First 90 Days Should I talk to other girls to keep my game sharp + cones

[mike james]

Since Ive got into a relationship with my girl, everything is good. I have fun with her, we are comfortable with each other, and she obedient.

The thing that is bugging me is, I dont feel like we are in a relationship yet, since its only been a month that we are together. Also, this is my first relationship ever, so I am still figuring out how things work.

So the first thing Im noticing is that I dont FEEL like we are in a relationship. I guess its because I have never been in one, and its too early to feel
something like that.


The second thing is, I still have a fair amount of desire to talk to other girls, especially now, since summer is knocking on the door. I dont know if I just want to practice, or if I want to womanize while Im with her. Im a man of principles, and I look at our relationship in a rather serious way.

Meanwhile, I know that I would feel *safer* if I know that there are other girls out there for me. I know that that stems form my own insecurity, but maybe that is not a bad solution, since I think I would have the right behavior and approach to our relationship.


The third thing I dont like is that she has a very developed social life, contrary to myself right now. She has at least 4 male friends( 1 is gay, 1 is with her girl best friend), and a few friend groups. She likes to being social, and hanging out with her friends almost every day. Im not jealous, I just doubt that male and female can be real friends.


The last thing is, she sometimes takes a couple of hours to respond to my messages. I would like her to respond instantly, then I would feel like I got her, like shes only mine (but this is again my insecurity).
To be fair, she has recently started working and she cant use her phone except when she is on a break. But I think that she is still playing this litlle games when it comes to texting. She doesnt have manipulative nature, and I dont think that she is completely deliberate with her reponse time, but Im not dumb. I know girls use their phones all day, and that is impossible thah shes not seeing my texts. She is texting her gay ass friends live, while she is with me (sometimes, when we hang out for 5 6 hours)

She is a great girl, and I havent listed her virtues and attributes, so I know this looks a little onesided since this was a list of things I dont like about our relationship, but trust me I know how to read if shes worth a relathionship or not, I made a decison to be with her so lets see what happens.

I would like to hear your opinions and advices.

thnx.

 

[OldGuy]

1. I you don't feel there is a relationship, and she has not given you the "relationship" talk, you are not in one.
2. You should talk to and date other women, but don't flaunt it to her.
3. You need to develop a social life.
4. This always happens!
Question: Have you had sex with her?

 

[DArtagnan]

My 2 cents: from where I come originally (not US), there's always a "relationship talk" as OldGuy is saying. It can be started by either the girl or the guy. This makes things official, and establishes a closed relationship (unless you are an advanced player and can keep things open officially). Then there's no doubt about it, at least in theory.

In practice, I think you should observe the signs. If it is true, as you are saying, that the girl invests more time in her friends than in you, there's something wrong. This happened with my first relationship when I was 19. She was always investing a lot of time in her friends, female and male. Our relationship didn't last long. Four months without even reaching the sex point. We were both virgins at the time.