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Hey all! Have been building my business lately and trying to not get too into pickup until I have money coming in, but this is driving me nuts. After over 50 approaches I can't get a single date.... This particular report is about a 19yo Latina who I've seen at my gym for months and haven't really approached until a few weeks ago when I ran into her in the parking lot. I took advantage of finally not being seen by the entire gym and chatted with her and asked her out. She gave me a maybe and I was cocky with "Maybe? how about we turn that to a yes." She gave me her number and barely responded to text. Fast forward a couple weeks of not catching her at the gym, I ran into her last week and she was very warm and bubbly. I asked her to hangout and got turned down again. She also doesn't even respond to texts now (I think she gave me a "secret" number that isn't always shown on her phone, as she switched numbers during the original ask out).
Jump to yesterday and her mom was kind of hovering around me, even though I hadn't interacted with either of them, then today, the girl comes across the gym to come up to me, wearing a far nicer outfit than usual, hair done nicely, and a little extra make-up. I tease her about coming over just for me (which is true, she walked back across the gym after), asked her how she's doing, complimented her outfit, and teased her about wearing it for me. She still had plenty of laughs and bubbliness. I later see her on a machine that to me is inferior to a similar one, so I tell her playfully, and she is like "ahhh, it's so FAAAR though..." and I tease her about being in a gym. She ends up going over to the other one and using it for like half my workout lol. I pass by the machine and ping her about if it's better, to which she has her usual big smile and agrees, I respond with a warm "Cool" and go onto another section of the gym.
At the end of my workout, I'm walking past the field area, which I was pretty sure she had moved to and she was right at the edge stretching, so I just sat down by her and chatted with her. I ask about work, life, etc. and given all that happened before, I asked her about hanging out. She complains about having no time (taking 4 college classes and works 5 days a week, so not lying) and I come back with joking about "am I too heavy for you" (I'd like to believe the context made more sense than it sounds here lol), and she goes on about needing to write an essay. I should've probably just offered to come help her with it (I'm very good at editing and brainstorming), but I just asked her about it and continued the conversation. We part ways and I just went ahead and texted her "Need help with the essay?" as a hail mary. Hasn't even read it yet.
I have no clue what's going on, nearly every person I talk to, besides girls I'm into, shovels compliments on me about my face, my physique, my personality, etc., and then I can't get a single date... I tend to talk to several other patrons and workers for long stretches of time, so I'm not just some horndog in the gym. I'm not going to say I did any of this perfectly, but it felt like she was slapping me in the face with signals and then backed away. I didn't see her interact with anyone else. Is it just a Latina wanting to feel me glide through her barriers? I do wonder if she has me eyed as a boyfriend, but is too busy to want to add me to her life. Obviously that's not an ideal position and I've angled for more casual to start, but here we are.
Jump to yesterday and her mom was kind of hovering around me, even though I hadn't interacted with either of them, then today, the girl comes across the gym to come up to me, wearing a far nicer outfit than usual, hair done nicely, and a little extra make-up. I tease her about coming over just for me (which is true, she walked back across the gym after), asked her how she's doing, complimented her outfit, and teased her about wearing it for me. She still had plenty of laughs and bubbliness. I later see her on a machine that to me is inferior to a similar one, so I tell her playfully, and she is like "ahhh, it's so FAAAR though..." and I tease her about being in a gym. She ends up going over to the other one and using it for like half my workout lol. I pass by the machine and ping her about if it's better, to which she has her usual big smile and agrees, I respond with a warm "Cool" and go onto another section of the gym.
At the end of my workout, I'm walking past the field area, which I was pretty sure she had moved to and she was right at the edge stretching, so I just sat down by her and chatted with her. I ask about work, life, etc. and given all that happened before, I asked her about hanging out. She complains about having no time (taking 4 college classes and works 5 days a week, so not lying) and I come back with joking about "am I too heavy for you" (I'd like to believe the context made more sense than it sounds here lol), and she goes on about needing to write an essay. I should've probably just offered to come help her with it (I'm very good at editing and brainstorming), but I just asked her about it and continued the conversation. We part ways and I just went ahead and texted her "Need help with the essay?" as a hail mary. Hasn't even read it yet.
I have no clue what's going on, nearly every person I talk to, besides girls I'm into, shovels compliments on me about my face, my physique, my personality, etc., and then I can't get a single date... I tend to talk to several other patrons and workers for long stretches of time, so I'm not just some horndog in the gym. I'm not going to say I did any of this perfectly, but it felt like she was slapping me in the face with signals and then backed away. I didn't see her interact with anyone else. Is it just a Latina wanting to feel me glide through her barriers? I do wonder if she has me eyed as a boyfriend, but is too busy to want to add me to her life. Obviously that's not an ideal position and I've angled for more casual to start, but here we are.
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