Hey guys, first post here.
This is going to be a different sort of post than the ones you normally read, and I want you to do so with an open, non-judgmental, mind.
I’ve been in a committed relationship for the past decade and am satisfied with my current love life… but, as a 34 year old man, I have been feeling some regrets that I’m wasting my prime years regarding seducing and bedding women. So I’ve been thinking a lot lately about fooling around.
And a quick disclaimer, I’m currently in a country where men cheating, while frowned upon, is not uncommon, and may even be expected sometimes. So culturally, cheating (as a man) here is not viewed as negatively as in it is in some other countries.
Long story short: there’s this hot woman at my workplace that I’ve been flirting with. Get the feeling she digs me too or at least finds me attractive by the way she looks at me (lingering gazes and look downs). I actually tried reaching out to her via text a few weeks ago just to better gauge her interest but got lukewarm responses, and poor effort to keep the conversation going.
Thing is, she knows I’m in a relationship (and actually knows my SO), so she’s probably holding back.
And by the way, I consider myself to be a good looking guy, who dresses himself well and holds a high paying position, so value I don’t think is the problem here. I actually know a guy she used to hook up with and, in comparison, I think I firmly fit her type of men.
Could be she’s really not interested, but could be an attainability problem in that she knows I’m not truly available. So these past few days I’ve backed off a bit to let things cool down and to avoid a chase dynamic.
We work at different sectors, so we don’t meet each other personally on a daily basis, a few times a week we bump into each other in the hallways or during get-togethers that happen couple of times a month. That’s where the “flirting” (as far as a work environment permits) I mentioned happens.
So here’s where I want your help.
Next month there will be a convention at a beach resort held during a week. Lots of us are going, her included, along with a few hundred people from all over the country.
I realize this seems like mission impossible with all the logistical barriers (work, relationship), but what seduction strategies can you guys think up in this case?
I’ve already booked a separate room in a hotel across the street from the resort the last night of the trip.
Current plan is to try to get her out of the resort to go sightseeing on that last evening/night, then stop somewhere for drinks, try to isolate somehow and escalate, then conjure up some way to get her to my hotel.
Again I realize this specific situation is extremely risky and morally questionable, but I urge you to put aside your judgments, and help brainstorm some strategies with me.
TLDR: in a relationship but thinking of cheating with a coworker, ask how I can get through the logistical barriers to do this.
This is going to be a different sort of post than the ones you normally read, and I want you to do so with an open, non-judgmental, mind.
I’ve been in a committed relationship for the past decade and am satisfied with my current love life… but, as a 34 year old man, I have been feeling some regrets that I’m wasting my prime years regarding seducing and bedding women. So I’ve been thinking a lot lately about fooling around.
And a quick disclaimer, I’m currently in a country where men cheating, while frowned upon, is not uncommon, and may even be expected sometimes. So culturally, cheating (as a man) here is not viewed as negatively as in it is in some other countries.
Long story short: there’s this hot woman at my workplace that I’ve been flirting with. Get the feeling she digs me too or at least finds me attractive by the way she looks at me (lingering gazes and look downs). I actually tried reaching out to her via text a few weeks ago just to better gauge her interest but got lukewarm responses, and poor effort to keep the conversation going.
Thing is, she knows I’m in a relationship (and actually knows my SO), so she’s probably holding back.
And by the way, I consider myself to be a good looking guy, who dresses himself well and holds a high paying position, so value I don’t think is the problem here. I actually know a guy she used to hook up with and, in comparison, I think I firmly fit her type of men.
Could be she’s really not interested, but could be an attainability problem in that she knows I’m not truly available. So these past few days I’ve backed off a bit to let things cool down and to avoid a chase dynamic.
We work at different sectors, so we don’t meet each other personally on a daily basis, a few times a week we bump into each other in the hallways or during get-togethers that happen couple of times a month. That’s where the “flirting” (as far as a work environment permits) I mentioned happens.
So here’s where I want your help.
Next month there will be a convention at a beach resort held during a week. Lots of us are going, her included, along with a few hundred people from all over the country.
I realize this seems like mission impossible with all the logistical barriers (work, relationship), but what seduction strategies can you guys think up in this case?
I’ve already booked a separate room in a hotel across the street from the resort the last night of the trip.
Current plan is to try to get her out of the resort to go sightseeing on that last evening/night, then stop somewhere for drinks, try to isolate somehow and escalate, then conjure up some way to get her to my hotel.
Again I realize this specific situation is extremely risky and morally questionable, but I urge you to put aside your judgments, and help brainstorm some strategies with me.
TLDR: in a relationship but thinking of cheating with a coworker, ask how I can get through the logistical barriers to do this.
