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Hey guys,
Hoping for advice.
I have a girl I've known for ~5 months. Took the 1st month to sleep with her. Then I left her home city so we spent 1 month apart, and after that I invited her to meet me in Mexico. She came and ended up staying for 2 months because we had such a good time together. But every once in a while she'd tell me that she doesn't know why she's with me - she likes me so much, but she wants a serious relationship in her life and doesn't think it's possible with me. She feels she's wasting her time and disrespecting herself. Now we've been apart again for a month. I'm on the other side of the world from her, have 2 other girls I'm regularly sleeping with (but don't really care about) plus others in the pipeline, but am planning to return to her city in maybe 2 months or so and was really looking forward to spending more time with her.
Yesterday she told me that she's not happy. She wants something serious. She is interested in me, but can see that I'm not ready to give her what she wants. Meanwhile, it's hard for her to meet other guys as long as she's hung up on me. Basically she's ready to cut contact.
Now on my end, it's true that I'm not ready to settle down. But she's also my favorite girl I've met in years. Just really a good fit for me on every level. She's the only girl I've met in years that I'd consider something more serious with. But I definitely can't promise that to her right now from the other side of the world. We'd need to wait until I return to her city and then see where things go. Lastly, even if we did start something more serious, I feel that it wouldn't last forever. I improve at attracting women noticeably every few months. In addition, my work is going well and I believe in a few years I'll be in the top echelon of success. All that to say that as much as I like her, I do see myself one day ending up with a girl who would belong on some magazine cover. Plus I feel there are many girls out there I still would like to explore. So if I were to start a relationship with her, I feel that it would be great for a few months and then eventually she would get hurt.
So what's the right thing to do here? I care a lot for her, feel like we're such a good match, and after 2 months living together she's also one of the closest people to me in the world. Really want her to stay a part of my life. But I also want to do right by her.
Hoping for advice.
I have a girl I've known for ~5 months. Took the 1st month to sleep with her. Then I left her home city so we spent 1 month apart, and after that I invited her to meet me in Mexico. She came and ended up staying for 2 months because we had such a good time together. But every once in a while she'd tell me that she doesn't know why she's with me - she likes me so much, but she wants a serious relationship in her life and doesn't think it's possible with me. She feels she's wasting her time and disrespecting herself. Now we've been apart again for a month. I'm on the other side of the world from her, have 2 other girls I'm regularly sleeping with (but don't really care about) plus others in the pipeline, but am planning to return to her city in maybe 2 months or so and was really looking forward to spending more time with her.
Yesterday she told me that she's not happy. She wants something serious. She is interested in me, but can see that I'm not ready to give her what she wants. Meanwhile, it's hard for her to meet other guys as long as she's hung up on me. Basically she's ready to cut contact.
Now on my end, it's true that I'm not ready to settle down. But she's also my favorite girl I've met in years. Just really a good fit for me on every level. She's the only girl I've met in years that I'd consider something more serious with. But I definitely can't promise that to her right now from the other side of the world. We'd need to wait until I return to her city and then see where things go. Lastly, even if we did start something more serious, I feel that it wouldn't last forever. I improve at attracting women noticeably every few months. In addition, my work is going well and I believe in a few years I'll be in the top echelon of success. All that to say that as much as I like her, I do see myself one day ending up with a girl who would belong on some magazine cover. Plus I feel there are many girls out there I still would like to explore. So if I were to start a relationship with her, I feel that it would be great for a few months and then eventually she would get hurt.
So what's the right thing to do here? I care a lot for her, feel like we're such a good match, and after 2 months living together she's also one of the closest people to me in the world. Really want her to stay a part of my life. But I also want to do right by her.
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