FR She ghosted ... ( But wait a minute !!!!)

[Spyce D]

Edit : it was originally an fu which I was able to revive thanks to wise words of @TomInHo

( How me met )

I was at some place .... And was with 2 other wings .....and telling one of them to stop overthinking .... And as we were discussing about something ...there was this 2 set coming from the front .

So , I just used an opinion opener regarding something about that wing .

Initially , we talked about that opinion but ....slowly me and wingA were talking to the cuter chick and wing B was talking to her friend.

I used cold reads , push pull with her , even deep dived her a bit . My wing also helped in the conversation when I would go quiet .

Around 10 minutes of conversation . And I told her that let's hang out .

She replied positively .

But she was not giving her number...so , I told her that just give your piegons number ....we would fly it to each other's home ....how romantic would it be ...( In a flirty - teasing way )

But , I ended up taking her Insta ...as she was adamant on not giving her number ...but her vibe was like she was desperate.

When I talked with her friend .... She interrupted and started talking to me ( during the end of convo ) ...

Then we all parted ways .


( On the text )


It was my first time texting a chick I had daygamed .

She was very flirty on text ....and even throwing a lot of shit tests ...which I easily passed .


My main plan was to get her out on date on Sunday .

But she told me that she could only go after Wednesday.

Our text got a bit sexual .... But I was more implicit and she was more explicit .

Asking me if I was into hookups cuz I told her that I had a terrible breakup , last year .

I think ... That I only texted her for 3 days .
Never called her .


I did plan for dates ...even she was enthusiastic about . Talking about wanting to apply grappling on me .

Even sending me her clothed sexy pics which weren't on her insta .

And after 3 days of texting ..
She ghosted ....

Could be that her asd kicked in ..cuz our texts were a bit sexualised
Or she was just a big tease .


I have avoided a lot of detail about our convo just for the sake of privacy and that I am over her .
And also that I don't remember a lot of stuff from roughly 7-10 days ago .

Actually, I felt sad for 2 days ....but now it's all good

 

[Spyce D]

I had actually sent her " goodbye " this Monday .

She texted me my name yesterday night, that's it . Lol .

I dont even care at the moment .

I am free .

 

[TomInHo]

I had actually sent her " goodbye " this Monday .

She texted me my name yesterday night, that's it . Lol .

I dont even care at the moment .

I am free .

You're being dramatic lol

1) First bad sign was when she gave you her insta instead of phone number

2) Not a good idea to go overly sexual on text if you don't know what you're doing. Too easy to make the girl get cold feet because she'll feel like you expect sex to happen if she's not ready

3) After she told you she could only do a date after Wednesday it would have been wiser to text like every 2-3 days with light flirty banter and as the day got closer you'll soft close her to she if she's down for a fun date

4) And did she ghost you or was the last text something not worth responding too? If a girl leaves you on read you can circle back later like again 2-3 day later with a low investment ping and you build back momentum again

5) There was no need to say "goodbye" and her texting you her name is an invitation to start convo again. It's called a ping bro and girls do it all the time. Also look at your calendar, isn't it close to Wednesday?

Girl is clearly on the fence but I think you shouldn't throw in the towel too early because could learn a lot with her while you continue to meet other girls that could be more compliant

 

[Spyce D]

Also look at your calendar, isn't it close to Wednesday?

I was talking about last Wednesday.

And did she ghost you or was the last text something not responding too? If a girl leaves you on read you can circle back later like again 2-3 day later with a low investment ping and you build back momentum again

She didn't even see my messager From last Wednesday till yesterday.

Not a good idea to go overly sexual on text if you don't know what you're doing. Too easy to make the girl get cold feet because she'll feel like you expect sex to happen if she's not ready

Yeah ... I thought that cuz she was receptive so it was good .

Won't happen again.

First bad sign was when she gave you her insta instead of phone number

Yeah ... I did ask for her number but she wasn't giving it .

After she told you she could only do a date after Wednesday it would have been wiser to text like every 2-3 days with light flirty banter and as the day got closer you'll soft close her to she if she's down for a fun date

Will remember this from next time ...

There was no need to say "goodbye" and her texting you her name is an invitation to start convo again. It's called a ping bro and girls do it all the time.

I was like really sad ...and was very sick too at the same time . So , got a bit emotional about it .

Girl is clearly on the fence but I think you shouldn't throw in the towel too early because could learn a lot with her while you continue to meet other girls that could be more compliant

I won't throw in the towel then ...let's see how far I can take it with her .

This time ... I will do things without any expectations .

 

[Spyce D]

Any idea what should I text her , now ?

@TomInHo

 

[Spyce D]

Update : i sent her a text ( basically a pattern interruptor ) that is wildly opposite to who I am .

Within 2 hours ...she texted me these 3 messages ( which are in my favour )

It seems like we might have had a miscommunication.


So , I just texted her to lmk when she is free to call .

Thanks @TomInHo

 

[Spyce D]

So .... I ended up having a 2 hour Instagram call with her... Last night.


She is interested in meeting me ...

But cuz I am sick so told her that we will meet when I completely fit ( A few more days ).

I talked like 20% of the time .

Deep dived her , have her emotional spikes , had a non judgemental attitude , didn't boast anything about me .....

Actually teased her that how she is taking me to a date , how she is going to take care of me financially , pay my bills etc .

Obviously , it's a joke but I did it to get myself in lover category .

She talked about her previous dates .... I only listened ...and make some remarks here and there ( but did not tease her )

Actually , told her how her date was really good match for her lol. She feigned offence.

She actually told me that I am quite different from when we met initially and how I am different from other guys .


There is lot I can write ... But .... I don't want to .

Anyways , hopefully ... I will fix a meeting with her within these 7 days ( given I recover fully ... As I don't wanna cough in her mouth while kissing )

 

[Spyce D]

Have made plans to meet up with her ... this Saturday.

This is going to be my first ever date from Daygame .

But ...will this be my first ever lay ?

Stay tuned .

 

[Spyce D]

No kiss

No lay .

There was lot of touching ....but I was a bit scared to kiss .

Anyways....date was fun .

Flirting
Teasing
Deep diving

Was there .

There was a lot of contact.

But such is life .

She spoke more than me . She spent a bit more than me .....but anyways..it was fun .

Nice learning lesson .

Maybe we might meet again ....but I font see her more than a fuckbuddy .

So need more leads .

 

[Spyce D]

Just learned some valuable lessons.

Move fast with women .

I can't take it slow like a tortoise.

Dont sex chat out of blue .

I did it to take the risk ( either to get in or out ) ...the chick politely rejected but said she like the vibe between us ..so is ok to still talk with me .

She rejected by saying that she is not in the headspace ...

I was still able to handle the rejection over text .... And change the course of convo .

Currently , I am confused about my standing with this girl .

This chick is receptive and all ....but there has to be a limit .... It's been more than 2 weeks ....I don't want to invest my time and mind on her anymore .

All she is doing is making me confused .

Whether it was on date where she talked a lot about sex ....but wanted to leave early for home .

Actually.... I don't know what will happen....all I smell is b.s. from her rejection .

Should have called instead of talking all this stuff over text .

Need to screen out time wasters from life .