Seeking advice: Crushing but unsure of LTR

[leverage]

Hi. I am in a situation and would appreciate some advice.

A girl I have been friends with for about 6 months. Always seen her as a friend, hang out every now and then. We enjoy each other's company. She invited me to her place and cooked me dinner for the first time recently (nothing else happened) but from the next day I have been crushing on her pretty hard, constantly thinking of her etc.

What should I do? I am unsure if I want a long term relationship with her. Should I tell her about my feelings? Should I try to sleep with her? Or should I just continue the platonic friendship and keep my emotions to myself?

Greatly appreciate any advice, scenarios, analogies etc. I am quite a novice with relationships.

Thanks!

 

[Thinkingenigma]

First you need to figure out what you are looking for from this relationship. Second, you need to figure out if you're friend-zoned, in which case, this discussion is moot. Third, if you do want to pursue a relationship with her, you need to sleep with her, not randomly confess your feelings for her (that's how I ended up losing a gorgeous Asian girl a few months ago). That will only make her want to stay away from you.

 

[diegoC]

As Thinkingenigma advice, you shouldn't tell her your feelings. In your case I would try to introduce some sexual tension to see what happens. Start looking her differently so she notices it. When talking, look at her lips (in a natural way, find a good moment to do so), start using pauses and just looking at her eyes. See what happens. She might bring it up and lay the ground for you so you cant let her know you are interested in her.

Cheers!

 

[leverage]

Will definitely keep in mind that telling a girl your feelings is an attraction killer. Guess now I need to figure if I want the relationship to be just friends, or whether I want to pursue something more.

Many thanks for the advice.