She said she's seeing someone, ghosted

[dingdong]

Hey folks
So i daygamed this girl yesterday. She said she was seeing someone, but that they weren't exclusive, when i asked her on a date, and i said give me your number and i'll shoot you a text and you can think it over and she said alright.


Our text convo looks like this:
Me: Hey name, nice to meet you! -name

Her: Hi name, you too! I think you were really brave but like i said i'm seeing someone at the moment, so it would be rude of me to go on a date, even though you seem really sweet!

Me: Hey name! Thank you Hmm i'm seeing alot of people too. My family, my friends, my colleagues, my classmates etc., but therefore i would still like to meet up with you and get to know you better!


She haven't responded to that text. As a friend of mine pointed out, i sent her too much words, i should have made it shorter, but it wasn't that bad he said.

My question is: Do i just leave it at that and wait for her to get back to me or do i shoot her another text, and by that double text?

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

I usually daygame 5 times a week and get 1 to 3 numbers a day AND/OR an instant date. so pump up your numbers and shitty problems like this one will disappear

 

[trashKENNUT]

so it would be rude of me to go on a date, even though you seem really sweet!

You can try because she gives you her number but I think I try to hit her back again in 6 months because you already sent her that text.

 

[dingdong]

You can try because she gives you her number but I think I try to hit her back again in 6 months because you already sent her that text.

Putting it on a slow boil, yeah? Was thinking the same thing. She also could be start acting different around this guy she's seeing, because of my approach, and he will fail her shit tests and eventually she will contact me because she decided to end it with him. I will text her in some months time.

 

[ulrich]

Yeah, it seems she is not open to dating.
Perhaps you could have made a better impression but still I think you would likely have reached the same result.

I would add her to social networks (if you use them) to know just a little better about her life in case you want to try again in some months.

Still, treat this one as an almost lost case.

 

[dingdong]

I have nothing to gain by double texting for now and chasing now. She will come to me. And if not, maybe hit her up in some months, if i'm not super busy fucking other girls (which i probably will be )

 

[Chase]

@Peterdk234,

So i daygamed this girl yesterday. She said she was seeing someone, but that they weren't exclusive, when i asked her on a date, and i said give me your number and i'll shoot you a text and you can think it over and she said alright.

You know, this is not bad... but I'd have nailed her down a little more on her answer in-person, probably.

e.g.,:

You: Let's grab a bite sometime.​

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Her: Well, I'm seeing someone, but we're not exclusive.​

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You: Sounds like you're new to this whole arrangement.​

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Her: Haha, not really, I just wanted to be honest.​

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You: Haha, okay. Well let's take it slow. We'll just get a drink or a coffee or something harmless and go from there.​

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Her: Okay!​

A little bit of pacing like this, where you show her you're comfortable with the arrangement and understand her concerns, plus getting her buy-in before you take her info (i.e., she has actually agreed to the date) helps a lot.

With this girl, she did not answer your question (about whether she'd go out with you or not)... however, she did say she was MAYBE available, then trialed letting you know about 'her system'.

If she feels you're okay with it, know what the deal is, and are going to go at her speed (which might still be quite fast, once she's on the date with you and you're turning her on and taking her through the seduction), you're a lot more likely to get her to confirm the date first, then not flake on it later when you move to set it up.

Chase