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So I was out with my wings 2 weeks ago and towards the end of the night as I was exiting one of the crowded and popular clubs, I noticed a cute girl standing by herself outside with my peripheral vision. I slowly walked past her, put on an authoritative stance and then slowly scanned the whole bar street and nightlife as if I was checking to see if everything was in order, then calmly placed myself next to this girl making sure she was looking at me before our eyes met and then said something along the lines of "Do they have to turn up the music so damn loud in here?" to which she was immediately and positively responsive: "I know right!? I just had to take a break and go outside."
Then I found out that she had gone out to celebrate her friend's 21st birthday. I assumed that she was a tad bit younger than me and she had a natural kind of cute look that I really like so things were going good from my side. Then at some point she added "You've got a really sexy accent but don't tell this to my date" with a sly smile. At that point I thought it was game on, so I just locked eyes with her and brought her close to me as I caressed her with my armed wrapped around her waist. I was just teasing her and talking about random stuff and American politics when a random dude appeared by my side. He was about 10 cm shorter than me but was ripped as fuck. I knew he was trying to get in the conversation but it didn't really phase me at all and I seriously thought that he was a random drunk guy that was either whiteknighting or trying to take advantage of the situation of an opened girl. After a short while that dude made a comment about my conversation with the girl, and the girl broke circle first and told him curtly "I'm talking to him, you're not in the conversation" then told me "He's my date" to which I just kind of shrugged my shoulders as if to disregard his social blunder. Deep down, I was imagining scenarios of this guy getting angry or even throwing a sucker punch at me for pulling his date right in front of him so I made sure he was still in my peripheral vision.
After I realized it was too late to pull this girl directly home with me with this dude hanging around, she said she was getting ready to leave and told me she liked talking to me. I said "Oh, if only there was a way to keep in contact with people you've just met." then she threw a quick smile at me and said let's exchange Facebook, I reacted as if she asked to send me a pigeon or something and told her that we should exchange phone numbers. She asked me to take my phone out, it was at this point I made a mistake and said that I didn't have my phone with me (I actually did have it) and that she should take hers out and put my number in. She said that her phone's battery had died. FUCK. So in my head I'm thinking of possible options, and realized I had no way to record her info other than memorizing her name and adding her on Facebook. But she had a long and weird European name. All of a sudden she took the phone out of her date's hands and then gave it to me, so I put my name in the Notes app there and hugged her goodbye. Thinking that 99% that dude is going to delete it and telling myself to not make the same mistake of lying about not having my phone with me just so she invests by putting my number in hers.
Next day I randomly get a new friend request from her on FB. I send her a message saying "What a pleasant surprise!" and she says that she's very happy that I think that way. And she asks me how the rest of my night was, and I reply with something boring and like an average guy, and asked her "how her night was" back...argh. no response for a day.
So I step it up and next day ask her to meet me in the city center with some callback humor thrown in for good measure, she responds well and quickly and we set up a date.
She flakes on me 1 day before the date with no apology or anything "I'm not gonna make it! Maybe tomorrow?" to which I say "I've got a full schedule tomorrow, are you free Friday onwards?" and we set up a new date.
I ask her to bring some iced tea along as flake prevention 1 hour before and she asks me why, and I tell her that we'll have an adventure by the lake. She agrees to do so and I meet her in the city center. HERE'S WHERE SHIT GETS WEIRD. I try to build rapport with this girl but it was so fucking difficult to find any commonalities with her and she was pretty unagreeable throughout the whole date. I ask her what she's currently up to and she tells me she's been sending her CVs everywhere to find a job. So I ask her what she's looking to do and tells me she was working at a desk job in a gym and she wants to continue doing that. So I quickly change topics realizing this girl does not have high aspirations or any dreams or passions or any higher education, thinking that there's something that we can talk about. BAM after 5 minutes she brings back the topic of the night we met, so I'm thinking all is fine, with callback humor again and then she tells me "I went home with that guy afterwards, but he kicked me out in the morning" with an impish smile. Like what the fuck girl. Of course I stay non reactive because some months ago I had a tinder date which talked about 5 other guys she fucked or ex-bfs in our dinner, so it wasn't the first time I experienced this.
Then she says "Oops, am I sharing too much" with little social grace, and I just laugh it off and do my bored look. Finally as we get close to the lake she casually mentions that she HAS A FUCKING SON. Holy shitballs. I act like it's still not a big deal and not even address the fact that she mentioned that, but later realize it's probably not a good idea (similar as to how when a girl casually mentions her bf, it's not best to ignore). So we lay down by the lake and continue talking and then she shit tests me one moment, noticing I was looking at her: "Stop staring at my face like that!" and then saying "I'll forgive you this time" with a smile. I should have teased her back but I admit I fucked up. Then as I was thinking about all 10 topics in the world that I had in common with this girl and that we could talk about she mentions that she likes a certain type of dish. And I mention that I love cooking that so I invite her to make that. She agrees to the plan so I quickly pack my things and we had to the supermarket and then back to my place.
I knew the clock was ticking when we entered my place, I have a rule that I must kiss them within 10 minutes. I put some water to boil while we chill a bit in the balcony. Then I go back to the kitchen to prepare a sauce, command her to come over and taste it. One indication that things weren't going to go well was that she immediately grabbed a spoon herself to taste the sauce without waiting for me to use the spoon I was working with. So my small "trick" of letting girls taste something and then tasting their lips to check
wasn't going too well. Nevertheless I ignored the fact that she messed up my routine, let her taste some of the sauce from my hands, to which she said it tasted amazing, got a bit closer to her and then went in for a kiss as I brought her close to me with my hands, so I guess kind of like a manhandle kiss. But she backed away and then quietly said "No". So I acted as if I had not done that, without skipping a beat and asked her "More mint in the sauce?" and then continued preparing the food. DAMN. My ears were all hot and red, because this was the first time a girl had ever refused to kiss me back at my place and I couldn't prevent my anxiety completely so it was showing through with my redness on my face.
Then I brought the food to the balcony, and we ate with little talking in between, except when she started talking about her ex boyfriends again and asked me if two people can stay friends after break up and stuff. At one point I asked whether she was friends with the father of her child and then she said no it was another ex. Most of this stuff was outside my comfort zone but I kept reminding myself how far I can take this and get reference points. She has probably been with 30 to 40 guys in my opinion. I tried to stay non-judgmental but I feel like being non-judgmental and non-reactive, some promiscuous girls take advantage of this to fuck my frame and talk about their past experiences and the guys they fucked. So I would love to get some advice to counteract this.
When she started talking more about useless stuff and I was certain I couldn't deep dive her (dive into where?) or talk about anything remotely interesting (even though both her parents were artists, she didn't care too much about art so that wasn't an option) I got slightly agitated internally for her having wasted my time. After the food she asked if she could take the leftover food for her kid, so I put it in a bag and felt really weird about it. Hell's sake she even had a baby seat on her bicycle (common for mothers in here, but they're usually in their 30s not 21 years old single moms).
So I hugged her goodbye and sat on the balcony to let all of that sink in. I checked her Facebook profile and saw that she was born about a month before me and saw photos of her with her child. She completely shattered my assumptions of her in the worst way possible, because when I opened her the worst I expected was some spoiled high school girl (albeit one that is cute as fuck) that loved to talk about stupid stuff and would do a starfish act in bed, haha.
Thanks for reading, I'd love to hear if you guys have any tips or similar experiences to this.
Then I found out that she had gone out to celebrate her friend's 21st birthday. I assumed that she was a tad bit younger than me and she had a natural kind of cute look that I really like so things were going good from my side. Then at some point she added "You've got a really sexy accent but don't tell this to my date" with a sly smile. At that point I thought it was game on, so I just locked eyes with her and brought her close to me as I caressed her with my armed wrapped around her waist. I was just teasing her and talking about random stuff and American politics when a random dude appeared by my side. He was about 10 cm shorter than me but was ripped as fuck. I knew he was trying to get in the conversation but it didn't really phase me at all and I seriously thought that he was a random drunk guy that was either whiteknighting or trying to take advantage of the situation of an opened girl. After a short while that dude made a comment about my conversation with the girl, and the girl broke circle first and told him curtly "I'm talking to him, you're not in the conversation" then told me "He's my date" to which I just kind of shrugged my shoulders as if to disregard his social blunder. Deep down, I was imagining scenarios of this guy getting angry or even throwing a sucker punch at me for pulling his date right in front of him so I made sure he was still in my peripheral vision.
After I realized it was too late to pull this girl directly home with me with this dude hanging around, she said she was getting ready to leave and told me she liked talking to me. I said "Oh, if only there was a way to keep in contact with people you've just met." then she threw a quick smile at me and said let's exchange Facebook, I reacted as if she asked to send me a pigeon or something and told her that we should exchange phone numbers. She asked me to take my phone out, it was at this point I made a mistake and said that I didn't have my phone with me (I actually did have it) and that she should take hers out and put my number in. She said that her phone's battery had died. FUCK. So in my head I'm thinking of possible options, and realized I had no way to record her info other than memorizing her name and adding her on Facebook. But she had a long and weird European name. All of a sudden she took the phone out of her date's hands and then gave it to me, so I put my name in the Notes app there and hugged her goodbye. Thinking that 99% that dude is going to delete it and telling myself to not make the same mistake of lying about not having my phone with me just so she invests by putting my number in hers.
Next day I randomly get a new friend request from her on FB. I send her a message saying "What a pleasant surprise!" and she says that she's very happy that I think that way. And she asks me how the rest of my night was, and I reply with something boring and like an average guy, and asked her "how her night was" back...argh. no response for a day.
So I step it up and next day ask her to meet me in the city center with some callback humor thrown in for good measure, she responds well and quickly and we set up a date.
She flakes on me 1 day before the date with no apology or anything "I'm not gonna make it! Maybe tomorrow?" to which I say "I've got a full schedule tomorrow, are you free Friday onwards?" and we set up a new date.
I ask her to bring some iced tea along as flake prevention 1 hour before and she asks me why, and I tell her that we'll have an adventure by the lake. She agrees to do so and I meet her in the city center. HERE'S WHERE SHIT GETS WEIRD. I try to build rapport with this girl but it was so fucking difficult to find any commonalities with her and she was pretty unagreeable throughout the whole date. I ask her what she's currently up to and she tells me she's been sending her CVs everywhere to find a job. So I ask her what she's looking to do and tells me she was working at a desk job in a gym and she wants to continue doing that. So I quickly change topics realizing this girl does not have high aspirations or any dreams or passions or any higher education, thinking that there's something that we can talk about. BAM after 5 minutes she brings back the topic of the night we met, so I'm thinking all is fine, with callback humor again and then she tells me "I went home with that guy afterwards, but he kicked me out in the morning" with an impish smile. Like what the fuck girl. Of course I stay non reactive because some months ago I had a tinder date which talked about 5 other guys she fucked or ex-bfs in our dinner, so it wasn't the first time I experienced this.
Then she says "Oops, am I sharing too much" with little social grace, and I just laugh it off and do my bored look. Finally as we get close to the lake she casually mentions that she HAS A FUCKING SON. Holy shitballs. I act like it's still not a big deal and not even address the fact that she mentioned that, but later realize it's probably not a good idea (similar as to how when a girl casually mentions her bf, it's not best to ignore). So we lay down by the lake and continue talking and then she shit tests me one moment, noticing I was looking at her: "Stop staring at my face like that!" and then saying "I'll forgive you this time" with a smile. I should have teased her back but I admit I fucked up. Then as I was thinking about all 10 topics in the world that I had in common with this girl and that we could talk about she mentions that she likes a certain type of dish. And I mention that I love cooking that so I invite her to make that. She agrees to the plan so I quickly pack my things and we had to the supermarket and then back to my place.
I knew the clock was ticking when we entered my place, I have a rule that I must kiss them within 10 minutes. I put some water to boil while we chill a bit in the balcony. Then I go back to the kitchen to prepare a sauce, command her to come over and taste it. One indication that things weren't going to go well was that she immediately grabbed a spoon herself to taste the sauce without waiting for me to use the spoon I was working with. So my small "trick" of letting girls taste something and then tasting their lips to check
wasn't going too well. Nevertheless I ignored the fact that she messed up my routine, let her taste some of the sauce from my hands, to which she said it tasted amazing, got a bit closer to her and then went in for a kiss as I brought her close to me with my hands, so I guess kind of like a manhandle kiss. But she backed away and then quietly said "No". So I acted as if I had not done that, without skipping a beat and asked her "More mint in the sauce?" and then continued preparing the food. DAMN. My ears were all hot and red, because this was the first time a girl had ever refused to kiss me back at my place and I couldn't prevent my anxiety completely so it was showing through with my redness on my face. Then I brought the food to the balcony, and we ate with little talking in between, except when she started talking about her ex boyfriends again and asked me if two people can stay friends after break up and stuff. At one point I asked whether she was friends with the father of her child and then she said no it was another ex. Most of this stuff was outside my comfort zone but I kept reminding myself how far I can take this and get reference points. She has probably been with 30 to 40 guys in my opinion. I tried to stay non-judgmental but I feel like being non-judgmental and non-reactive, some promiscuous girls take advantage of this to fuck my frame and talk about their past experiences and the guys they fucked. So I would love to get some advice to counteract this.
When she started talking more about useless stuff and I was certain I couldn't deep dive her (dive into where?) or talk about anything remotely interesting (even though both her parents were artists, she didn't care too much about art so that wasn't an option) I got slightly agitated internally for her having wasted my time. After the food she asked if she could take the leftover food for her kid, so I put it in a bag and felt really weird about it. Hell's sake she even had a baby seat on her bicycle (common for mothers in here, but they're usually in their 30s not 21 years old single moms).
So I hugged her goodbye and sat on the balcony to let all of that sink in. I checked her Facebook profile and saw that she was born about a month before me and saw photos of her with her child. She completely shattered my assumptions of her in the worst way possible, because when I opened her the worst I expected was some spoiled high school girl (albeit one that is cute as fuck) that loved to talk about stupid stuff and would do a starfish act in bed, haha.
Thanks for reading, I'd love to hear if you guys have any tips or similar experiences to this.
