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Sex Logistics: No apartment

Black

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I'm new in town so I have two things going on at the same time:

a) I'm meeting a lot of new girls.
b) I'll be living with a roommate for a month an a half - after which I'll get a proper place just for myself.

I've noticed the girls I've been meeting have asked what's my situation and whether I have a roommate. This is blatant.

Some are in social circle so they can wait for a bit - but there's one outside I want to take as my lover ASAP.
Already met once with that one and her interest level seems good so far - but it might not last long if I don't move things forward; with all the other guys chasing her and whatnot. . . She doesn't have her own place either.

So, two types of girls for me (logistics-wise) :

a) Some have their own apartment but last time (different city) I tried to invite myself failed. The only time this situation ever worked out for me was a girl I was already making out with (a dinner + bar date) inviting me herself back to her place. I'd need better tech than this hahaha

b) No place of their own. . . yet this town has a lot of "3 hour hotels". No experience taking girls here - and it's obvious we are not going there to "relax and have a cup of coffee" or "kick back and watch a movie" but obviously there must be away. . .
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Black

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Oh, I had read the first one and totally forgot. No wonder I used the term "sex logistics", had to have picked it up somewhere. . .

Cool, thank you.

Now I keep thinking about this girl I dated who twice agreed to go on this (pointless) hour-long walk through dark streets with me. . .
Lots of asking about which kind of girls do I like and then nothing.
I had assumed we'd arrive at her place earlier or later, but then it turned out to be 15 min away by cab. So we had been walking in dark empty streets for the sake of it. . .
Why'd she put herself in that situation? With a foreigner she had barely met?
Duh! I was supposed to make things happen on-the-way; we even walked past a hotel. . .
. . .and better the first time than the second. :S
 

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Why'd she put herself in that situation? With a foreigner she had barely met?
Duh! I was supposed to make things happen on-the-way; we even walked past a hotel. . .
. . .and better the first time than the second. :S

Yes, it can be so frustrating to look back and sense that you missed an opportunity. I like to reframe it as practice...for next time ;)
 

Black

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Ok, let me ask a more specific question:

Even after reading the articles I'm still a bit confused on how exactly frame an invitation to a love motel.

Let's just take any of these girls I'm meeting and who obviously display some interest.
Let's assume I go out for this second or third time where I MUST make things happen and that I have some kind of logistics plan.

Now, I really bought into the plausible deniability idea - but there's no plausible deniability in walking into a love motel.
Back home, love motels are the outcome of drunken making out at clubs at 4 am or so. . . but this is different, as I most likely haven't even kissed her yet.

Just give me a dumb example:
-I go out with this girl for a lunch/dinner/drink/whatever. . . where and how should I be leading things so that when the moment arrives that me and her stand up from wherever we were sitting, the transition is smooth? I can postpone the invitation and say "let's go for a walk" but eventually I will have to say "hey. . . how about we go in?". How does this pan out?
 

Richard

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Do you have a car?

Is there a nearby park that isn't always super busy?

Is there anywhere within walking distance of where you stay that's secluded?

If your answer is yes to any of these then you have sex logistics.
 

Black

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The "secluded place" near where I'm staying (or intend to date) is a 3-hour hotel. Those are all over town.

My question is how do I take a girl I haven't even made out it with there.

Back home it flows naturally from club making out to love motels but now I'm in Asia and it's unlikely I'd be making out with any of these girls in any public place (maybe other than at a nightclub or bar very late at night). Also this website recommends against kissing on a date before moving to a place where sex can happen, anyway. . .

So I'd need a few tips. . .
 

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Black,

My question is how do I take a girl I haven't even made out it with there?

Who said you need to make out with her first? ;)

Just invite her to come with you! And persist if she seems unsure.

- Franco
 

Richard

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Black said:
The "secluded place" near where I'm staying (or intend to date) is a 3-hour hotel. Those are all over town.

My question is how do I take a girl I haven't even made out it with there.

Back home it flows naturally from club making out to love motels but now I'm in Asia and it's unlikely I'd be making out with any of these girls in any public place (maybe other than at a nightclub or bar very late at night). Also this website recommends against kissing on a date before moving to a place where sex can happen, anyway. . .

So I'd need a few tips. . .

Doesn't matter what the secluded spot is.

Any simple compliance request from "Take a walk with me" to "Come check out XYZ with me" and just lead her to that spot.

Also, if there's a public spot that's not so public.. meaning a spot that is accessible by the public but largely desolate (i.e. a park, a field with lots of trees, behind an old building, etc.) then you can definitely seduce her there. Like 80% of my lays have been in places like this because I hate bringing girls to my house because it would kill their mood and mine as well. 99% of girls are open to sex in a public place provided that it's not a show for the world to see =P
 
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