Hey guys,
Last night a friend of mine, an HB6, was having a birthday party downtown. She lives in the same building as me and was having a pregame, so I went to have a couple of drinks before going out downtown on my own to practice some night game. Some backstory: this girl dated one of my friends, but he cheated on her and since I was friends with both of them I kind of comforted her after this. While I was comforting her, she had been showing me signs of interest, but I never felt comfortable escalating because (1) she's only a 6 and (2) my friend already fucked her. Anyway, Im at this pregame and its me sitting on the couch with the HB6, who I'll call Ginger, and her friend who's also an HB6 who came from out of town. Playing beer pong in the same room are 4 other guys in our social circle.
Me and the two girls are talking on the couch and I talk a little bit with this girl from out of town, I'll call her Ginger#2. It's fun and we're relaxing for 30 min and then I part ways to practice night game and meet them downtown later for Ginger's birthday. When I get to the bar to practice nightgame, I'm already a couple shots in so I'm not super high energy and my sex drive isn't very high. However, I tell myself I'm making at least 5 approaches tonight whether I like it or not, lol.
At the bar I order a beer and see 2 HB6's at the bar, one of which is looking at me. I go over and approach them directly. They hook easily but I'm not super interested and also just feeling really lazy tonight (this is a theme of the night, and probably my greatest downfall). Because I'm feeling lazy, I dont target one girl in particular and the set kind of fizzles out. One of the girls is trying to get me to come to karaoke with them, but fuck that. I grab the hotter of the two's number and we part ways.
Next, I see 4 guys playing beer pong who look like they're having a good time. I go over and they're super fun and take me into their social circle. Just adjacent to them are 4 HB8's watching them play pong. I figure I'll play out my social proof some more, and then I open the 4 of them directly. I make good eye contact with each of them, and I believe my fundamentals are good but im conscious of the fact that I'm being lazy tonight. Therefore, I keep it at small talk with all 4 of them and it also fizzles out. I know that if I were higher energy and had more of a sex drive I would have targeted one of them and then tried to move that girl away from the group.
So why was I feeling so lazy tonight? I think it is a combination of (1) the shots that I took at the pregame and (2) that I had masturbated earlier that afternoon. I didn't think (2) would be such a big deal, but maybe someone has some comments??? Anyways, I then get a text from Ginger saying they're at the bar next to the one I'm in and I should come dance.
I get to this second bar and a bunch of people from my social circle are there. The music is super loud and all you can really do is dance, not much opportunity for verbal seduction. Since I'm feeling lazy and I do like dancing
I figure I'll forget about gaming for a bit and just have a good time! There are a few girls in my social circle besides Ginger who are HB7's, so I dance with my arms around them and we're having a good time getting drunk. I unbutton my shirt fully and am kind of aware that I look like a lazy/drunk idiot. I probably have one of those glazed over looks in my eyes, haha.
While we're dancing, Ginger starts grabbing me and giving me signals. She's usually pretty physical when she drinks so this is normal for me, but I can tell that she's interested in me sexually, so we start kissing each other on the cheeks and grinding a little bit. (I'm not sure how much to escalate things in front of everyone else in our social circle). Since Im being so lazy tonight, I dont move Ginger or do anything else and just go sit down to take a break from dancing.
While I'm sitting, I see 2 HB8's come dance right in front of me sexually and one of them is staring me down. I open with "Hey, I think you two are sexy" loudly and confidently with a sexy smirk
. Then, one of the HB8's tells me I have to choose one of them, but I stupidly say "both" and the interaction fizzles out. I think the theme of this night is that I was being lazy and I wasn't
MOVING FAST when interacting with girls. I would open strong but I didn't have a mindset of moving things quickly with a target, so my approaches were uncalculated and probably ambiguous for girls, which is unattractive.
Anyways, we all leave the bars and Ginger tells me to come back to her apartment where her and Ginger#2 are staying. I haven't built up any sexual energy with Ginger#2 thus far. While at the apartment, Ginger is touching my leg and rubbing my back so I make eye contact with her and she smiles playfully. I smile and kind of nod in order to communicate that "I know you want to fuck me, but your friend is right next to us, lol". Ginger#2 go's to the kitchen to get water and I make eye contact with Ginger, however, I hesitate too much before Ginger#2 comes back. I think I hesitate more when kissing someone who's been a friend of mine for a while and we're changing our relationship like that.
Eventually Ginger tells me that they're going to sleep and we should all hang out tomorrow. I agree. I leave but am left with a persistent thought: what if I had kissed Ginger and her plan was for Ginger#2 to watch us or join in somehow? Did I just miss an opportunity for my first threesome?? I guess questions like these are what I'm left with when I dont move things quickly and just see what happens.
--General Takeaways--
1. sex drive is a thing. I had low sex drive last night maybe because of taking shots and maybe because of watching too much porn. I will not do either of these things today and see how it affects my drive.
2. girls want dominant men who MOVE FAST with their seductions and make their intentions clear. I can't keep opening sets of 3-4 girls without targeting one of them and trying to move things forward. My goal for tonight will be to try to move things as quickly as possible with 2-3 individual girls in order to get a lay.
3. I have gaps in my seduction knowledge in the areas of dancing (nonverbal) and social circle. I will read up heavily on those today.
Thanks guys,
BigS
December Snatch Tourney (started counting 12/27)
Approach: 10
Number: 4
Date: 0
Insta-date: 0
Kiss: 1
Foreplay without oral: 0
Oral: 0
Sex: 0
Threesome: 0
Foursome: