Seing the girl again after sex

[Winston]

I was complaining to a more experienced guy that for 4 of my last lays, I did not managed to see the girl again.
And while at least with 1 of the girl the sex wasn't probably the best it could have been, I am 100% sure the sex was outstanding with another one, and I think it was quite good with the 2 others. So I didn't see how this pattern could be connected to sex quality.

And he gives me this simple advice:

"When you set up the meeting after sex, go do something outside your place with the girl and then bring her back to your place. They just feel too slutty if the second meeting is straight inside your place or hers"

I answered him : "Will this not set up a kind of boyfriend frame?"

He told me: "oh no don't worry about that at all. The first meeting after sex is the only time you have to do that. For all the following meetings you can meet directly inside."

So what do you guys think of that? Is this a good advice in your opinion? Is this something you do?

I think this is spot on. Because for one of the girl (the one with who the sex was really good) she initially agreed to meet again outside, but then I sent her a vocal saying instead we should meet directly at her place.

She initially agreed with that, but then when the evening before I sent a text to confirm the meeting, she answered me with a bullshit excuse saying she just meet someone else and we should stop seeing each other. So it fits perfectly with what my guy just told me.

 

[Fuck This]

I'd second your buddies advice...Retention is normally going to be less for a same night lay than if a woman feels somewhat bonded through other non sex encounters....

She's not locked in until the Second time you sleep with her and make her cum. I didn't realize how powerful that second shag was until I'd spent 2 nights with a woman I'd met in the Hotel bar. She wanted me to stay over the third night with her. Before that second night, she wanted to meet in the bar, and not go directly to her room....

I also found better lock -in when the first over night was a weekend and we spent a day/night/day/night together.
There is something about a post-shag meal together that will also create more bonding. A b it of bonding is necessary for a regular sex partner as well as a girlfriend

 

[TomInHo]

I was complaining to a more experienced guy that for 4 of my last lays, I did not managed to see the girl again.
And while at least with 1 of the girl the sex wasn't probably the best it could have been, I am 100% sure the sex was outstanding with another one, and I think it was quite good with the 2 others. So I didn't see how this pattern could be connected to sex quality.

And he gives me this simple advice:

"When you set up the meeting after sex, go do something outside your place with the girl and then bring her back to your place. They just feel too slutty if the second meeting is straight inside your place or hers"

I answered him : "Will this not set up a kind of boyfriend frame?"

He told me: "oh no don't worry about that at all. The first meeting after sex is the only time you have to do that. For all the following meetings you can meet directly inside."

So what do you guys think of that? Is this a good advice in your opinion? Is this something you do?

I think this is spot on. Because for one of the girl (the one with who the sex was really good) she initially agreed to meet again outside, but then I sent her a vocal saying instead we should meet directly at her place.

She initially agreed with that, but then when the evening before I sent a text to confirm the meeting, she answered me with a bullshit excuse saying she just meet someone else and we should stop seeing each other. So it fits perfectly with what my guy just told me.

Your friend gave great advice

For retention you want the girl to feel like you potentially care about her beyond her pussy. Somethings you can do post lay are

1) Cuddle after sex
2) Talk more and get to know her better by keeping conversation focused on her
3) Do multiple rounds
4) Go out for an activity post sex and come back home for sex again. (This can be done on the same day too)
5) Have her spend the night
6) Tell her to text you when she gets home

Notice how you didn't make any promises of a serious relationship but show through your actions that you are not a total fuck boi

If you want girls coming back you have to give them some hope that there could be more to you than sex. And the more they feel like you respect them as people the more likely they will comply with your wishes in the ongoing relationship

 

[Skills]

I was complaining to a more experienced guy that for 4 of my last lays, I did not managed to see the girl again.
And while at least with 1 of the girl the sex wasn't probably the best it could have been, I am 100% sure the sex was outstanding with another one, and I think it was quite good with the 2 others. So I didn't see how this pattern could be connected to sex quality.

And he gives me this simple advice:

"When you set up the meeting after sex, go do something outside your place with the girl and then bring her back to your place. They just feel too slutty if the second meeting is straight inside your place or hers"

I answered him : "Will this not set up a kind of boyfriend frame?"

He told me: "oh no don't worry about that at all. The first meeting after sex is the only time you have to do that. For all the following meetings you can meet directly inside."

So what do you guys think of that? Is this a good advice in your opinion? Is this something you do?

I think this is spot on. Because for one of the girl (the one with who the sex was really good) she initially agreed to meet again outside, but then I sent her a vocal saying instead we should meet directly at her place.

She initially agreed with that, but then when the evening before I sent a text to confirm the meeting, she answered me with a bullshit excuse saying she just meet someone else and we should stop seeing each other. So it fits perfectly with what my guy just told me.

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