Was wondering if any of you advanced guys could give me advice on creating sexual tension. I feel like it is my sticking point in my interactions with girls right now. I know that a lot of it has to do with eye contact and touch. I see a lot of people write that they playfully shove girls but what would a good thing to say before I do that be? I couldn't just playfully shove her for no reason. Yeah, just any general advice on creating sexual tension would be great. Feel free to post example conversations/scenarios, where you created the tension. Thanks.
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1. Read up on push/pull a little if you can. You want to kino to get her used to your touch, but you also want it to be apparent that you're not physically available to her at just ANY TIME she wants. Balancing attainability is key here, and was something that was one of the more difficult things (for me, at least) to learn when I first started out. An example here is to lean closer to her as if you were going to kiss her, then pull back. Keep her guessing!
2. Tease and neg her a little bit. Don't do this too much, though, or you'll come off brash and she'll think you're an arsehole. You want to be smooth too, and don't react much (read, overreact) if she teases you or negs you back.
3. This is one is VERY important. Strong, sexy eye contact. When you're looking at her eye-to-eye, just think about shoving your rock hard dick inside of her. She'll feel your sexual vibe, trust me.
4. Innuendo/Suggestion/etc. You can say things that could be taken one way or another, sexually or not. An example is lets say a girl tells you she has to study for a big test later but is so sleepy and doesnt know if she can stay awake. You could say something like: "Oh yeah? I bet I could keep you up like all night..." and it can be taken sexually, or not. It gets her thinking about the two of you together.
Chase has a great article here on building sexual tension: https://www.girlschase.com/content/sexu ... -and-randy
Your other question: Sometimes I might gently knock a girl off her stance or bump her and say something along the lines of "Hey young lady, I did NOT come here to get harassed!" or something similarly playful. There are a ton of these, but its best to come up with them yourself- that way it doesn't seem forced or awkward when you do it.
Cheers brother,
NJ
2. Tease and neg her a little bit. Don't do this too much, though, or you'll come off brash and she'll think you're an arsehole. You want to be smooth too, and don't react much (read, overreact) if she teases you or negs you back.
3. This is one is VERY important. Strong, sexy eye contact. When you're looking at her eye-to-eye, just think about shoving your rock hard dick inside of her. She'll feel your sexual vibe, trust me.
4. Innuendo/Suggestion/etc. You can say things that could be taken one way or another, sexually or not. An example is lets say a girl tells you she has to study for a big test later but is so sleepy and doesnt know if she can stay awake. You could say something like: "Oh yeah? I bet I could keep you up like all night..." and it can be taken sexually, or not. It gets her thinking about the two of you together.
Chase has a great article here on building sexual tension: https://www.girlschase.com/content/sexu ... -and-randy
Your other question: Sometimes I might gently knock a girl off her stance or bump her and say something along the lines of "Hey young lady, I did NOT come here to get harassed!" or something similarly playful. There are a ton of these, but its best to come up with them yourself- that way it doesn't seem forced or awkward when you do it.
Cheers brother,
NJ
Don't underestimate the importance of touch. Generally you should touch her often and soon into the interaction. However it is important that you don't seem awkward while doing this. Establish yourself as a person into physical contact. Throw your arm around your buddy, touch more than one woman, just to establish that you are relaxed and used to touching people. But mostly focus on touching her in a relaxed way.
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well eye contact is huge for tension. if you have a very good vibe, and after conversing with a girl a bit, 'and deep diving' etc and then you just look into her eyes for 5 seconds with no words, thats sexual tension. combined with suggestion & an element of mystery you can create a lot of tension.
but of course don't overdo it. you want to break the tension before it boils over. re-ingage in lighter conversation, add a little humour/teasing etc and get ready for round 2.
but of course don't overdo it. you want to break the tension before it boils over. re-ingage in lighter conversation, add a little humour/teasing etc and get ready for round 2.
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Give a little more detail man, are you talking about you're with a girl who's interested already, like the two of you are on a date, or are you talking about the first time meeting her creating sexual tension. The best ways to go about it vary from situation to situation.
Well, im mostly talking about meeting her for the first time, but advice for sexual tension on a date would be good too. I feel like even though I've got a girl on the "hook" the conversation seems to die down without any sexual tension, so keep the advice coming!
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For me, sexual tension generally came easy because I've always been able to portray whatever emotion I want, and I work sexual tension in a teasing, playful yet charming manner, and sometimes with a tense romantic way. For instance, I was talking to this girl who models in my town as a hobby. I met her, and she was telling me about her being a model, I inquired further and asked what kind of modeling she does? She said fall clothing. I looked at her laughed a little before speaking, and said "Can you model in some lingerie for me?", looked in her eyes for a few seconds, then gently bit my lip. She responded, only if you behave 
with a soft wink. Then I said, I could never behave with ,you, I said that after I gently pulled her closer to me, and whispered in her ear. This is how I usually work tension, through a playful, teasing, yet serious mood, it shows myplayful side but is still commanding and leading her chase
with a soft wink. Then I said, I could never behave with ,you, I said that after I gently pulled her closer to me, and whispered in her ear. This is how I usually work tension, through a playful, teasing, yet serious mood, it shows myplayful side but is still commanding and leading her chase
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It's basically (at least for me) the Non verbal stuff. I say very little verbally it's all in the body movements and eye contact.
An example of this would be to walk very close to someone, almost straight facing, strong EC, smile, then manoeuvre round them.
Basically watch what women do, they're experts at it.
Attitude wise it's (as someone said) playing hard to get, but it's a two way street. If they don't want to play then it's over.
Actions speak louder than words and all that..
An example of this would be to walk very close to someone, almost straight facing, strong EC, smile, then manoeuvre round them.
Basically watch what women do, they're experts at it.
Attitude wise it's (as someone said) playing hard to get, but it's a two way street. If they don't want to play then it's over.
Actions speak louder than words and all that..
I think this is very important. I know you can create sexual tension without touching. I just think that using touch will be help you to build it up quicker. The most effective way to touch is to mirror her. Just touch and wait for her to reciprocate, and repeat. I just posted an outing report that's pretty amazing on how much sexual tension I manage to create. There's even a way I was creating sexual tension without touching that got me as horny as hell. And remember, if you are getting horny when you are interacting with her in this way she'll be feeling it for sure (I really experienced some kind of horniness state that I had never experienced without touching, kissing, etc.)
While doing this you just keep your conversation going and it might be not sexual at all because your escalation happens in the sexiest: non-verbals (eye contact, touching of course).
Cheers!