Shall I move on or practice and try hard?

[trashKENNUT]

I forgot to add.

Once you stop accepting her BS, her friends will be looking for you.

They will be as horny as ever. There's a saying "A man's trash, is another man's treasure."

or in this context, is a women.

Zac,

 

[Inferno]

Dominance is key in any atraction. You cant chase and be dominat at the same time

 

[Niraj]

Hey Zac,

That's the perfect reply I wished from you.
Thanks.
I don't know if you missed out on that but I want to know one thing.
How by cutting her out or ignoring her makes this situation better for me and her on an emotional level and professional level?
I want to feel contented with what i should be doung and regain my self-esteem and mental balance I used to have.
I want to move away from these things so that it never hurt me again.
Shall I cut my mutual friends too?I mean just keep distance so that I dont involve much with them.

 

[trashKENNUT]

How by cutting her out or ignoring her makes this situation better for me and her on an emotional level and professional level?
I want to feel contented with what i should be doung and regain my self-esteem and mental balance I used to have.
I want to move away from these things so that it never hurt me again.
Shall I cut my mutual friends too?I mean just keep distance so that I dont involve much with them.

If she's a workmate, classmate or schoolmate, there's not much you can do but to pretend she's not there. If she talks to you about work stuff, keep it brief, have a neutral voice tone. IF she's trying to dig you out, she's just wants back everything that is lost, well for this, you have to make her work double hard for it. Just don't expect it, though.

For your mutual friends, i don't think they have problems with you? Don't ignore them outright. It shows them that you actually care about the matter very much(although you are). I am sure some of them might find it ridiculous too, that is if you didn't do much. but then again, the needy vibe i mention. Set some thoughts on it.

Zac

 

[Niraj]

Hey Zac,

I dint had workmate kind of interaction with her.She was just part of my project without me and her interacting about it.Now she is away into a different project and now we are aloof from each other.I dont wish and even talk to her now.I have just let her go.
But the thing I am asking is
How does that will make me feel contented at an emotional level?
How countering things like this are good for me and her's sake?
I want to move away from things that will never hurt me again.
My mutual friends sometimes are speaking abt her so I then when they speak I go into some emotional trauma.
Thats why I was asking shall I keep distance from these people?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hey Zac,

I dint had workmate kind of interaction with her.She was just part of my project without me and her interacting about it.Now she is away into a different project and now we are aloof from each other.I dont wish and even talk to her now.I have just let her go.
But the thing I am asking is
How does that will make me feel contented at an emotional level?
How countering things like this are good for me and her's sake?
I want to move away from things that will never hurt me again.
My mutual friends sometimes are speaking abt her so I then when they speak I go into some emotional trauma.
Thats why I was asking shall I keep distance from these people?

I don't think those people speak about her because of you, they just mentioning her. You don't need to counter anything. Telling them off makes them think you like her very much.

The first few tries with women, will surely hurt someone somewhere. Every guy knows it, but you can't always run away from problems, unless you willing to find more friends, and i encourage you to. Unless they bugging about you and her, then you need to start addressing to people, telling them you and her had nothing to begin with. Keep it calm.

Zac

 

[Niraj]

Hey Zac,

Sincere thanks to you!!
One thing more to ask you.
Is it that what's happenning to the best of our both's interest?
What do I say to comfort myself coz I m letting her go?
Where do I put my hopes now?
The reason I dint desired her was because of caste and thought I would not be successful so idecided instead of bringing shame tomy family ..it's better we control overselves.
The way she behaved also makes me think she isn't a quality material.that comforts me too.do you want to add something?

 

[Inferno]

You are the one who provides value with your "edge" and conversation. She is the one who is cut off from your value while you make steps toward a better life, and a byproduct of that life may be the girl of your dreams