D'Emp,
Firstly, I know I've really acted awkwardly in the relationship. Anyway, the bottom line behind everything is that am just trying to be persistent to know if I can get to my destination (have sex with her, even if it is once before moving on), because I feel like loosing the battle if I get past her without sleeping with her, and lying her is my target now and that's the sole reason behind the persistence. Isn't the persistence okay?
Persistence is okay maybe within the first 2 to 20 hours of knowing a girl, but you've been seeing this girl for
months. Your persistence failed a LONG time ago, and even if she were to sleep with you at this point, you would still be at the bottom of the totem pole of "sexiness" because it took you so long to do so. Every man that sleeps with her in less than a year's time span (which will probably be just about every other guy she sleeps with in her life at this point) will be considered "more dominant" than you, and you will always be secondary to any other man she meets. There's no hope for you here in my eyes.
You also confirmed that this girl is only 18, so anything she says is utter horseshit because she has no idea what it is she really wants when she's that young. Every thing she says is based on entirely fleeting emotions, and while one day she could say she "loves" you, a week later she could sleep with some other guy and suddenly realize her feelings are MUCH stronger for him than they ever were for you. Does it mean she lied? Not really -- she just believed at the time that what she was feeling was "love," but she doesn't understand those emotions yet because she hasn't experienced them before.
How can I beat these two and move on in no time even when the relationship seems to be ongoing?
I think the first thing you need to do is accept the fact that you were never even in a relationship with this girl to begin with. If you haven't been intimate with her, then you really can't consider it a relationship. She's basically just a "close friend" who is confused about her own feelings and allowed you to become confused about your own as well. Once you accept that this girl was never "yours" to begin with, then that would help free you of the fact that you two were never in some ongoing, deeply-connected engagement.
Once you've accepted this, then you simply need to go out and start approaching and meet women as soon as possible. The more you avoid doing this, the more your mind will continue to drift toward her and you'll have all of these "what ifs" floating around your mind that won't be healthy.
Every guy who comes to this forum is "selective." None of us enjoy dating fat whales or women with terrible personalities or bad fashion. We all want women who are the cream of the crop -- great body, beautiful face, awesome personality, and big dreams. So understand that the reason that you feel like you are "selective" is that you don't approach enough women to realize that there are plenty more as good (or better) than her out there. Once you're approaching enough women, you realize that your ability to get the women that you consider "high quality" increases exponentially.
So just get out there, and approach more women. =)
- Franco
