FR++ Sexy little minx

[ray_zorse]

Social circle hotty (R2 in my journal... former housemate of R1)... was instantly attracted although I spoke to her for all of 2 minutes, got a chase frame or two in and she seemed to respond to me very well... tried to invite her to various things via R1 which she initially accepted but then other things came up... so I felt it was okay to get her number from R1, spoke to her by phone and exchanged some text to setup a meetup today, met at the market and walked around a bit, she helped me buy things for a salad... built a little compliance... came back and built loads of compliance by having her create some seafood lasagnes for guests I'm having later... she was also planning to be at the party... but... things went a bit pear shaped.

Whole thing was almost too easy to begin with, she was clearly attracted, didn't object to my touch, I escalated gradually during the cooking process and we took various breaks in which I kissed her on the couch, some token resistance, not too bad... but was difficult getting the clothes off, she was initially not down but eventually things happened very fast, got to that pussy and she was writhing around while kissing me, got those clothes off pretty quick smart and eventually she even asked if I had a condom so I took her upstairs where I have various vibrators and condoms and stuff like that... so we were grinding on my bed and she was down to some sexy little undies and a lace bra, was about to fuck her but unfortunately I wasn't hard, so I took my eye off the ball and ceased to stimulate her pussy while commanding her to play with my cock and get me hard... was not completely in the moment (damn this I've been horny for days, performance anxiety) so I was only semi hard, anyway she did this for a bit and then suddenly took off. Fuck.

I guess she comes from a pretty conservative culture and logic kicked in. I came downstairs while she was getting dressed again, said I would normally just let her go but I came down to talk to her cos we're friends and I want things to be good between us (this while holding her tit)... she was okay with this, continued to get dressed... went to the door when I commanded her to come back and give me a kiss... then she said bye and left... I wasn't really down to start chasing although I feel I could have discussed things with her and dealt with any objections, as I had done previously... but maybe I was tired, not in the moment so decided to let it go and take another shot later, although I can say 99% likely I won't get one.

Damn, this one got away... fuck! My fault for taking my eye off the ball. I just dunno what advice anyone could possibly give me, I think I need to start pulling women home more regularly so I don't feel anxious when it happens, oh I don't know. damn.

-Ray

 

[ray_zorse]

Er, rereading that I meant to say when she was at the door about to leave I commanded her to come back saying "I just need one more thing from you" and she complied and then I pointed to my mouth, she bent over the couch and kissed me on the mouth for a bit before she left for real. Unbelieveable, with this level of compliance I could surely have turned things around, trouble was
(a) I was operating under a time pressure, poor planning on my part;
(b) I was cross with myself for not being in the moment and with her for not knowing how to touch me and for ejecting, so my mood/vibe kinda tanked;
(c) I was really tired from staying up late and getting up early and working hard all day to get stuff done before the date, also poor planning on my part.

Had the following text exchange... I might have been a bit beta here, but recall this is social circle and also that I had a really cool time with her, we got on v well and had a v fun and sexy makeout, and I suppose in bigger picture terms it isn't all about the lay (not that that's ever an excuse for white knighting etc)

18:49 MMS (sending a pic of the cooked lasagne) Me: hey your lasagne is stunning thanks for a fun time hon. cu
19:24 Her: yeah, that looks great, anyway, i think i forget my jacket over there, when do you think i can take it?

I'm not sure how to respond to this... I imagine it was accidental so I'm not planning to make smart remarks, I thought maybe just "let me know what works for you" and take it from there... how to get her alone and rebuild comfort?

-Ray

 

[snipefield]

Good stuff mate, even though she got away (she was a beauty from what you wrote about her before, as far as I remember). Here's my thought: I wonder how it would've gone down had you had a condom downstairs and not have broken the momentum by going upstairs. Sometimes a trifling action like walking upstairs can put her and you in a different state of mind..

 

[ray_zorse]

Yeah I thought of that too, actually I did have one in my wallet but I did not think of it in the moment, confused cos supplies running low and I recently redistributed them around the house and car hehe... anyway I'm seeing her for a coffee in a few hours near her work (pathetic I know) so will try to rebuild comfort and see what happens. Probably in bf/chasing territory now but I suppose you never know. Thanks for the feedback.
cheers, Ray

 

[ray_zorse]

Okay, we seem to be in good shape, laughed and flirted a lot, gained more compliance, talked about sexy things (and a bit emotional things) etc... I'm now thinking it may be time to back off a bit and leave things in that good place for a week or so, for fear of setting any poor precedent about time together.
-Ray