Rejections hurt, no doubt about it. You know this girl for some time now, she is very close to you both mentally and emotionally, you feel that you are connected and there is this great vibe. Maybe she is 8-9 on your scale, everything is perfect. You feel the highest feelings you possibly can, you think this is finally The Match you were waiting for so long, and can't even imagine being singe again. She does things for you, investing, you think about her when you go sleep and you wake up with her name in your mind...
Then something happen, she is getting cold, maybe suddenly, maybe slowly. You try to do things to get her back, talk to her, making sense of it for yourself, worrying what you messed up and what you should have done instead, you think and think, and the more you try the faster she's moving away. If you don't try, she's gone too, you simply have no choice, you have no say, it is out of your hands. You can't do anything.
Now you feel hopeless, the woman that made you feel so good is avoiding you, wouldn't talk to you, and when she does she may even be very nice about it, she may make it seem as if nothing ever happened between you two. She became cold, she simply doesn't care, you feel so alone. You know you will never see her again, that is the better case scenario. The worse case scenario is that you will be seeing the woman you still love here and there, with someone else, someone who is not even so called alpha, just average guy. Somehow you know, you just know that it will take you long weeks, months, and maybe even years before you get over it.
The pain is very real. It hurts, you are depressed, you even wonder what is the purpose of living your life. That it might take you many years before you find someone just like that again. You want to give up, you have no energy for anything, you don't know what to do being alone. But it is a good pain, it is great pain, and you shouldn't try to avoid a single second of it. The pain should become your best friend.
Why is that? Because eventually you get desensitized to it. Your mind will get used to it. Maybe you'll get rejected three or four times more, and each time there is less and less pain. Then you will start seeing a pattern in these rejections, and perhaps you'll go willingly for more. You will realize that you have some power over rejections, and that is simply the more rejected you get the less you care.
Then you will embrace rejections, you will even teach yourself to feel great about them and to laugh at them. You'll make peace with rejections.
Now, why is that? Because they will give you freedom. Freedom to hit on any great women you see. Freedom to talk to them, freedom to say what you want to say without worrying what she'll think of you. You could care less if she rejects you, you'll even laugh on her attempts to rejects you in a way so you don't get hurt, and great women do it "painlessly", they truly don't want to hurt you and they will spent quite an effort to invent a way that won't hurt you. Why would they want to hurt you? You are a great and guy - she's just not interested, hurting you just doesn't make sense.
With this freedom you can talk to any woman you want, you'll stop worrying whether you messed up, you won't really care much if she likes you. You won't give her too much of a value no matter how hot she is. You even stop worrying about getting the highest available women out there, you'll realize that they simply don't worth it, too much effort, too much investment, too much thinking how to get them. You'll stop following them, chasing after them. You'll have freedom to experience your own techniques, you'll simply do things you think are good to get laid without worrying about the outcome. You'll get tremendous confidence, because after all there is nothing she can do to you, she's already rejected you - at least in your mind. This all is actually quite attractive, it is the opposite than most guys do.
So go out there and get rejected. Choose one great girl, sorry, she has to take one for the team for purpose of practice, she just needs to reject you. Put her on a pedestal from the very moment you meet her, bring her flowers, write some poem for her, invite her for expensive dinner, do things for her. Text her and call her several times per day, tell her you can't live without her. Supplicate, apologize, be nice, show her puppy eyes, be jealous of anyone she talks to, show some drama, be as Beta as you can - and watch how she will rejects you. She will, she has no choice. Then go home and celebrate, reward yourself with getting something good for you. Get rejected couple of more times, just for practice, and always celebrate.
I did it with couple of girls/women, just for fun. It is really great experience. This one poor co-worker had to reject me 47 times. That is when I stopped counting. Guess what, she was always very polite about it, never tried to hurt, was always gentle and sweet. The only thing I regret is that I never promised her that I will find her in a different life, that it may take 10,000 lives but I will find her no matter what (I actually saw this one in a movie recently, 47 Ronin, it was hilarious) That ways she could think about me that I am really total and helpless looser.
What is the worst case scenario that your plan to get rejected won't work - you get laid? Sorry. If you get laid you miserably failed as a looser. You need to dump her as soon as possible and find some real girl who doesn't feel bad for dumping your ass.
Make her dump you, no mercy!
Then something happen, she is getting cold, maybe suddenly, maybe slowly. You try to do things to get her back, talk to her, making sense of it for yourself, worrying what you messed up and what you should have done instead, you think and think, and the more you try the faster she's moving away. If you don't try, she's gone too, you simply have no choice, you have no say, it is out of your hands. You can't do anything.
Now you feel hopeless, the woman that made you feel so good is avoiding you, wouldn't talk to you, and when she does she may even be very nice about it, she may make it seem as if nothing ever happened between you two. She became cold, she simply doesn't care, you feel so alone. You know you will never see her again, that is the better case scenario. The worse case scenario is that you will be seeing the woman you still love here and there, with someone else, someone who is not even so called alpha, just average guy. Somehow you know, you just know that it will take you long weeks, months, and maybe even years before you get over it.
The pain is very real. It hurts, you are depressed, you even wonder what is the purpose of living your life. That it might take you many years before you find someone just like that again. You want to give up, you have no energy for anything, you don't know what to do being alone. But it is a good pain, it is great pain, and you shouldn't try to avoid a single second of it. The pain should become your best friend.
Why is that? Because eventually you get desensitized to it. Your mind will get used to it. Maybe you'll get rejected three or four times more, and each time there is less and less pain. Then you will start seeing a pattern in these rejections, and perhaps you'll go willingly for more. You will realize that you have some power over rejections, and that is simply the more rejected you get the less you care.
Then you will embrace rejections, you will even teach yourself to feel great about them and to laugh at them. You'll make peace with rejections.
Now, why is that? Because they will give you freedom. Freedom to hit on any great women you see. Freedom to talk to them, freedom to say what you want to say without worrying what she'll think of you. You could care less if she rejects you, you'll even laugh on her attempts to rejects you in a way so you don't get hurt, and great women do it "painlessly", they truly don't want to hurt you and they will spent quite an effort to invent a way that won't hurt you. Why would they want to hurt you? You are a great and guy - she's just not interested, hurting you just doesn't make sense.
With this freedom you can talk to any woman you want, you'll stop worrying whether you messed up, you won't really care much if she likes you. You won't give her too much of a value no matter how hot she is. You even stop worrying about getting the highest available women out there, you'll realize that they simply don't worth it, too much effort, too much investment, too much thinking how to get them. You'll stop following them, chasing after them. You'll have freedom to experience your own techniques, you'll simply do things you think are good to get laid without worrying about the outcome. You'll get tremendous confidence, because after all there is nothing she can do to you, she's already rejected you - at least in your mind. This all is actually quite attractive, it is the opposite than most guys do.
So go out there and get rejected. Choose one great girl, sorry, she has to take one for the team for purpose of practice, she just needs to reject you. Put her on a pedestal from the very moment you meet her, bring her flowers, write some poem for her, invite her for expensive dinner, do things for her. Text her and call her several times per day, tell her you can't live without her. Supplicate, apologize, be nice, show her puppy eyes, be jealous of anyone she talks to, show some drama, be as Beta as you can - and watch how she will rejects you. She will, she has no choice. Then go home and celebrate, reward yourself with getting something good for you. Get rejected couple of more times, just for practice, and always celebrate.
I did it with couple of girls/women, just for fun. It is really great experience. This one poor co-worker had to reject me 47 times. That is when I stopped counting. Guess what, she was always very polite about it, never tried to hurt, was always gentle and sweet. The only thing I regret is that I never promised her that I will find her in a different life, that it may take 10,000 lives but I will find her no matter what (I actually saw this one in a movie recently, 47 Ronin, it was hilarious) That ways she could think about me that I am really total and helpless looser.
What is the worst case scenario that your plan to get rejected won't work - you get laid? Sorry. If you get laid you miserably failed as a looser. You need to dump her as soon as possible and find some real girl who doesn't feel bad for dumping your ass.
Make her dump you, no mercy!
