Should I tell girls I have other girls

[Miquel]

So this has been holding back my ability to take action for some time, this question is 2-part. First if I'm out approaching women is it best to not let a girl that I've already pulled see me pulling another girl or should I just not care about it because it's not that big of a deal? Second, when dealing with a girl say we may have had sex already or not but we've been texting or gone on a date or two, should I let her know that I'm seeing other women if she asks, should I tell her upfront before she asks or should I just act like I'm not seeing other women?

 

[ulrich]

Imply it but never confirm it.

She must feel that she has a real chance to get you if she plays her cards right.

She thinks there could be other women but she has an actual chance - Good
She knows for a fact there are other women and you prefer them - Bad
You tell them explicitly she is not your #1 option - Worst

 

[HoofHearted]

It is a very good idea to have girls you are intetested in see you talking to/being positive received by other girls.

It is a very bad idea to get into specifics when asked by a girl you have some type of connection with.

It is the worst idea to throw it in the face of any girl you care about or have an intimate connectioj with.

Discretion and consideration go a long long way.

 

[Chase]

@Miquel,

To add to the replies from @ulrich and @HoofHearted:

Just behave the way you think a guy with lots of women in his life would behave. Keep that picture in your mind and your behavior will correct itself almost automatically.

A guy with lots of women in his life:

• Is going to bring girls to his place, assuming he is single / not in a serious LTR, even if another girl might see it
  
  
• If he gets caught bringing another girl to his place by some FWB or prior ONS, is going to put on the charm with the first girl and reassure her (and maybe ditch the second girl mid-pull if he likes the first girl more, or else concoct some harmless little tale and go back to pulling the second girl if he likes the second girl more)
  
  
• Is going to show through his actions he likely has other women in his life, while putting on the charm with whatever woman he is with, i.e.:

HER: Are you seeing anyone else?​

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YOU: [old smoothy delivery] How could I even LOOK at another woman when I've got you?​

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HER: Uh-huh... [not believing you]​

Watch some movies or TV shows with a smoothie playboy in them if you need a role model to keep in mind.

Chase

 

[Ambiance]

Resurrecting this thread to clarify something.

Let's say Girl A is coming over later. Girl B is texting me and asking what I am doing tonight. How should I respond?

My default has been to give no indication about Girl A to Girl B with my response, but I feel like I am TOO good at hiding it. The closest I will come to alluding to what I will really be doing is nonchalantly saying something like, "Oh gonna be doing some cardio later".

I don't want to miss out on a *healthy* dose of jealousy or have Girl B think I'm just some normal schmuck! Anyone have a way you can have your cake and eat it too (double entendre not intended )?

 

[Funkus Maximus]

Resurrecting this thread to clarify something.

Let's say Girl A is coming over later. Girl B is texting me and asking what I am doing tonight. How should I respond?

My default has been to give no indication about Girl A to Girl B with my response, but I feel like I am TOO good at hiding it. The closest I will come to alluding to what I will really be doing is nonchalantly saying something like, "Oh gonna be doing some cardio later".

I don't want to miss out on a *healthy* dose of jealousy or have Girl B think I'm just some normal schmuck! Anyone have a way you can have your cake and eat it too (double entendre not intended )?

Hey man! When I read that it seems to me like you are having a good level of discretion right now, why jeopardise that? What's the benefit of injecting volatile jealousy in a stable situation? I don't have answers for you, just wondering why the "normal schmuck" perception is so harmful in this case?
Take care!

 

[TomInHo]

Resurrecting this thread to clarify something.

Let's say Girl A is coming over later. Girl B is texting me and asking what I am doing tonight. How should I respond?

My default has been to give no indication about Girl A to Girl B with my response, but I feel like I am TOO good at hiding it. The closest I will come to alluding to what I will really be doing is nonchalantly saying something like, "Oh gonna be doing some cardio later".

I don't want to miss out on a *healthy* dose of jealousy or have Girl B think I'm just some normal schmuck! Anyone have a way you can have your cake and eat it too (double entendre not intended )?

I just say I’m busy with something and propose a different day

That’s usually more than enough to get them suspicious because it’s not often men turn down easy pussy