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I remember hearing David Deida mention this distinction in passing and it really stuck with me. A lot of the time when people are left unsatisfied with their partners it is because they haven't decided if their sex is to be therapeutic or artistic, and they instead try and do an indiscriminate mix of both, dramatically reducing the effectiveness of the sex as both therapy and art. It also dramatically reduces the attraction (polarity) of both parties, primarily the feminine one, as the masculinity of her counterpart is punctured through his lack of purpose and inability to communicate what he wants. Though sex is a collaborative experience, the final decision for what kind of experience it will be is for the masculine party to decide; it is his responsibility. So make sure you know whether your next sexual experience is to be therapeutic or artistic, and remember that this is more than just how hard and fast you fuck, but, on a deeper level, it's about calibrating your psyche with your body to the parallel of passionate penetration you plan to perform, either as a Picasso or a Perls. So when you take on the masculine role, which I'm assuming for most of you is always, I think both you and your girl will both really appreciate your decisiveness here (and in all other things).
-Oskar
-Oskar