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Ive had a female friend for a few years. Shes young (20) and although we never dated, we had a strong attraction and connection in the beginning of our relationship. I wasn't aggressive enough and I missed my shot. She hasnt dated anyone else but shes been talking to a lot of guys and getting a lot of attention. Over the summer she fell VERY hard for this guy (hes young too). She was head over heels for him. I got jealous but I didnt show it and just let it be because i just wanted us to stay close. We lost touch but then she came back around few months ago. We got close again and She calls me pretty much everyday and we have great talks. She considers me the closest person to her and that i know her better than anyone. The other guy doesnt have the mental connection to her that i do but hes very good looking and she has the "butterflies and thrill" feeling she doesnt get from me from him for whatever reason.
Recently they had a falling out and things went bad. i was there for her (typical nice guy friendzone move) and by the end she told me that she knew she didnt want to be close to him anymore. She said hes immature and a loser jerk etc. She claims she cut him off. She told me he kissd her but she didnt want him to ( probably not true). But i did see her pull away from him and I felt her draw even closer to me. it was great. until this week.
I know she talked to him at the beginning of the week. She claimed it was to clear the air. But the day they talked was the first time she didnt call me back. She called the next day. She was very careful to barely mention him and underplayed anything they talked about. Today she called me and we had a good talk. However i can see on and app that we all use that shes been snapchatting him all night. Almost 100 snaps back and forth. Thats how the were everynight when they first met so Im figuring they must be back on together. She wont mention it to me though. It bothers me beacuse she used to tell me everything. I know she is just embarrassed since me and her friends all told her not to go back to him and that hes not a good guy. She swore she agreed and never would go back. So i think shes lying to not seem like she fell back in.
My question is: Do i mention to her that i know she's back talking to him and that im not trying to judge her. Id rather know whats going on and be close instead of her having to hide things. Im afraid if I push the issue she will just back off me and think im coming on too strong and getting in her business. She tells me everything so I think i have a right and she tells me "if you see me doing something dumb tell me"
So should i just let it go and try to be her friend through it or should i call her out and let the cards fall as the will? I know i should probably leave it alone but Id almost rather it fall apart if shes going to live this double life type of deal. thanks for any help adn advice you might have
Recently they had a falling out and things went bad. i was there for her (typical nice guy friendzone move) and by the end she told me that she knew she didnt want to be close to him anymore. She said hes immature and a loser jerk etc. She claims she cut him off. She told me he kissd her but she didnt want him to ( probably not true). But i did see her pull away from him and I felt her draw even closer to me. it was great. until this week.
I know she talked to him at the beginning of the week. She claimed it was to clear the air. But the day they talked was the first time she didnt call me back. She called the next day. She was very careful to barely mention him and underplayed anything they talked about. Today she called me and we had a good talk. However i can see on and app that we all use that shes been snapchatting him all night. Almost 100 snaps back and forth. Thats how the were everynight when they first met so Im figuring they must be back on together. She wont mention it to me though. It bothers me beacuse she used to tell me everything. I know she is just embarrassed since me and her friends all told her not to go back to him and that hes not a good guy. She swore she agreed and never would go back. So i think shes lying to not seem like she fell back in.
My question is: Do i mention to her that i know she's back talking to him and that im not trying to judge her. Id rather know whats going on and be close instead of her having to hide things. Im afraid if I push the issue she will just back off me and think im coming on too strong and getting in her business. She tells me everything so I think i have a right and she tells me "if you see me doing something dumb tell me"
So should i just let it go and try to be her friend through it or should i call her out and let the cards fall as the will? I know i should probably leave it alone but Id almost rather it fall apart if shes going to live this double life type of deal. thanks for any help adn advice you might have
