Hi guys,
I´m new to this forum, new to the game.
I´ve run into a situation I´ve got no experience with as it was usually the other way around. There´s a girl I meet almost daily because of my work, she´s very flirty, you can see her gently flirting with almost every guy around, for weeks I talked to her politely, she tried to flirt, but I did not really show much interest kind of intentionally, because I thought I´m soon gonna move from where I live, but eventually I´m staying a bit longer. Anyway, she was used to guys bringing her gifts almost daily, just to impress her, yet I did not buy her anything. Then after some time, she kind of ceased to flirt with everybody and I could see her devoting more time to me, even people around could see she liked me. She did not forget to mention she has a boyfriend, though and I respected it.
Anyway, couple days ago, she literally asked me out, we were talking about Valentine´s day before, which I know is in a month, then we met each other for a few seconds and she asked me verbatim: "so are we going out on Valentine´s day?" All I said was "okay, sure".
This is where I probably made a mistake, not being used to this instead of being "not so interested" I think I started to seem "much more interested", kind of looking at her more often, smiling at her when I saw her (not like in a weird way), etc. So we agreed to go out on Valentine´s day, which is too far away and I´d like to take her out much sooner. However, after we agreed to go out we did not see each other for a couple days. Then I met her this Monday, she was talking a bit about our "going out" like where she´d like to go, etc. We confirmed it.
I wanted to suggest we go out sooner than that this week, but when I met her the day after, she looked like she´s losing interest, usually being very chatty, she barely uttered a word, didn´t show many signs of interest she even looked like she completely forgot about our "date" (these are just my assumptions).
What makes it more complicated, she´s got a boyfriend, I´m not sure what´s the best way to handle the situation, I´m not sure if I can expect her to just leave the boyfriend if the date goes well, if that´s even an allright approach, the logistics are fuck*d up as well as I don´t have any private location to take her at the moment, we´re both in a new city, living with friends.
I also can´t read the situation properly in terms of her interest. I´m not very confident asking her out sooner if she looks like she´s not interested anymore.
Any hints and tips would be appreciated on how to play this thing (interested / not interested)? ask her out sooner even if she looks like there´s no interest on her side anymore? how do I even find out if she´s interested for sure?
Many thanks
I´m new to this forum, new to the game.
I´ve run into a situation I´ve got no experience with as it was usually the other way around. There´s a girl I meet almost daily because of my work, she´s very flirty, you can see her gently flirting with almost every guy around, for weeks I talked to her politely, she tried to flirt, but I did not really show much interest kind of intentionally, because I thought I´m soon gonna move from where I live, but eventually I´m staying a bit longer. Anyway, she was used to guys bringing her gifts almost daily, just to impress her, yet I did not buy her anything. Then after some time, she kind of ceased to flirt with everybody and I could see her devoting more time to me, even people around could see she liked me. She did not forget to mention she has a boyfriend, though and I respected it.
Anyway, couple days ago, she literally asked me out, we were talking about Valentine´s day before, which I know is in a month, then we met each other for a few seconds and she asked me verbatim: "so are we going out on Valentine´s day?" All I said was "okay, sure".
This is where I probably made a mistake, not being used to this instead of being "not so interested" I think I started to seem "much more interested", kind of looking at her more often, smiling at her when I saw her (not like in a weird way), etc. So we agreed to go out on Valentine´s day, which is too far away and I´d like to take her out much sooner. However, after we agreed to go out we did not see each other for a couple days. Then I met her this Monday, she was talking a bit about our "going out" like where she´d like to go, etc. We confirmed it.
I wanted to suggest we go out sooner than that this week, but when I met her the day after, she looked like she´s losing interest, usually being very chatty, she barely uttered a word, didn´t show many signs of interest she even looked like she completely forgot about our "date" (these are just my assumptions).
What makes it more complicated, she´s got a boyfriend, I´m not sure what´s the best way to handle the situation, I´m not sure if I can expect her to just leave the boyfriend if the date goes well, if that´s even an allright approach, the logistics are fuck*d up as well as I don´t have any private location to take her at the moment, we´re both in a new city, living with friends.
I also can´t read the situation properly in terms of her interest. I´m not very confident asking her out sooner if she looks like she´s not interested anymore.
Any hints and tips would be appreciated on how to play this thing (interested / not interested)? ask her out sooner even if she looks like there´s no interest on her side anymore? how do I even find out if she´s interested for sure?
Many thanks
