Sex Resistance

[AdamC]

How to verbal respond to these statements, and then what action to take to overcome them!

So, I've recently had these three different scenarios and would like to know how to bust them regarding Sex Resistance.

The First Female, when I began generic Sex Talk she immediately stated that - "I'm a very sensitive person, who gets attached easily, and if it takes 3 months for a guy and I to become physical, so be it... It's not meant to be otherwise!"
And I thought - 3 MONTHS are you Fucking kidding me! Imagine how many females I could approach and have other opportunities within 3 months.
And this was a self described Feminist, a sexually experienced 30's hipster woman with artistic tattoos...
I replied to her - "Well, what if you meet a fantastic passionate guy, of whom you won't have another opportunity with, and it'll end in regret because you won't ever get that chance again??" And she replied, again "Well, then karmically it was never meant to be in the first place, and again, if it takes 3 months, so be it..."
I was stumped. I went cold on her ass during the date and it ended in Auto-Rejection!

The second Woman told me that she was a "very private person," who only opens up to guys after 6 months, but those guys become her friends after 6 months. Then she said "If you're my friend, you'll never become my Lover... But if you're my Lover, we won't be friends after..." I responded by saying - "I'm not interested in being your friend..." Then I smiled deviously at her. She smiled deviously back...
But then when I began trying to escalate on her. And/or trying to isolate and extract her. She kept resisting saying "I only met you three days ago. I'm a very private person... I don't know you, and it takes me six months to really get to know someone..."
We played this game for about two hours, at a couple different venues then finally she stopped and said - "This was a mistake. You and I won't hang out personally again. I just want to be honest with you."
I was like - "Okay..."
We happened to work together on a temporary TV Show project, and when I saw her at work again she came up to me and said - "I'd like to be friends with you at work..." I responded by telling her - "I'm not interested in being your friend. Do you want to socialize or not?" She said "No." So I ignored her ass and I think it went into Auto-Rejection!

I Day Gamed a young 23 year old girl. We did an Instadate for coffee. We began talking about types of people we date. She said she was religious and only would date a guy she could bring home to her mother and have her mother be okay with the guy she could date. She was foreign, only being in the country for a year. I suggested we hang out again to have a full conversation since I was interested in where she was from, and how it was different. She politely said No, stating that she only hung out with guys who came from her country, or near it...

So I'm very interested in the groups thoughts on how to tackle these situations!!

- Adam C

 

[Will_V]

How to verbal respond to these statements, and then what action to take to overcome them!

So, I've recently had these three different scenarios and would like to know how to bust them regarding Sex Resistance.

The First Female, when I began generic Sex Talk she immediately stated that - "I'm a very sensitive person, who gets attached easily, and if it takes 3 months for a guy and I to become physical, so be it... It's not meant to be otherwise!"
And I thought - 3 MONTHS are you Fucking kidding me! Imagine how many females I could approach and have other opportunities within 3 months.
And this was a self described Feminist, a sexually experienced 30's hipster woman with artistic tattoos...
I replied to her - "Well, what if you meet a fantastic passionate guy, of whom you won't have another opportunity with, and it'll end in regret because you won't ever get that chance again??" And she replied, again "Well, then karmically it was never meant to be in the first place, and again, if it takes 3 months, so be it..."
I was stumped. I went cold on her ass during the date and it ended in Auto-Rejection!

The second Woman told me that she was a "very private person," who only opens up to guys after 6 months, but those guys become her friends after 6 months. Then she said "If you're my friend, you'll never become my Lover... But if you're my Lover, we won't be friends after..." I responded by saying - "I'm not interested in being your friend..." Then I smiled deviously at her. She smiled deviously back...
But then when I began trying to escalate on her. And/or trying to isolate and extract her. She kept resisting saying "I only met you three days ago. I'm a very private person... I don't know you, and it takes me six months to really get to know someone..."
We played this game for about two hours, at a couple different venues then finally she stopped and said - "This was a mistake. You and I won't hang out personally again. I just want to be honest with you."
I was like - "Okay..."
We happened to work together on a temporary TV Show project, and when I saw her at work again she came up to me and said - "I'd like to be friends with you at work..." I responded by telling her - "I'm not interested in being your friend. Do you want to socialize or not?" She said "No." So I ignored her ass and I think it went into Auto-Rejection!

I Day Gamed a young 23 year old girl. We did an Instadate for coffee. We began talking about types of people we date. She said she was religious and only would date a guy she could bring home to her mother and have her mother be okay with the guy she could date. She was foreign, only being in the country for a year. I suggested we hang out again to have a full conversation since I was interested in where she was from, and how it was different. She politely said No, stating that she only hung out with guys who came from her country, or near it...

So I'm very interested in the groups thoughts on how to tackle these situations!!

- Adam C

You're reacting way too much to these girls and what they say, which is irrelevant compared to what they feel and what they do.

The first woman sounds like she had her fun and is now trying to come across as wife material. She may not be interested in hooking up but personally after her second response I would have just laughed and teased her about it, or if she was adamant just change the subject and build attraction instead. If she's attracted enough she'll simply ignore what she said earlier.

Second woman I think you made the right move just calling her out and saying you're not interested in being friends, but then it seems like you pushed too hard and didn't just chill and let her relax into this new frame with you. Especially after saying something like that you really have to step back and let attraction and tension build rather than trying to go for the sale. The way she said 'you and I won't hang out again' seems like you were way too overwhelming for her. And there was no need to respond to her like that when she said she wanted to be friends at work - what's wrong with that, would you prefer enemies at work?

Third girl sounds like a bit of a prude, but it sounds like you didn't just hold frame and start seducing (talking about adventurous/exciting/rebellious things for example).

Overall the best way to deal with girls' frames is to tease them a bit and/or ignore them and simply proceed with seducing her. Attraction is what makes her come to bed with you, not whether she did or didn't say something earlier.

 

[AdamC]

You're reacting way too much to these girls and what they say, which is irrelevant compared to what they feel and what they do.

The first woman sounds like she had her fun and is now trying to come across as wife material. She may not be interested in hooking up but personally after her second response I would have just laughed and teased her about it, or if she was adamant just change the subject and build attraction instead. If she's attracted enough she'll simply ignore what she said earlier.

Second woman I think you made the right move just calling her out and saying you're not interested in being friends, but then it seems like you pushed too hard and didn't just chill and let her relax into this new frame with you. Especially after saying something like that you really have to step back and let attraction and tension build rather than trying to go for the sale. The way she said 'you and I won't hang out again' seems like you were way too overwhelming for her. And there was no need to respond to her like that when she said she wanted to be friends at work - what's wrong with that, would you prefer enemies at work?

Third girl sounds like a bit of a prude, but it sounds like you didn't just hold frame and start seducing (talking about adventurous/exciting/rebellious things for example).

Overall the best way to deal with girls' frames is to tease them a bit and/or ignore them and simply proceed with seducing her. Attraction is what makes her come to bed with you, not whether she did or didn't say something earlier.

Ahha... So don't take what they say so seriously. Ignore and then tease, but just continue forward creating sexual tension and then trying to escalate...

 

[Lover]

Ahha... So don't take what they say so seriously. Ignore and then tease, but just continue forward creating sexual tension and then trying to escalate...

Basically, yes.

And those statements about getting physical after 3 or 6 months pretty much sound like when a girl has a "no sex before date 3" rule. And we don't engage in a conversation about whether this is right or wrong. Nothing will get them dryer than talking logically about their "rules".

We just smile, knowing to ourselves that they break their rules under the right circumstances

 

[Dimension]

Hi there,

I speak from my own personal experiences now:

I met this girl at my friends house, my friend was also interested in her but once i walked in there i saw her eyes lighten up when we looked at each other.(We all know it was on) So basically my friend been chilling with her for a week, they even cuddled on the sofa when i arrived. But nothing good came out of it, because that girl was bit of a wildcat, and my friend wasn't man enough to deal with her.

"Later my friend told me that you can try her, i couldn't get her so it's your chance and i wont be mad." I was thankful for those kind words, because i surely don't want to play with my friends feelings when trying to seduce her girl she saw first. So that was a green light and game was on.

I got her instagram and she added me back. Couple days later i start texting her and i was really cautious, knowing that she's not into let's fuck tonight. I was being casual, did my thing and not long after she was hooked.. We met week later, we didn't fuck just yet though, but there was lots of action stimulation wise..

Weeks pass and i eventually get her to fall for me and we had sex..

Moral of the story: there is no woman, who doesn't give it, but there is a man, who doesn't know how to ask.

If a woman tells you, she won't have sex with you or you know she's not easygoing, worse you can do is give her confirmation, why does she play by those rules in first place. She obviously has values, and i respect that!

There are more women than i can count, who were "hard to get" that i have seduced, if you master how to make her want you, not the other way around, you don't need to think about these things..

Summary:

Don't overreact if she says she wont have sex with you or she wont evolve feelings in short period of time. She obviously has her defense mechanisms working when telling you that, so DO NOT even give her the slightest doubt, that you are trying to fuck her and move on.

If a woman tells you something like:

Her" I wont have sex with you till we have dated for 3 months"
Me:" Yeah, i wasn't really planning to, because i need emotional connection to do that"
That is manipulating, but it's also screening, which means you are giving to her, what she's giving to you.

Don't just focus on getting laid on the same night, because chances of getting your boxers wet are slim with these kind of girls..
But that really comes to, whether you have time to invest or not, but i guarantee you, everything is doable and i promise you, that 3 month sex free life is nonsense, if you play your cards right.

Hope it helps,
D

 

[AdamC]

I like the - "Yeah, I need an emotional connection to be physical with someone..." response.
Sucks that I lost these prospects because I got caught up in their "tests..."
Know a little better now.

 

[DakenMarquis]

^what's a great response to she needs an emotional connection to be physical

 

[Dimension]

^what's a great response to she needs an emotional connection to be physical

Me: I wasn't really planning on seducing you for your body, rather for you personality.
Me: I was actually going to say the exact same thing to you, but i guess you are a head of me.
Me: I wasn't really planning on going physical without solid connection.

List goes on and on..
Screening her, and giving her what she's giving you is your best bet here.

Often men disappear to thin air or start making judgements towards girl, you never get far with that kind of behavior.

 

[AdamC]

Great replies, and now I'm better prepared for females like this in the future