Self esteem - CHASE ( would love to see your answer)

[Whysoserious]

Hello guys, I have some questions about self esteem here.
Honestly,
What’s exactly is high self esteem ?
What are the behaviours and mindsets of high self esteem people ?
How high self esteem people are different from low self esteem people ?

I clearly don’t have high self esteem. I really need some advice.
Thanks

 

[Tony D]

Self esteem comes with confidence. You're confident usually when you're good at something, and when you receive validation for your skills, talents, or actions.

High self esteem people may have confidence in their physical beauty because people have always validated them. "Oh, you're so good looking," etc. Or they may be great musicians, and base their personal value on that, "You're an amazing guitar player. Can I suck your dick?"

It's the internal dialogue. "I'm too short, too old, etc." High self esteem people don't have a lot of these inner dialogues. They're more present in the moment, and ping others for feedback a lot less. Because they're confident they don't require as much external validation.

I'm confident in my writing, but if I don't receive any compliments for a very long time, I start to doubt my talent, until I receive a compliment. Then I grow in confidence, because I feel I'm skilled, and then I don't require validation again for some time.

That's just human nature. We go up and down in our self esteem.