she needs to wake up early, but that she’ll like to see me again. She even asks me if I’d like to see her again. I tell her I’d love to see her again (I read somewhere that you should not say you’d like to see her again, but she’s asking me directly, and she already said she’d like to see me, so I felt it’s right to reward her). Anyway, I stay calm, and she explains what she needs to do tomorrow and I ask a little about it. I persist again by teasing her that she’s a party pooper and that the night is still young. She still objects and I tell her it’s only going to be 30 minutes. I don’t let her respond and tell her let’s go and we leave the restaurant.
I ramp up kino by holding her waist as we walk to her car. I tell her she’ll drive, but she objects and tells me to stop being so pushy! I decide to stop persisting and walk over to her and give her a peck on the lips (she did not give any resistance or did not turn her head). Didn’t want to risk anything with a makeout until I’ve pulled her. I hold her close to me and stare into her eyes (to create sexual tension) and tell her that she tastes nice and she laughs. I let her go and we go our separate ways. I opted not to tell her that I had a great evening because I already told her I’d love to see her again earlier and I wanted to end the night on an interesting note. Not sure if that’s the right call.
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Post-mortem:
I used an opener different from what I usually use. It’s actually the same that I used on the other polyamorous gal, but it’s something I came up myself and comes from my heart. I really do think it’s cool when someone, male or female, is able to see through the social B.S. and double-standards.
She texted me that she’s free tonight (Monday) or Thursday. I’m typically booked on those days, but I decide to call off my Monday plans for her (I don’t tell her this of course). We agree to have drinks at 8:30pm.
She later texts me to ask if she should eat beforehand. Strange…I thought the time and drink date is obvious that we won’t be eating. Since I was running behind (I have a bad habit of being late everywhere), I tell her to meet at 9pm so she has time to eat and I can shower. To make a long story short, I almost lose the date because she suggests meeting another day so I don’t rush, but I save it by telling her to meet at 8:45pm instead.
Ironically, she arrives at 9pm anyway because she was still eating. As I do with all dates, I give her a big hug and kiss on the cheek…but this time, I decide to let my hand slide down her arm as well. I don’t know what came over me…probably because she was so cute and I couldn’t help myself
.Curveball: Our venue decided to close 1.5 hours early because “business was slow.” I make the decision to have drinks inside the Italian restaurant next door.
We only have drinks, and things are going pretty well (I think). She is leaning into me, I lean back and reward her with leaning in when she’s investing. She qualifies herself, and I’m deep diving her. Things are fun, flirty, and intimate. I think I’m getting better with comfort.
I didn’t use any sexual innuendos though because I still struggle with winging those. Any default ones I can use, guys?I recently watched “Casino Royale,” and my god, Daniel Craig’s body language, tonality, and game is incredible. I actually learned a lot from that film, haha. Anyway, I try to channel him, especially in the scene where he pulls that one brunette at the hotel. How? At about 50 minutes into our conversation, I know she's into me, I change topics back to DJing so I can suggest that I give her a training lesson. I give her the same look that Daniel Craig gives to that brunette—unflinching, strong, confident eye contact and a subtle smirk. She thinks about it for a second, and agrees. As we pay our checks, I bullshit banter so the transition isn’t awkward. Unfortunately, a few minutes later, she says she thinks she’ll be going home because she needs to wake up early, but that she’ll like to see me again. She even asks me if I’d like to see her again. I tell her I’d love to see her again (I read somewhere that you should not say you’d like to see her again, but she’s asking me directly, and she already said she’d like to see me, so I felt it’s right to reward her). Anyway, I stay calm, and she explains what she needs to do tomorrow and I ask a little about it. I persist again by teasing her that she’s a party pooper and that the night is still young. She still objects and I tell her it’s only going to be 30 minutes. I don’t let her respond and tell her let’s go and we leave the restaurant.
I ramp up kino by holding her waist as we walk to her car. I tell her she’ll drive, but she objects and tells me to stop being so pushy! I decide to stop persisting and walk over to her and give her a peck on the lips (she did not give any resistance or did not turn her head). Didn’t want to risk anything with a makeout until I’ve pulled her. I hold her close to me and stare into her eyes (to create sexual tension) and tell her that she tastes nice and she laughs. I let her go and we go our separate ways. I opted not to tell her that I had a great evening because I already told her I’d love to see her again earlier and I wanted to end the night on an interesting note. Not sure if that’s the right call.
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Post-mortem:
- I told myself that if a girl were to ever agree to a pull, but later objects, I would persist until she complies. She did at one point agree, so she wants to, but when she told me to stop being so pushy, I felt like it would be too much to persist past that. Agree/disagree? I think next time, I'm going to use that yes ladder.
- Tomorrow morning, I’ll tell her that I enjoyed the evening. I know she has Thursday evening open, but she also told me in our date that her openings get booked really fast, so I’m contemplating suggesting a second date tomorrow. But I think that’s too soon, so I’ll probably suggest the second date the day after tomorrow (still a bit on the fast side, but I feel like I need to make things happen fast).
- Did I fuck things up by being too pushy with the pull? If so, what damage control options do I have? I'm thinking of explaining to her that I get overly excited when someone else is interested in DJ stuff so she doesn't think I'm only interested in her for sex.
- Any suggestions for DEFAULT sexual innuendos/chase frames? I'm having a hard time coming up with them on the fly. When I do pull them off, sparks fly, so I see the great value in them.
- I'm seeing the value in trying all sorts of stuff. This is the second time my improv classes have helped me relate. She told me she wanted to be an actress, and we hit it off when I told her I was taking improv classes and she expressed how she loves improv and how she used to be in drama and theater. She studies science now lol. I need to expand the variety of life experiences. Comes really useful!
