Should I even bother saving her in my phone?

[MaK]

But my most recent question asks, what to do/text when you don't know who is texting you

I'd text something like "bla bla bla... btw I forgot to save you on my phone, how do you spell your name?" that way it seems like you know her name, but just don't know how to spell it. I also use the same trick in person when I forget a girl's name by asking "how do you pronounce your name, again?".


I personally don't even bother saving a girl's name in my phone, as I already have her name in the text message conversation. And that way when a girl texts me, I don't see her name I just see a number... and after all seduction IS a numbers game. It reminds me that this girl texting me is just #3106549826 of the many girls out there



About every few months or so, I do a "check up and ask out" sweep of all the numbers in my phone that haven't lead to sex (which is pretty much all of them right now LOL), and if they are uncooperative then I delete the clutter that is their text message conversation. There be too many cute girls around to let the unresponsive ones clog up my phone!!

 

[Smith]

Her [9]: hey what you up to?
I [2]: Hey sorry was out whos this again?
I [10]: I'll call u lucy, like lucy liu, then
I [12]: U want me to call u lucy, or u gona tell me ur real name?

lol my reply would've been : "Hey I wud tell u, but I lost all my phone contacts a while ago, so I'm not sure if ur my ex or not"

But my most recent question asks, what to do/text when you don't know who is texting you.

depends on what they text u. but be witty in ur reply so she doesn't get offended.

- Smith

 

[Godsninja]

There be too many cute girls around to let the unresponsive ones clog up my phone!!

That's partly where I am coming from too. I do this with some girls and recently made it way easier for myself too; simply by pushing up I can create a message. That's a perfect solution, "forgot to save you in my phone whats you're name again?". You think it would be ok to ask for a full name, to make it more genuine?

Smith, I used to do that (claim I got a new phone, or lost my contacts), but I don't like to lie, and plus it kinda got old for me. Plus they might find out, which would be terrible, as I hate people who lie.

 

[Rhaegar]

I've recently deleted every girls number off my phone, to force myself to go out there and meet new girls.

There's thousands of hot girls in your city, who cares about some old phone number that didn't work out? Delete it and go out there and meet new girls.

 

[Smith]

"forgot to save you in my phone whats you're name again?"

lol thats still lying but in a way that they'll never find out. But that just might work. Field test it.

 

[Godsninja]

If I delete them from my phone, then I could still argue that I forgot to add them again after I deleted them...uhhh..ya?

;P

 

[Smith]

If I delete them from my phone, then I could still argue that I forgot to add them again after I deleted them...uhhh..ya?

;P

LOL u could be a politician.

 

[MisterX]

Tomi,

I don't get it. What's your issue here? Does your phone not have enough memory?

Most higher-quality phones duplicate the address book to the Cloud these days. If you can't afford that, at least record the numbers you get in your approach log, so that you're not stuck in these ridiculous situations.

If I were that girl, I'd never speak to you again. How insulting to delete her number.

Like I said I have 80+ numbers and counting from cold approach so far and I never intend to delete any of them. What's the point?

-Marty

I get what he's doing and there are several things here:
- for some guys it's a pride thing - you feel insulted when a girl goes cold on you and stops answering. So why would you want to keep contact with her.
- you're just too busy for time-wasters
- it makes you think "how do I get that/those girls who don't respond" rather than "I just need to go out and approach more girls"



I also delete numbers that are cold or things haven't worked out. My phone has 32gigs of memory so it's not that (haha). It's simply the thing. Why do you need 80+ numbers if you'll never get to bed those girls? If they are not responding to you, flaking, rejecting to go out with you what reason do you have for keeping their numbers?

Just to make your self feel like "the man" for having 80+ numbers of girls, and bragging to your mates? Chasing those girls by texting them every few months and hoping she won't reject you at another point? Keep those bad memories of the girls who rejected you?


I believe in Don't chase 'em, Replace 'em. If she's not responsive, rejects me, doesn't want to go out - I get it. I might be one of 1000 reasons, but I don't really care and I don't continue investing any of my time on her. And honestly if she rejects you and you keep trying to contact her (even 1 message every 5-6 months) still is you chasing her and hoping she decides to go out with you.
And it paints the picture that you don't have abundance (why else would you keep her number?) and that you haven't had success with girls in the past months or you'd be too busy to contact her again.

That's why I delete numbers if she in unresponsive (I message her, then once more 3-4 days later) and if she doesn't respond or keeps avoiding meeting up - DELETE NUMBER. Why waste time on 80+ numbers when I can go out and approach 80+ girls in few days.



It subtly seems that since you never intend to delete those numbers, you still don't have an abundance mentality and you're putting importance on those numbers and those girls. You need to let go my friend

I got a text from a number last night and didn't know who it was (wasn't saved in phone), so I'm wondering what to do in the future if this happens? This is what I said, and I know it's wrong, but I dono what else to do, lmao...

Her [9]: hey what you up to?
I [2]: Hey sorry was out whos this again?
I [10]: I'll call u lucy, like lucy liu, then
I [12]: U want me to call u lucy, or u gona tell me ur real name?

I texted her back right when I saw the msg. I also know I shouldnta texted 3 times in a row, but usually when I ask who they are, I don't get a text back, like they aren't interested in me anymore simply because I didn't save their fucking number in my phone. I think it's a completely ridiculous idea. So..I tried to fix it by calling them something (lucy in this case) so I can at least call them something...hmm..

Any suggestions? Should I just NOT ASK? Like, hey yea, lets meet up at this coffee shop x. I dono..

This happens to me since I delete numbers and it's funny. I've talked about me being an asshole some times like in this case:
- a girl who was unresponsive and I deleted her number.
- she messaged me 2 weeks later and I said I didn't know who she was.
- she asked if I had deleted her number
- I (still not knowing who was messaging me) said that I delete numbers of people I don't feel I can get along with
- She told me who she was but I didn't see a point in having a conversation

- a couple of months later I got messages to wish me happy birth day and one of them was a number I didn't have saved.
- I said "thanks but I have no idea who you are"
- she said kinda mad "It about time you put my number in your phone - it's really rude"
- I responded with "I still have no idea who you are, but if I've deleted your number it's for a reason that you don't deserve me to put you in my phone"
- she said "stop being and asshole, it's ******* "
- I said "okay cool but I'm busy these days so I don't have much time to chit-chat"
- she responded with "I doubt you're so busy you don't have time for a few messages"
- I said "here's the thing, there are people in my life who are a priority for me and I spend some of my free time with them, there are also people who are not a priority because they haven't earned it yet or have lost it. Those people are on a back burner and a rarely have time for them"

Funny thing is she kept messaging me and we slept together, though she started having feelings and I kinda broke her heart.


But the bold sentence above is really important - there are people who are a priority for you : family, friends, girlfriend or FWB, girl you're dating.
The people who are not a priority like girls who are not responding or are flaking are not of much importance. If you are busy you'll never have time to even bother with them. And if you have time to chase after 80+ girls, I suggest you find a hobby or ambition



X

 

[Godsninja]

Yea MisterX you hit the nail on the head. I thought you were being a little too polar opposite, but your right, and I bet it's something that really works with your personality.

"I delete numbers of people I don't feel I can get along with" was when I was thinking it's too much... but you really put it home man. DNCing some numbers you're not sure are lost, would probably be a good idea, but it might not be you.

Being straight forward is also one that jumped out. It's over text, so there is no more direct way to say that she hasn't earned precious kilobytes in your phone than by saying "I don't know who are you". Hmm. If you actually think about it, it sort of turns the table. Imagine when you text (or have texted) a girl, and she says "I don't know who you are" or "who are you", it TOTALLY feels like you are chasing!

Thanks for the reply MisterX, you definitely stumbled on something. I think I'm going to test this out, even with girls that I HAVE saved on my phone

I don't blame Marty for saving the numbers though because girls are indecisive, and as long as you don't text the numbers too often (it can be easy to do this, especially for me), they may become hot leads, just like that. There are some ways I've heard that you can do this through text, but I personally haven't had any success through words on an LED/LCD screen, ever in my life.

Nice responses!!!

 

[A2daMIR]

If a girl doesn't text me back after we go on a date, even after I try to phone her, should I just delete her number from my phone? I've always done this to people who don't text me, I don't see the point of their phone number being on my cellular device if they don't want to talk to me, or refuse to text me back. Everyone. No exceptions. Should I be thinking twice?

To be a PUA, its way more than to remebering 100 pickup lines or reading every single technique in the book. Being a PUA is much deeper than that. Some it you cant teach, some you can, but almost all of them you can practise and become better at.

Self control is one of the criteria for a PUA. You need to have a strong will in my opinion. You delting a number off of your phone because she didnt text you back is absolutely immature in my opinion. Yes chances are that you two will never communicate again and you wont "need" her number again, but its small steps like this which helps you build up your willpower and self control. You shouldnt need to go delete her off of your facebook and delete her number and pictures, no, instead you simply shouldnt give a fuck. I have over 5000 entries on my contact list, i never delete anyone from my phone, i dont need to. if im "done" with a girl, IM done with the phone, i dont need to go and delete any shred of her existance from my life.

 

[Tim Iron]

I prefer just deleting the phone number of a lady who would not respond to my calls or text. What's the point, even if she calls me back later, I just make it easier on myself {tell her to call me when she is free to meet - and then ask her to come over to my place if she asks for a meet}. Why keep her phone number when she is not responding to my calls and texts???

 

[A2daMIR]

Why keep her phone number when she is not responding to my calls and texts???

Why? FRAME

Thats the answer. Being a Alpha Male PUA is not just memorizing 100 lines and studying different techniques or whatever, its all in the FRAME you have.

The answer to your question is more of a philosophical answer in my opinion. Ok, so there is this girl that hasnt responded to your last N number of texts, and you decide that she is dead tto you. In my opinion, as an Alpha Male, your frame should be that OK im done with her and thats that. If you take it to the next step and delete her pics and number and block her or all of that stuff, in my opinion thats immature.

You're done with her? THEN BE DONE WITH HER, dont even spend 2 more minutes on her deleting/blocking or whatever else it is you want to do.

If you fear that if you dont delete her number, then you will keep sending her texts and make yourself look like a fool/stalker, then thats a different problem, and thats what im trying to address. Its small steps like this which will make you strengthen your will power and sense of self control, which IMO are essential to being successfull.

 

[Godsninja]

Another great reply, from A2daMIR. I keep saying (or just thinking) each reply is the greatest, but this one definitely addresses the route issue, and is again, bang right on the money.

Thanks A2daMIR