Set getting interrupted by a 'concerned' feminist

[Skippy]

So I was at a college town area (not the literal campus but the shops nearby so it's mostly students anyway) and I opened this Blonde with amazing green eyes. She responds well and stops to chat. She was very bubbly and social although I don't think she fully hooked in the sense that she didn't ask me any questions back directly but she would always 'vibe' on whatever I was saying, if that makes sense.

THEN out of nowhere some mid girl with frumpy brown hair comes up to us as if she knows the blonde. So I ask her if she's her friend and she's like "we can be friends". The feminist then asks "Did you guys just meet?" and we say yeah, and then she introduces herself, gets our names and starts asking the Blonde where she's headed. The blondie says the grocery store around the corner. The girl asks her if she needs her to drive her there (lol its literally the corner remember) and if she's gonna be okay. And the blondie is says she's fine.

So the feminist walks off to her car. Completely ignoring me. But after that, the blondie also said she needed to get going so we all go our separate ways. As I walk off, I notice the feminist still looking at me with this distasteful expression on her face. So I'm like "fuck I need to get out of this area asap" in case she starts following me around and tanking my sets.

In college areas, I only open indirect and I don't number close or anything unless I feel it's super on. And if anything I've been more stifled as of late and have been ejecting if the set isn't going well. The only 'risky' thing of the whole situation that I can think of was me opening a girl after sunset...BUT it was like 6pm on an extremely well-lit stretch of pavement...

I'm wondering how I should've handled this extra girl coming into the set. Because on one hand I don't think the set was going to go anywhere and it was probably only 5-10 seconds away from turning awkward since she wasn't directly asking me anything. So eventually there would've been an awkward silence once I run out of stuff to say. However, she did stop to talk and she was also very 'stimulated' by the conversation. So how would you call out the feminist in a chill way?

Also, I'm wondering what to do about this college campus. Maybe I'll just wait a few weeks and resume gaming? maybe only focus on the busier campus area vs the quieter college town? It would be a shame to have to drop this venue from my roster over something minor like that. Also this is a public university so the risk of getting 'banned' are even lower here...

 

[Regal Tiger]

I had a store employee try to do something similar, though not as hardcore. I just turned to the person I was chatting with and said we're okay right? Once she said that she was I asked the interloper to not be so rude and to leave

Not much could be done at that point from the rude bitch, nice girl already said that we were good


Only happened once though, so take it with a grain of salt. Also, we did end up going on a date later but she turned out to be one of those virgin until marriage types :'(

 

[Chase]

@Skippy,

Ideological people are annoying, aren’t they?

Anyway, when someone shows up spoiling for a fight, the best thing to do is rain on his parade.

What I suggest for your scenario and others like it:

1. Don’t break circle first.
   
   
2. If the girl breaks circle, talk to the girl, not the interruptor first (“Good friend of yours?”).
   
   
3. If the girl breaks circle, doesn’t know the other person, but doesn’t shoo him/her away, you can then have some fun at the interloper’s expense (e.g., lean in and half whisper “I think she wants to be your Mom or something”).

The goal here when someone runs up making things awkward, at least if you ask me, is to start cracking jokes at the awkward person’s expense to alleviate the awkward feelings by putting them where they rightfully belong (i.e., on the socially awkward interloper). If you don’t do this there’s a risk the girl you’re talking to will just feel generally awkward and want to flee from both/all the other new people collectively. Then it’s just you and Awkward Annie standing around staring daggers at each other.

So just maneuver to the point where you can make Awkward Annie the butt of the joke — not only does it get you out of dodge, but it’ll make her less likely to be so quick to play the role of spoiler should she encounter other budding romances she sees a chance to snuff out.

It may not have worked perfect here since it wasn’t clicking with the girl anyway… but at least you’d still have given the crusading feminist hero a little boot on her way back out of the set

Doubt I’d worry much about the campus. You said you weren’t even on campus. I wouldn’t be concerned unless I started noticing this ogress stalking me around. At which case, you might start wishing for the days of the scold’s bridle… these days some quips might have to suffice: “Hey lady, if you’re trying to get a date with me this is a really weird way to go about it.”

Chase

 

[Skippy]

Thanks for the responses guys! Really helps with understanding how to frame the Awkward Annie in the future.

I realize that in order for her to even have a chance of stepping into the interaction, it has to already be going okay at least. Otherwise it would've fizzled out before she even has time to walk over and cockblock.

And I thought about afterwards and understood how crucial it really is to move her over to the side so that it's more inconspicuous. Hell, even get locked in so that it's harder for an observer to come in. And if it's on campus there's usually plenty of seating in the immediate vicinity. So no need for me to be still standing there in the middle of the walkway with her like some recruiter for a student club. In this case it probably wouldn't have mattered because I think our Baba Yaga saw the whole thing unfolding from her car seat but still it would be an overall good idea anyway.