Sex talk...is this the right way to go about it? Advice would be really helpful!

[killerman]

So I've watched Alek Rolstad's podcast on sexual framing and talking about sex and I have an idea and want to know that what I'm going to suggest is a good idea? Like if I've got the right idea?

So let's say you're on a first date and the girl asks me what other stuff I'm interested in. Let's say I reply with "wow I love loads of other stuff other than music. I like to travel, have new experiences, reading, but I especially love sex, GOOD sex. I mean the female body is so beautiful, just the whole shape, and I just love to caress, stroke and explore it as much as possible etc etc then talk about how it's so sad how society portrays sex as a dirty, taboo thing, and that girls shouldn't be labelled as sluts for something that is so pleasurable. Then put the focus back on her asking her "What about you? Are you passionate about sex?" And then from then on ramp it up and see how far I can take it. Then get more into the finer details, about my process how i start kissing from top up, right down to the pussy, all the foreplay etc just generally talk about what i'd do. Do you think that's a good way to turn things sexual? when she asks me what other stuff i'm into? And then responding about how I love sex, but talk about it like it's an art form (which it is) that I'm passionate about, like you'd talk about what you love about your favourite football team, bands etc.

 

[Franco]

Re: Sex talk...is this the right way to go about it? Advice would be really help

killerman,

Alek's approach is just one of many styles, but it suits him well because it also suits his personality. You should experiment with the approach and see if you like it. My approach is generally more "implied" sexuality, but I've seen just about anything work these days!

My advice would be to try it and see if it works well for you. =)

- Franco

 

[killerman]

Re: Sex talk...is this the right way to go about it? Advice would be really help

What do you mean by implied sexuality?

 

[Franco]

Re: Sex talk...is this the right way to go about it? Advice would be really help

What do you mean by implied sexuality?

My style is more similar to Chase's style; I'll give her sexy eyes and touch her in sexual/romantic ways. I also might use wit or subtle jokes to imply sexual things. In general, my behavior implies that I'm a sexual man without me explicitly talking about sex.

There's a range of styles when it comes to pick-up, and all of them can work to a given degree. You just need to find the style that you feel most comfortable with and the style that gets you the best results.

- Franco