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Should I be friends with my ex? Can I even do that?

nad_bigger

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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We were together for 8 months. I fucked her on a first date and she has been coming over every sunday, and each time I fucked her 5-7 times. (jeez, english tenses are hard). Every second of It was absolutely incredible.
She is very cute, good body, super charismatic with great sense of humor. She could be a Pewdiepie level youtuber I think. It was super entertaining to watch her play RE2
She is incredible human being and I wish her all the best things in the world.

She has low self esteem, that is one of the biggest reasons we broke up, no matter how much I tried to fix it, she had big attainability issues, like she told me in the begining: "in one month you won't even remember me". Or jokingly closing my eyes with her hand "stop staring at me".

We only had arguments in the middle of the week over whatsapp, never in person. And they started only after about 5-6 month.
We broke up about a month ago over some heavy argument, several times I tried to get back together, but she was reluctant, she is probably still mad at me.

I don't want to continue be with her or to continue fucking her, because I want to go and fuck better and better girls, but I do want to be able to talk to her once in a while and know how are things.

I hold absolutely no grudge, maybe because of those 8 dates I've been since a break up, so if I saw her on a street, I would want to hug and kiss her on a forehead.

Is it possible to be friends or impossible? I am higher value than her, and in time my value will explode even further, so I want to just give her my love like you would pet a stray cat. You want to scratch her ear, but getting her to vet and bringing her home is far too much trouble/

and yes, I never stopped gaming for a second during those 8 month, did 1250+ approaches during that time, but she doesn't know about that
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

silenceinthesnow

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Nad_bigger, I'm not sure how popular my opinion on this will be but you can still be friends with your ex. It wouldn't be recommended considering the first thing you should do is cut contact after a breakup but if you're both in the right state there's no reason you can't be friends.

The only way this is possible is if you're 100% happy with this. She could be beneficial to you in the friend zone, but watch for any hidden agendas. If she's doing this as a way to get you back as a boyfriend it's not healthy for either of you.

I'm friends with an ex from years ago, we had mutual friends from social circle so there's been times when it's been unavoidable however we can coexist alone together. She's met some of the girls in my life since and there's been no issues.

There is a slight issue with us where we still have some chemistry and things have happened. (We were a love at first sight encounter so our passion occasionally runs hot) Ironically last night... it helps we're not in constant contact and hang out maybe 5 times a year.

It's not recommended but you can do it if it's what you want. If there's a hidden agenda you have to cut them from your life. I personally don't contact my ex's, even the ones I'm friendly with. I'm sociable with them if they contact me and I think that's the right balance.
 
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