FR Sexy Portugese Girl at Club

[BigS]

Hey guys,

Tonight i was in Portugal and went out to a strip of bars alone in order to pick up chicks I am focusing on getting back to being more systematic about my progress: recording # of approaches, numbers, dates, lays each day. Therefore, I was trying to get a lot of approaches tonight. This took my ego out of things.

I see a very sexy, short, Portugese girl with a friend. I am working on being charismatic during night game, which is really helpful, and go up and tell her "I just thought you were really beautiful, and I wanted you to know that " She was my fifth approach of the night, so I was already warmed up.

She's very receptive to my approach, but says "I like you but I have a boyfriend and we are very serious". I keep on talking to her with charisma, and she eventually tells me:

Her: so me and my boyfriend are actually on a break.
Me: Oh, okay!
Her: its fucked up because I know hes fucking other girls right now
Me: thats fucked up! if he's doing it then you should too!
Her: yeah... oh well

We keep on talking and getting closer and start dancing together. She eventually is grinding on me and looks up (she's really short) and kisses me. We make out for a bit and she says:

Her: I actually made up that story about my boyfriend
Me: Oh, okay!

We dance for hours and Im really high energy. My only mistake though is that Im giving her everything she wants in terms of compliance and making out a lot. Im not even thinking about it because its fun.

We go to another club and are doing the same thing there. The only thing is she wont let me grab her ass or go under her shirt. Eventually she sits me down and says:

Her: if youre looking to have sex tonight thats just not my style
Me: No its okay!
Her: yeah i just want you to know that. no sex.
Mer: okay!

I grab her and make out with her and then we dance more. She still wont let me grab her ass. Eventually I realize my compliance is too high and I start denying her kisses. She smiles every time I do this.

Once the club closes we go outside and she starts asking how im getting back to my home. Shes trying to make it more clear that Im not going home with her.

Once she says this I decide to release all of the sexual tension that I had built up by denying her kisses and make out heavily with her outside for 5-10 minutes. She's very horny but no invite home :'(

I act very nonchelant. The reason why I didnt persist is because I was persisting physically during our dancing by trying to grab her ass several times and go under her shirt.

Verbally, I didnt persist, but nonverbally I was persisting a lot. Oh well.

Cheers,

BigS

 

[happydagger]

Classic LMR and shit testing and you failed enough of these that it didn't happen. You passed a few too, which kept you in the game. Too much pull but not enough push imho.

 

[ElderPrice]

Nice job man. Even though it didn't end how you wanted, that's a pretty cool result there. You're making progress!

Now, I can't tell if you're just providing the report, or seeking advice. If seeking advice:

The dance floor isn't where you escalate to sex (whatever it was you were doing by trying to grab her ass). She clearly seemed into you and you passed a number of tests. If it were me, I would have worked on getting compliance from HER including ultimately moving her to somewhere not a club.

Maybe something along the lines of:
tell her to come with me to the bar to get a drink. then if she agrees --> tell her I'm hungry and invite her to join me to leave and get food somewhere --> if she comes along, get some street food or take out somewhere, and suggest heading back to my place to eat it there --> if she agrees to come back to my place, THEN try escalating.

Getting compliance from her is so critical, because if for no reason reason it'll show you whether the girl is worth your time or not. Because remember, instead of using all your hours on this one girl, you could have spent them on another who was actually going to end up going home with you. So in this example, if the girl wouldn't even agree to follow you to the bar for a drink, you know she's not going to follow you home for something else later.

 

[Fuck This]

I've met women in bars and escalated in private. I got their digits and had her ping me while we were together to be sure. Then I did the "take away". I left them, alone....

In a hotel setting, I've had two separate women give me their room number on their text after I parted.

The latest, I had one on the dance floor with friends, where I escalated in public, and I got the whole "I don't go to bars looking for sex" smackdown over text. I tried to reengage her that night after she took her friends home, but she wasn't having it. I had a text from her at 8 the next morning though asking me to "hang out".

So I think it is important that you make it seem like she could lose you if she hesitates on taking you home.... one of my successful pulls she texted "I don't want you thinking I'm that kinda girl " and I replied "but I'm that kinda guy"

She replied "Room 988"

 

[BigS]

Thanks guys,

I like the suggestion about decreasing my attainability by leaving her earlier in the night as well as the one re: "im not that type of girl" as a test.

She was definitely testing me throughout the night:
1. Telling me she had a boyfriend to see if i stuck around
2. Dancing crazily and bumping into other people and aggrivating them to see if I would react
3. Grinding on me and seeing if I would escalate publically

I think I passed 1 & 2, but not 3. This is what made my intentions too obvious and increased my perceived attainability. I think I just got excited and swept up in the moment...

Ill try to practice this night club game more so I become less excited about public escalation and can keep my eye on the prize.

Question:

Given the situation where she sat me down and said "if you want sex you should find it with someone else" did I handle this correctly? I tried to act surprised by this question and deny that this is what I was going for. Should I have been overtly sexual instead?

Thanks,

BigS

 

[happydagger]

In my opinion the test there was an invitation to, in Tom Torero's terms, "hide your dick" or not. Your response did go in the direction of hiding your dick. The two things I think you could've done are 1) say something like yeah Im a man, you're a woman it's my job to go for what I want, or 2) get playful and say (ironically) oh I'm a very good boy

 

[foggy]

Given the situation where she sat me down and said "if you want sex you should find it with someone else" did I handle this correctly

that was an escalation window. your lack of action was what doomed you